Introducing ‘The Sun Chasers’


Friends are the family we wish we had. 

Some people are blessed with perfect parents, siblings, relatives… Some aren’t. 

Some find the beauty in their unique families. And let’s face it. We all have unique families.

And some make friends with those who they wish were in their family. 

I believe in the saying that people come into our lives for a reason. We cross paths with each other, to help us shape our future. It’s all part of the journey we’re on. 

Some will be short term, while others will stay a lifetime.

Some will come and go.

My husband and I met when I was only 15 – he was 14.

Naturally knowing each other that long, meant getting to know each other’s circle of friends too. One particular mutual friend, Ken, decided to go back to our home country, Philippines, approximately 15 years ago. His family remained in Australia so he’s been back and forth since then. In late 2016, due to personal reasons he came back to Australia for a short period and this is the story of how The Sun Chasers was born.

Ok, well technically this was just a name I spun-taneously created after our first official catch up. Also, for clarity, we are not officially The Sun Chasers, this is just what I have called us for the purposes of my Blog and to create a series. Each of us are individuals doing our own things. We just happen to share the same passion. #WeLovePuns

My husband’s two brothers from other mothers (Ken and Devin), our son (Gabriel) and myself decided to take a journey together. 

To explore, create memories and have adventures. 

Our purpose was the same – to travel and explore new things; to share our love of everything beautiful by using our creative minds and to create a story from what we capture; and to be positive and happy. Our adventures were spent together. But the stories we told, were our own. 

Meet Devin | Devin Legaspi | creating videos for YouTube of his travel stories and his journey.


Meet Ken | @iphonogra_ph | capturing photos only using his iPhone and publishing on Instagram. He is a Traveller. Dog lover. Musicon. Coffeesseur. Wordnerd. Dreamer. 


Ken also has today launched his YouTube channel, called Iphonograph Channel, which will follow on from his Instagram page and will feature tips on how to perfect your snaps. Watch this space. 

He is also a “wordnerd” as he puts it and his blog can be found at iphonogra.ph

Meet my son Gabriel | Gabes Tube | 7 year old newbie on YouTube. Creating a channel for kids and sharing his love of drawing, origami, Star Wars, LEGO, gaming, art & craft, music, dinosaurs and being creative. After years of watching other children on YouTube, experiencing the adventures we’ve shared as The Sun Chasers and with his own bubbly personality, he decided that in 2017 he was going to create his own channel. #Goals


My husband prefers to enjoy the adventures by living in the moment. I admit, his photos are WAAAYYYY better than mine, but are rarely posted on social media. He simply enjoys the adventures for what they are, without feeling the need to share them with the world.


And then there’s me. The First Lady. The only lady. Snapchat is the name. Living out my #Godlys100Things is my game. Many ask why I post everything. Many ask what am I doing it for. Many don’t understand. If you feel the need, follow me on Snap @Godly153 with a current snapchat score of 10,103 (whatever that means)! Please tell me if you know that that score actually means!


Since November 2016, we have discovered some new places, some were hidden treasures. Others were simple beauties. We even conquered some fears. 

Personally, my journey was to soul search. I even managed to tick some goals and I definitely learned a lot from each experience and from each individual. #Godlys100Things @GodlysCorner

The next few posts will be about each adventure so far. I hope you take something out of it, that you can incorporate into your own life. And perhaps take the adventure on yourself and tell your own story, in whatever platform you choose.

Remember:

Life is beautiful. 

Today is the day that you are living for. So make it count.

Tomorrow is not guaranteed. 

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take. But by the moments, that take our breath away.

Subscribe to my blog to be notified of when my posts are published. And keep your eyes out for The Sun Chasers series. 

For now, to wet your appetite, check out our creative work for the adventures we’ve had together and our own personal journeys. I guarantee you, it will be worth your while.

Until next time…

Keep smiling.


All the good things 

My last post was about 2016 and what brings me back to blogging. There were so many things that held me back from my writing but by the end of 2016, I grew my wings and started writing again.

2016 in one word: SHIT 💩

But it wasn’t all bad. There were so many good things as well. 

In fact, I managed to hit my goal of ticking 5 things off my #Godlys100Things list. I set up my goals tree back in June 2015, after listening to a podcast from Jonathan Doyle. 




I’m usually a goal-oriented person, without goals, I lose focus and become unbalanced. Last year’s New Years resolution was to build my upper body strength. 


That didn’t go exactly to plan. But, I have learnt from that. I set that goal up without planning and preparation. This year, my focus is on my health and fitness again. But this time, I came in with a plan:

  • I started with a personal trainer with fitness goals that are achievable and realistic;
  • I have healthy competition to keep me accountable and motivated; and
  • I have the right mindset coming in to 2017.

This is where it went wrong for me in 2016. 

But that’s ok, because all the good things from 2016 should be remembered and cherished as well. I’ll rattle off a few:

In January, me and my boys rode in a R44 helicopter over Sydney Harbour. This has made me want to add to my #Godlys100Things list and get a helicopters licence (number 9).



My hubby and I took a couples trip to Melbourne with another one of our couple friends, Dalin and Em.  The main purpose of this trip was to dine at Dinner By Heston Blumenthal (number 54). But I will do a separate post on this shortly. 

While on our couples trip, I played roulette for the first time and won a significant prize, we ate at some very delicious places, went to the Mornington Peninsula Hot Springs and had quite the romantic adventure.




