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Introducing ‘The Sun Chasers’


Friends are the family we wish we had. 

Some people are blessed with perfect parents, siblings, relatives… Some aren’t. 

Some find the beauty in their unique families. And let’s face it. We all have unique families.

And some make friends with those who they wish were in their family. 

I believe in the saying that people come into our lives for a reason. We cross paths with each other, to help us shape our future. It’s all part of the journey we’re on. 

Some will be short term, while others will stay a lifetime.

Some will come and go.

My husband and I met when I was only 15 – he was 14.

Naturally knowing each other that long, meant getting to know each other’s circle of friends too. One particular mutual friend, Ken, decided to go back to our home country, Philippines, approximately 15 years ago. His family remained in Australia so he’s been back and forth since then. In late 2016, due to personal reasons he came back to Australia for a short period and this is the story of how The Sun Chasers was born.

Ok, well technically this was just a name I spun-taneously created after our first official catch up. Also, for clarity, we are not officially The Sun Chasers, this is just what I have called us for the purposes of my Blog and to create a series. Each of us are individuals doing our own things. We just happen to share the same passion. #WeLovePuns

My husband’s two brothers from other mothers (Ken and Devin), our son (Gabriel) and myself decided to take a journey together. 

To explore, create memories and have adventures. 

Our purpose was the same – to travel and explore new things; to share our love of everything beautiful by using our creative minds and to create a story from what we capture; and to be positive and happy. Our adventures were spent together. But the stories we told, were our own. 

Meet Devin | Devin Legaspi | creating videos for YouTube of his travel stories and his journey.


Meet Ken | @iphonogra_ph | capturing photos only using his iPhone and publishing on Instagram. He is a Traveller. Dog lover. Musicon. Coffeesseur. Wordnerd. Dreamer. 


Ken also has today launched his YouTube channel, called Iphonograph Channel, which will follow on from his Instagram page and will feature tips on how to perfect your snaps. Watch this