We rescued a blue-tongue lizard who was injured near our pool and released him back into the wild when he was better. This led to us owning a blue tongue lizard as a pet. #Crikey



In February, I joined a Netball team. In my 32 years, I had never played netball and I loved it.


I watched The Sound of Music (The Musical) with my 6 year old. This was his first ever musical and he loved it. #LikeMotherLikeSon


Erica and I ran-then jogged-then walked the Night Colour Run.


In March, my son was elected SRC, he’s in year 1. This was not a great moment for me though. Check out my resilience post. #ProudMum

I celebrated my 33rd birthday in style, by having a Frozen party. I, again, had never ice-skated in my life and I was terrible, but it was so much fun. I also enjoyed watching friends and family show me their ice-skating skills and some who had no skills at all.



It sorta went downhill from the 7 March though. But let’s continue with my 2016 highlights…

My son figured out the Easter Bunny. #WiserThanHisYears


In April, we visited my bestie, Tracy, in QLD and I took my son to Dreamworld for the first time. Her son Harry is my son’s bestie too.


In another double date night with Dalin and Em, we went to see Akmal live for The Comedy Festival.

In May, #OperationHalfMarathon started abruptly. It is number 52 on my #Godlys100Things list, but I didn’t expect it to be happening quite so early in my running journey. Although my goal was to run a marathon, not half, but this is a start. My friend Erica and I have been running once a week since September 2014, when we initially both didn’t enjoy running. It has been a fun journey for both of us, we are at different fitness levels but I enjoy running weekly with her. My Saturday runs have gotten better and better (even though it ended in November when I injured my ankle playing social Soccer. Again, more on that in a different post – yet to come ). But overall, consistently running (even just once a week has improved my long distance running and split pace). Now, when my friend Dalin decided to train with me, running became 2x a week which has led us to train for a half marathon this year. #WishMeLuck



From June-November (life was demanding, busy, and all that jazz). It became too much that I didn’t want to post photos on Instagram anymore. Which is where I usually go to reminisce. 

I’ll try and do the last 6 months of 2016 in FFWD:

I made a flower crown for my niece (Stacey) and tried to get my hobby with flowers back into my weekends, I taught my son how to cross stitch, my work dad/buddy (David) retired, at work we changed it up and tried playing netball, we celebrated our friend’s (Mark and Cathy) engagement party, my work friend, (Rachel) opened up a new cafe, Stacey received the Sacrament of Confirmation and asked me to be her Godmother, Erica and I ran the 9km Harbour Bridge Run, my mum and I went to the flower festival (Floriade), Erica and I went to the Billabong Yoga Retreat, I learnt how to play the guitar, I participated in the Tour de Cure CAN4CANCER fundraiser d 21km walk, I went zip lining with my niece (Katelyn), I ticked off number 93 which was to walk/run the Bondi to Bronte…phew… that’s a lot!



Then due to personal reasons, a dear friend came back to Sydney after living overseas for almost 2 decades. 


As life remained difficult, laughter, adventure and friendship brought happiness back into our lives. I called us The Sun Chasers. More about our adventures in posts to come!

I had some great adventures/memories (Garie Beach, Central Coast road trip, fishing adventures, archery for our team building day, discovering the sleepy town of Windsor, Rediscovered Bent’s Basin, bubble soccer, had some poker nights at home, and lots of fun moments )


I actually started drafting this post on the 1st day of 2017, with the intention of it to be uploaded shortly after. But a whole month has gone by and it’s been quite a hectic January that I sit here on 2/2/2017 finishing this piece.

Initially I wanted to say that 2017 will be a bigger and better year for me. My son and I wrote up our goals for 2017 and already in 33 days, were kicking goals. Unfortunately I know this trend all too well. I start my year well and by June I’m all fizzled out/overwhelmed and tired. I am conscious of my actions and need to make myself accountable. I need to be my own motivation. But I can’t do it alone, like I did at certain times last year. I aim to post more regularly and keep my blog up to date with my journey. The best feeling is when someone asks me “when’s your next blog post coming out?” I write this blog for many reasons, but the most rewarding is to know someone out there reads it. 

Stay positive. 

Stay true to yourself.

Keep smiling.

What brings me back…to this world


I’ve been on a blogging break for so many reasons. I started this blog as my way of speaking up. Sometimes people say shit they can’t back up. Or they talk a lot of crap and I just wanna shut ’em down. But I’m in two minds about causing conflict. So I keep my mouth shut – sometimes. Mainly when the conflict is work-related or if I don’t want to cause trouble (in general). I’m not bad person – although some would think I am. So on this blog, I can pretty much say whatever I want. People say it’s a cowards way of dealing with it. I disagree. I just don’t like conflict. 

Secondly, when it’s my professional brand that’s at stake, I’d rather not risk it for a disagreement with a colleague. 

Also, this blog gives me a chance to put it out to others who may feel the same. To help others – hopefully one reader can get something useful out of this. Whether it’s inspirational or advice. However I’m not qualified to give advice so don’t take my word as gospel. Lol. The irony. I work in the complaints department, and one type of complaint we get is advice-related. 
Bringing me back on topic, the reasons I’ve been on a break was due to the tough year I had. I didn’t feel like blogging when my mindset was wrong. 

I also had some work challenges. 7 March 2016 was the biggest. It will be etched in my mind forever. 

I hadn’t just stopped blogging. I stopped Instagram as well. Like a celebrity in rehab trying to get back to basics. I couldn’t find the inspiration to post photos when my life was so broken. People ‘usually’ tend to only post good photos. People who want to say “Look how good my life is”. But deep down, they’re broken too. Only some will post everything about their lives – good and bad. I know a few. I think it’s TMI. I think social media is great. But be careful what you post. Who your audience is. What your telling them. Sometimes it’s nice to keep something to yourself. So I took myself off the grid (so to speak). I lost connections with those around me. I lost friends (as in friendships and those taken by God). I lost family too. 

This year was a huge wake up call. My estranged father passed away as well. It wasn’t a big deal to me. I knew it was coming. He was 90 years old.  I gave him the cold shoulder and we hadn’t spoken in a decade at least. Some would call me heartless. I had my reasons. No-one needed to understand. Because that was my battle. One I tried to deal with internally. And on my own. One big lesson was – you can’t do alone. We are human. We need each other to survive. We give each other love, compassion, truth and we also hurt each other. His passing made me realise that it wasn’t all his fault. I finally learnt that. But it was too late. I have learned to forgive him for his faults. And to let him rest in peace. I think about him more these days than when he was alive. 


Photo cred: My nephew who came to support me. I didn’t know he took this pic until after the funeral.

I feel like my anthem this year is Forgive me Father (feat. Meaghan Trainor, Wiz Khalifa & Wale) from DJ. Khaled’s Major Key  album. For two reasons. This is one of them. The other reason was for my personal battle and asking God for forgiveness. I particularly love the chorus. 


Like I mean this year started badly. New Year’s Eve was spent in my car angry at my son who had been playing up (partly due to extreme tiredness from the day’s events and partly from his cheeky personality and also the excitement NYE brings). So I kinda knew 2016 was gonna be rough. I’m superstitious like that. The way your year starts, is how it usually goes. 2017 is gonna be fucken awesome! 

I mean, it wasn’t all bad. It was pretty awesome too. But I couldn’t find the thing that made me want to blog again. I was having writers block. I wanted to blog. I just needed it to be meaningful. Today, I posted a photo on snapchat and replicated it on instagram. 

This was my 2016 in a nutshell.

I wrote it on the short 5 minute bus ride to work. And I didn’t think twice. It was just a post on snap. But for instagram (which I like to call my photo album) it was to track my life. For me, it’s not about how many followers or likes the photo gets. I have been off instagram for 6 months. And my last blog post was in Sept 2016. And people were asking. That was nice – To know I brought some value to some people. 

I’ve been focusing on myself this year. Working on my issues. My life. Getting my mojo back. If anyone didn’t understand that, that was their problem. Not mine. Harsh but true. We all have to take time out for ourselves. It’s how we cope. This meant friendships were balancing on a very fine tightrope ready to snap. And it did. I don’t know for sure but I’m pretty certain some friends are gone.

People will come and go. I’ve always believed that people come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes it’s short lived. But there was a reason. 

Sometimes people come and go and will always be there regardless. Whatever they go through – sometimes we share; sometimes we keep things bottled up. But no matter what happens, they will always be there. Because life happens. They are my true friends.

Sometimes people are there for a long time. But not necessarily for the right reasons. Sometimes they are there to help us along our journey. But they’re there for a reason. I’ve lost a few of these friends this year. Kinda just dropped off. I am hurt. But I am also human. I haven’t done this intentionally – life happened and this was the result. I miss them dearly but that’s how the cookie crumbled. 

My horoscope from The Daily Telegraph on 15/12/2016

Then there are friends who are taken away from us too soon. A real tragedy. One that makes me tear up every time. Rest in Peace Juanito. You will be missed. 

The photo I posted (above) attracted some attention. I even got a beautiful heartfelt SMS from my best friend to check if I was ok. Which got me to check my instagram post. As I only go in there intermittently. And I noticed it had 3 comments. Again from people who have inspired me to be the person I am today. Which brings me to my blog post. 

I hope you don’t mind me posting this hon.

A lightbulb moment. It was my sign to get back to blogging, doing what I love and sharing what I do. I don’t speak lies. I do what I say. I won’t always be motivated but I try. I will fall. And I have. But I guarantee, that I will get back up and hustle harder.
Watch this space. I’m back!

24 hours

  
I was fortunate to be part of something awesome today.

Something that made me feel good on the inside and out.
I was in my element: 

  • doing something for someone else,
  • helping people,
  • being active and on my feet,
  • constantly challenging myself,
  • and having fun.

At the end of it, I had a huge smile on my face. Exhausted but happy! Most photos were taken at the end and you can see the happiness in my smile.

Today, my colleagues and I were volunteering for a charity helping pack candle bags for the upcoming Woolworths Carols in the Domain event. It was a simple task but required hands and time. That’s where volunteers come in. I try to volunteer my time as much as I can because sometimes that’s where I can contribute the most. Charities need money, volunteers & resources to achieve their desired outcomes. I’m in a position to help as that’s what I love to do and I believe my purpose in life is to help shape the world.

It’s a small thing but I know there’s a roll on effect and there’s a bigger picture out there:

  • My time goes to charities who have products to sell;
  • Money raised from these products go back to the charity;
  • This money allows charities to help those in need;
  • Those who receive this assistance are better off in one way or another;
  • These people have the ability to pay it forward and so on.

It was nice to spend half the day with like-minded people (some of whom are in my reference groups). To encourage each other and learn from them was an experience in itself.

I can technically tick off 2 items from my list today but they are big ones for me and I’m not content that I’ve done enough to say “done”. It’s not about completing my list. For me, it’s about being able to say I’ve lived my life, my way. And that if I were to die tomorrow, I can say I did everything I could to be happy every day! 

  
For the curious ones and if you haven’t seen my list, I ticked off number 6 Volunteer and number 7 Help a charity.

These 2 items have been ongoing for me and I will continue to do them for the rest of my life. 

I don’t put my hand up for every volunteering opportunity that I come across and this event was certainly one that I thought about before saying “yes, I’ll do it”. The email came out and it said candle packing. Truth be told, I took this literally, as in we were going to pack candles into a bag. I thought how could this be helpful? Should I do it? Do I have time to do this? Will my manager let me take half a day off? Should I just wait until the next opportunity (as I can’t volunteer every time)? So many thoughts crossed my mind. I didn’t ponder it too long but decided to bite the bullet and here I am today – so glad I put my name down.

The reason I mention this is because I listened to a podcast the other day, which was about how to make a difficult decision, when you are in a low state? Like I mean this wasn’t the end of the world or anything life changing, but it was difficult nonetheless. Firstly, I knew I had another major event this week already. So this would mean 2 days off work and this would impact my workload and therefore have a flow on effect to my personal life, due to longer hours. That was the difficult part. But despite that, I went ahead with it anyway. I thought this was a small price to pay and my work and family will both be OK in the long run.

The thing that I took out of that podcast was the advice on how to make those decisions. One piece of advice was “think about the highest principle – which is love”. And if you think about it, I naturally made that decision because of this reason. I hadn’t even listened to that podcast yet when I decided to do this but my mindset was exactly that. The purpose was to volunteer my time for someone else’s benefit. To help people. And that’s what I love doing. So that’s why I ultimately decided to do it. 

So the next time that you have a difficult decision to make, maybe think about that principle. If you want to listen to that podcast, click here.

I feel like I was put on this earth to help people. I don’t know how yet but for now, I’ll just do it however I can. Today we helped The Salvation Army, who are helping Sydney’s homeless youth. I know at some point in my teens, I could have easily been someone who needed support like this, had it not been for the love and support of my family and friends. 

My last volunteering event through work was to help cook a meal for the community that attend The Wayside Chapel. An organisation who provide programs and services to the community. They ensure that the most marginalised members of our community have access to essential health, welfare, social and recreational services. That was such an amazing experience as well and a real eye opener. Today, I felt happy. Energised. Fortunate. Motivated. And all of these emotions came from packing candles. 

Which turned out to be hampers, including 4 candles for the carolling.

   

  

We can all say we don’t have time, but the funny thing is we all get the same 24 hours.

It’s about what you choose to do with yours.

In our group, we had everyone from my level all the way up to our General Manager. I’m sure his schedule was 100x more hectic than my 2 events this week but he made time. On top of that, he is currently in a boot due to an unfortunate ankle fracture, but he put others first before himself when he took his boot off so that he could wear closed shoes into the warehouse. Personally, I’ve been up for 18.5 hours and the alarm is due in 5.5 hours. But I won’t let that stop me from living the experiences that life has to offer. And I’m still so excited about it that I had to post this up tonight. 

My question to you is… What do you want to achieve in your 24 hours?

  

Purpose

  
I found my purpose after I started my #Godlys100Things list after that work conference that I had attended that July afternoon, all those years ago.

I wrote a list and to this day I keep working towards ticking things off. I have found that as I work towards ticking them off, that I had things on that list that aren’t exactly what I want anymore. So I either replaced them or kept them as [Thinking of a new thing to replace the old thing]. Because like all lists, they change. And as I work towards these 100 things, I realise that I’ve changed my wants/needs/priorities. In fact, I’ve changed a lot. #DJKhaled

Every day may seem similar but in actual fact, for me, every day something changes in my life. That’s important. To stay the same means not growing. And while I’m physically not growing, I’m growing in all other ways.

At the end of 2015, I made some new goals. I put them up on my ‘Goals Tree’ and wake up to this tree every morning. One of them was to tick 5 things off my 100 things list in 2016. It seems simple enough but if you’ve read my list, you will know that some require a lot of work. Some are easy but that’s not the point. I’m not just going to tick 5 easy ones and wipe my hands clean of any hard work. NO WAY. That’s not my style. 

  
So far, to date, I have ticked:

  1. Number 54: Eat at a Heston Blumenthal restaurant. Dinner by Heston Blumenthal opened in Melbourne and after booking a table in August 2015, the day had finally arrived. We flew to Melbourne to have dinner. I don’t know what was going through my mind but I happened to think that was ok to do that. Like I’m some kind of hot shot food critic that travels to have fine dining experiences. LOL 
  2. Number 72: Learn to drive a manual car. Which ironcally just happened today. 
  3. Number 94: Watch a fight with my husband. This was technically ticked off twice already in 2015, but we’ve enjoyed this so much it’s became almost a tradition. 
  4. Number 95: My husband’s choice: Kill a spider. The reason this was important is because I am petrified of spiders. The word itself gives me the heeby-jeebys. So I had to do this one for myself like my own version of the Tv show ‘Fear Factor’. Again I’ve done this twice now and I seem to be doing ok facing my fear. 

   
  

    
    
 Fear is something we all face. We’re all scared of something. But don’t let fear stop you. Let it drive you to beat it.

So you may be wondering how my purpose is built on silly things like this, but it all boils down to this. When I’m a better version of myself today, I can contribute to a better world tomorrow. Whatever new things I learn today, I feel the need to share it with the world. Because knowledge is power. #MajorKey

I may be one person, but I’m one person who cares enough to want the world to be a better place for the kids of today and the kids of the future.

My son tells me he wants to be a scientist and work with DNA to bring dinosaurs back. Everyone says that’s not possible but I believe he will do great things. And I need to help him along the way to support his dream. If I just nod and smile, how is that helping anyone? 

I don’t know if his dream is possible but I don’t care.

I care that he has a dream and he’s only 6 years old.

I care that he loves dinosaurs so much that he wants to see them again.

I care that he’s deciding his own future by setting his own goals and he’s nailing it. 

That’s the kind of future I want. Kids with big dreams and living life, not by what anyone tells them they can/can’t do, but by what THEY decide they can do.

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Rejection / Resilience

  
Two tough words. Even tougher for a 6 year old to go through. 

My son is 6 going on 10. He’s so mature for his age. Anyone who knows him, would agree. He’s charismatic. Yesterday, I was a super-proud mum. He was nominated as the male student representative council (SRC) rep for his class, along with his female friend. There’s 2 chosen for each class from year 1 through to year 6. I think it’s pretty cool that the school includes students from as young as year 1 to be part of the SRC. It’s a great way to reiterate the values that they have in the school such as responsibility, respect, care, integrity, fairness and cooperation. Almost identical to the values we have in the workplace in this day and age. 

So when I heard he was in the SRC, I thought this meant he was a great example to his peers. 

It’s tough to think that he experienced rejection on the same day he felt proud of himself. But I guess it made it ok because I was there to help him get past it, rather than him going through it alone. 

Here’s a brief rundown on what happened:-

He was in front of his classroom dropping off his bag before the school bell rang.

He saw his friends playing and took a drawing out of his bag and gave it to his friend.

  
His friend took one look and gave it back, saying “why do you draw things for me?!?!” And walked away. 

The look on my son’s face was heartbreaking. I felt his pain. He was gutted. Then he looked at me and said “well, that was a fail.” I told him not to worry and asked him, how will you bounce back from this? 

He didn’t say much and we proceeded to walk to the office to drop off the payment envelope for his school disco.

My boy had experienced rejection at 6 and as much as I wanted to say something to this kid who hurt my son, I also wanted my son to figure out how he was going to get through it on his own. Because I’m certain things like this will happen again and I won’t always be there to help him bounce back. I have to teach him how to be resilient at 6. How do you that when your heart is breaking for them? 

They say if you want the truth, ask a kid. And that’s great but what about when kids do wrong? Is it fair to blame their parent/s? I think so. But some parents are so caught up in their own selves that they don’t see it. They can be in denial – what then? Things like this (and it may seem minor) is what is happening to our kids. The problem with this day and age is that parents are sometimes spending so much time on social media, on their phones and working too much (to name a few) that they forget to be a parent. And I’m guilty of these things too. I’m not perfect. But I will add that I spend a lot of time with my son teaching him about life. 

Strangely, if people see me in the street (and I may snapchat this one day) but they may think I’m being harsh. Or OTT about something that happened. I do this purely to teach my son a lesson. Granted, he may do that exact same thing he did wrong again the very next day but what I will say is that I KNOW that he understands everything I say. He’s just forgetful and at the end of the day, he’s only a child. I can only keep trying. 

He bounced back pretty quickly after this event but it makes you wonder, how does a 6 year old deal with rejection? 

How do they really feel? 

Will this affect them long term?

Is it something he’ll always remember?

I know that when I was rejected by friends at high school, it was tough. But I was about 17 when this happened. And to this day, I’m still scarred. Rejection hurts. But I do hope for his sake, that this doesn’t stick with him and any other kids going through the same thing. I hope it’s temporary but I doubt it. Kids can remember their childhood from about 2.5 years old. So any parent reading this, beware of what your child hears/sees from you and what you do. But better still, be a parent. This kid that emotionally hurt my son clearly has issues. I don’t know what they are but his parents need to teach him a thing or 2 about kindness. My son is a kind soul and drew this because he cared enough about his friend that he wanted to give him something. As meaningless/priceless as a drawing may be, it’s the thought that counts.

McGregor vs Diaz | 6 Mar 2016

   
Family is everything. Nothing matters more. Of course we all have other things to do but at the end of the day, everything we do is for the ones we love. 

So number 94 on my 100 things list is to watch a fight with my husband. Why is this on my list – I hear you ask? Well everyone’s list is different. To me my list was about what makes me feel happy. That’s it. So to spend time with my husband doing things he loves is just as important to me as doing things I love. Because if he’s happy – I’m happy. Vice versa. So when he wants to watch a fight, I like to come and cheer as well. Eventhough I know (like) very little about boxing and UFC. It’s not about the fight. It’s about the moment. If we’re together, living that moment, that’s what matters. What’s the point of having all the money in the world when you have no-one to share the moments with? Some of the richest people in the world are not happy. Yet some of the poorest people are. Go figure.

Besides, I learnt so much about the sport from today’s UFC main event between Holm vs Tate and McGregor vs Diaz. I genuinely enjoyed it. So while it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, I’m sure just being there made my husband happy. It beats not seeing him for the afternoon while he’s out at the pub and I’m doing my own thing. I guess that’s what marriage is about. Sharing your interests with each other. Having each other’s back. Living life as individuals but being able to share that life with someone else. 

And even though I’m now sitting here at the stroke of midnight blogging, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I felt like snapchatting my day today to share a snippet of my life. I really love what snapchat is about and it’s somewhat my way of connecting with friends near and far and letting them in on what I’m up to. Coz sometimes, I just get caught up in life that I don’t get to see them as often as I’d like. We’re all busy. But snapchat offers a way to keep in touch. It also allows regular joes like me to see the life of the celebrities I admire (once you know their username that is). So it’s somewhat private – unless you share your username on other social media outlets. 

My weekends are jam packed and I just want one more day to relax. Like really relax. I work hard. And I wanna play hard too. But sometimes stuff just needs to get done. Sundays for me are like Groundhog Day. Always routine. Saturdays are my days for exercise, family time, catch ups and on the odd occasion, some me time. 

So in case you missed my snaps, here’s a peek at what my Sunday looks like. Apologies for the lag in the video. It’s a big file 🙁

  
But in all that, we gotta make time for ourselves. Some down time. Blogging has kinda turned into my downtime. I enjoy just writing whatever comes to mind. I hope it’s relevant enough for someone to relate to. Interesting enough for someone to want to read more. I never really knew where I wanted this to go. I just wanted to have my say. So I created that platform. I don’t really need this to be trending on Twitter or go viral like YouTube videos. But I would like to know that one day, at the very least, my son reads this and sees what my life was like. What I did (which was mostly to hopefully create for a better future for him). 

Everyday brings about a new thought. A new idea. A conversation that makes me think – I can change that. I just want to help shape the future because I know the world can be better. And I’m doing that by the small things that I do that makes up my 100 things. It may not look like the coolest list, but it’s mine. And it’s cool to me. #Godlys100Things

I kinda ticked this one off my list back in May 2015 when I watched my first boxing match between Mayweather and Pacquiao, and in Dec 2015 when I watched McGregor take out Aldo in 13 seconds. But I’m really enjoying the moments we’re sharing. Even though we’re the only parents who take our child to the pub. Would love your thoughts on that too by the way. Is it wrong to take your child to the pub to watch a fight? Is it selfish? Is it bad parenting?  Or am I teaching him about life. I don’t see anything wrong with it and I’ll keep doing it, until it’s made illegal.

Follow my journey on snapchat Godly153, Instagram GodlysCorner and Twitter godlysaycon

10 morning habits

  
There are 3 sides to every story. 

Your side. My side. And the truth. 

My side is this. This is my story. 

I am not always a happy person. But I try. I have my days like everyone else. These last few weeks have been a real struggle both physically and mentally. 

But you know everyday is a gift. It’s not guaranteed so why waste your day being negative?

To live a happy, meaningful life – one must be optimistic about life. 

I read these 10 morning habits one day and it made sense to me. So in line with my purpose to help shape the future, I’m sharing it with you. Take what you want from it and be happy. You don’t need to do all of them. Start with one. Just do it for yourself. Everything else will fall into place like a domino effect. 

1) Be grateful

So this is obvious.

Find the positives in everything. What are you grateful for? If you see the bad in something, think about what’s good and work from there. If you get the wrong sized coffee because they got your order wrong, try and see the positive and be grateful that you have a coffee at all. Some people don’t get the same luxury. Be grateful you have money to buy a coffee in the first place and smile. It’s not the end of the world. And abusing the coffee girl won’t make for a good mood for anyone. Don’t start your day like that. 

So that’s the small scheme of things. What if it’s something more serious. Let’s say you get into a car accident and your car is written off and you weren’t at fault. Ok that’s bad. And now your stuck using public transport until you can get a new car. So instead of being mad, be grateful that you had a car at all. Be grateful that no-one was hurt. Be grateful that you have insurance. You can get a new car. You can still walk and do everything you were doing when you had a car. You have money to pay for insurance in times like this. Nothing good is gained by negative thoughts and actions. 

2) Exercise 

This is very important to me. When your body has energy – you can do so much! Your mind is clear. You can do almost anything. Exercise is my me time. It’s my stress relief. It’s my thing. Make time for yourself because that’s the only person you can rely on. When you’re stuck on an island – it’s only you. So if you sit there and do nothing, nothing will happen. However if you sit there and work on yourself – watch what happens. Don’t make excuses!

  

3) Never forget spiritual connection

My name is Godly. But in no way am I living up to that name. I try. But it takes a lot to be Godly. If anything, I’m ungodly. Which is not something I’m proud of. But I’m trying. I have a responsibility to live my life as the best person I can be. And I have a huge name to live up to. My mum expected so much from me by giving me that name and I’m still working on it. After 33 years. Making time for God is necessary. It doesn’t need to be at church. Or announced to the world. Prayer can be done anywhere. At anytime. Have your 1 on 1 with God. He will listen.  

4) Plan a good deed

“Money doesn’t make people happy. People make people happy.” – Steve Wynn –

When you have good intentions – it won’t be hard to do. I can’t say I do this a lot or much but I try from time to time. 

Like I said, you don’t have to do all of these but start with one. 

5) Rarely ruminate about the past

No regrets. Life is for living. We all make mistakes. It doesn’t mean you can keep doing it. You need to learn from the mistake and grow. But don’t regret what you did. Just learn from it.

Don’t let failures of the past get you. When you fail, it’s proof you tried. Failing isn’t about winning or losing. It’s how you bounce back. Failing doesn’t mean stop trying, it means try again until you succceed. Failing helps you to be better. We’ve all failed at something. Who cares. But learn why you failed and keep going. 

Live for today. For today is all we have. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. So why waste your time thinking 

“I’ll do it tomorrow.”

“When I’m 30 I’ll do [insert your own thing here].”

“One day…”

Why are you waiting? What are you waiting for? What if you never get that chance? You’ll never forgive yourself. You’ll regret wasting time. Coz time is all we have. Money will not bring you happiness. People make happiness. Be that thing that makes people happy. Spend your time doing what you love. It’s simple really. 

6) Make happiness habit

Make joy, gratitude & mindfulness part of your daily habit. Amen to that. If anything, this is one you start with. No explanation needed. 

7) Set daily goals
Prioritise what’s important. Do them first.

Get the difficult tasks out of the way and the rest will follow. Procrastinating doesn’t get anything done. 

8) Take out a happiness subscription 

Don’t wait around for happy things to come to you. Make it happen. 

Spread the happiness. 

There were 2 others but they didn’t make sense to me so I won’t add them here. Insert your own 2 in the comments below to make up the 10. I’d love to know that someone’s reading this – so your comments are eagerly accepted. Heck, I’d love my inbox to be flooded with emails saying someone has commented on your post. Flood me. I’m ready. And if I’m wrong – correct me. I’ll take it. 

Until next time.

Keep smiling. And follow my life on snapchat godly153 | Instagram godlyscorner | Twitter @godlysaycon

Hustle

  
There’s a little theme going on in my blog that I’m noticing. I’ve accidentally been posting about ‘time’ without realising it.

Although this blog started as an outlet for me to voice my opinion on life – writing about anything and everything that I felt at the time. It’s quickly become ‘time’ focussed and I also found it has become somewhat a little novel about me and my journey so far. I’ve come to think of it as my little journal. A little something to leave behind for my son. Hoping one day he’ll read it.

My motivational word for 2016 is HUSTLE. 

Last year was a like a roller coaster ride for me. So much:

  • learnt
  • to remember
  • I wish I could change
  • So much… Everything!

In all of that, I learned that I didn’t do nearly as much as I should have, could have or would have – I wish I had my hustle mentality a year ago. But it’s too late for regrets now. I’ve gotta move on.

So in 2016, everyday I’m hustlin’.

We all lead busy lives. So I thought I’d share my opinion on this important topic of time.

It’s like all the quotes you’ve ever heard all rolled into one:

  • Make time for what you love
  • Stay positive, work hard, make it happen
  • No pain, no gain
  • or just #MotivationalQuotes and you’ll find one you like

So if you want it* enough, you need to work for it. And not just half-heartedly – give it all you’ve got.

*whatever “IT” means to you. e.g. health, wealth, happiness, dream job, family, possessions…

For me, IT means internal happiness. When I have that, everything else falls into place. It has a domino effect on my life.

So, to get my internal happiness, I need my mind and body in the right state. When I feel good physically, I make better choices in life. Better choices makes me happy. Happy me = happy family. Happy family means life is bliss.

So to start my internal happiness I have been getting myself back to a regular fitness schedule. Making time for it. Since Boxing Day, I’ve been tracking my exercise and over the last few days I found myself getting back into my old habits. I’d spent the last few days ‘resting’ instead of doing some form of exercise. So I told myself – “Enough’s enough!!! Just get it done Godly!!”

But it was 9:30pm on a Sunday night and it was getting late. I could have said to myself, just do it tomorrow. But I didn’t. I gave myself a quick internal pep talk and said #NoExcuses. 

I usually train with my friend once a week (at least) and more if our schedule permits. Lately we’ve been doing more due to school holidays because we’re both out of routine. She’s one of the people who inspire me to be more. When people say they have no time, you have to look at people like her who make time. She has 3 kids and still puts her health first. How can someone who has 3 kids still have time? Simple – she makes time.

Another friend told me that “you can’t help anyone else if a plane is going down without your oxygen mask on first. As a fellow mother, I can understand we feel guilty putting ourselves first but we fail to realise that it’s necessary in order to be the best mothers we can be.” Another person who inspires me to be the best mother I can be. 

I know there’s a theme here with mothers making time for the greater good of their family, but I’m certain there are others out there who don’t have kids, or animals, or any other commitments that also make time for themselves. We in the industry call it “me time”.

When you want something bad enough, you’ve gotta learn to hustle.

  1. Make it number 1 on your list.
  2. Set goals so that you have something to strive for.
  3. Keep track so you can see how far you’ve come.

The inspiration behind today’s post was my 25 minute at-home workout. All the excuses in the world could have come out but I chose to overcome them:

  1. I don’t have time – yes I do. It’s just 25 minutes.
  2. I can’t be bothered going for a run, going to the gym, putting on my gym wear etc – then don’t. Stay home and do it in the comfort of your bedroom/garage/lounge room/home gym and in your undies if you want!
  3. It’s late and I have work tomorrow – so what? And besides everyone has to get up for ‘something’ tomorrow. That’s not even a legitimate excuse.
  4. I can’t be bothered and I’m tired – boohoo. Cry me a river.

Truly, all those excuses went through my head tonight but I still got it done.

The hardest thing of all is control. And the hardest thing about control, is controlling our mind. When you have some control over that, you’re halfway there. The only thing left is the action. Most of us fall into the habit of letting our mind tell us things like:

  • I’ll start on Monday.
  • I’m too tired.
  • I’d rather be doing something else.
  • I’m on holidays.
  • I’m just missing 1 day/workout/etc.
  • [insert your own excuses here]

I try to remind myself when I start falling into the excuses trap, is to say to myself “hustle”. But do whatever mantra works for you! The Nike slogan is always a good one! The best part is that when you’ve done whatever it is that you’re making excuses about, you’ll feel so much better afterwards. You’ll be proud of yourself! Guaranteed!

After my workout was done, I was surprised when my son decided to drop and do 10 push ups. I guess he felt the need to do something himself. #Priceless

  

Product Review | www.HelloFresh.com.au | Cooking reinvented

  
Time is not on my side. 

But time is one thing we all want more of. 

And we all get the same amount everyday. 

The only thing we can’t guarantee is how much time we have left (in life).

So put simply, I want to spend more time on things that are important to me.

Groceries are essential but not something I would say I enjoy doing. There’s other things I’d much rather do.

So this is where Hello Fresh comes into my life.

I simply cannot fit enough in 24 hours (as I sit here blogging in the wee hours of the night). So when I find something that can save me time – I like to share it.

It might not help everyone. But if it helps one person, I’m happy.

It’s just one of the many options out there these days; like lite n easy, weight watchers, food4fitness etc.

“Eating healthy is too expensive” some might say.

Yes it can be but if you’re smart about it, it doesn’t have to be.

It’s about planning. 

It’s about knowledge.

It’s about personal choices, values, taste, affordability, lifestyle etc.

Ok, so the Hello Fresh concept is simple – they create the meals for the week, pack it in a box, deliver it to your door and you do all the cooking. They provide all* the ingredients you need and recipe cards. Everything BUT the chef (you).

  
For me, this is about convenience, saving time planning next week’s meals, time doing the groceries, food wasted at the end of the week and most importantly – eating healthy, delicious meals.

So this works for me.

Yes, it is pricey.

Yes, I’ve spent a little more on groceries these past two weeks; and

Yes, I still need to go to the supermarket for fruit, school lunches, toiletries and the odd ingredients.

But I don’t have to spend an hour at the supermarket.

I don’t waste money on excess ingredients.

And my family are loving it. In more ways than one:

  1. they love the meals I’ve cooked (from scratch);
  2. there’s not much left over and wasted; and
  3. I have more time to spend with them = quality time

So the way it works is you subscribe to Hello Fresh. It’s free to join. If you don’t want the box delivered next week, you just pause the delivery. In a nutshell. 

The meals are the same for every member for the week. So when you check out your social media feeds like Instagram, you can see what next week’s meals will be.

This is only my 2nd week so I’ve only cooked a handful of recipes but so far all the meals have been a hit with my family. Even my 6 year old son (who can be picky at the best of times), hasn’t complained about a dish yet. 

The cooking times range from 20-50 minutes and some were actually cooked faster than the estimated time, even though I was reading the recipe card.

I chose the family box for 4-5 people which has 4 meals, as recommended to me by my sister. This box  allows for 2 lunches to be packed for work the next day for me and my hubby. The best part is that the meals still taste delicious warmed up the next day. No joke.

I haven’t stopped raving on about this to my friends and colleagues, because I really think this is going to change the way my family eats and our lifestyle. We have more time to spend together just by changing the way I do my groceries.

What about the food? I hear you ask. So here’s what I’ve tried so far:

  1. Cajun chicken with brown rice medley;
  2. Wagyu beef burger;
  3. Speedy steaks with cheesy chive mash;
  4. Pesto chicken fettuccine;
  5. Tandoori steak chapati with minted yoghurt.

And here’s my verdict:

  1. The chicken could have had a tad more flavour but was still tasty. We loved the rice medley;
  2. OMG. One of my faves. Even the next day, I was drooling over this. Needs a side dish though;
  3. The photo doesn’t do this meal justice. My son doesn’t like mash or herbs but he loved this;
  4. I’m not a fan of basil and pesto and I enjoyed this meal. Some great flavours in this dish; and
  5. Not enough chapati or zucchini. But the flavour was authentic.

Pros:

  • No joining fee
  • No minimum subscription length
  • Minimal time spent at the supermarket
  • Minimal ingredients = maximum flavour
  • Save time: no more meal planning
  • Direct debit payment
  • Good delivery windows. Even one from 2-7am on Saturdays which works for me and the driver even delivered at 2am (as you can see from the text message). Although I had to change this as it woke up my family
  • Friendly drivers
  • App is easy to use
  • Delicious meals the whole family will enjoy
  • There’s a referral code** to share with friends/family who join. They benefit by getting a discount on their first box, and you get a discount on your next box
  • Recipes are easy to follow with pictures, ‘did you know?’, nutritional table and a meal intro
  • Meals still taste delicious for lunch the next day

Cons:

  • Subscription service
  • You need to remember to pause your delivery for the week if you don’t want it delivered
  • You need to deactivate your subscription if you no longer want to continue
  • Not exactly affordable
  • You still need to go to the supermarket for bits and bobs
  • Peak seasons like Christmas/New Year – they are giving me grief about delivery during this time
  • You can’t pick and choose the meals. They are the same for every member for the week
  • People who have special dietary requirements may find this doesn’t suit them entirely

*Not all ingredients are provided. Staples you need in your pantry include

  • olive oil
  • butter
  • salt and pepper
  • balsamic vinegar
  • brown sugar
  • mayonnaise
  • milk
  • water
  • soy sauce
  • fish sauce
  • vegetable oil
  • red wine vinegar

All this stuff I had anyway. So it was no big deal for me.

** My Australian readers can use my referral code 85DHV6 for $35 off your first box. Click here to be redirected to the website.

I’ll keep you posted on this as time progresses. Time that I now have back.

Until then, keep smiling! 😃

 

1. Cajun chicken with brown rice medley
 

 

2. Wagyu beef burger
 
 
3. Speedy steaks with cheesy chive mash
  
4. Pesto chicken fettuccine
 

  

In the blue corner…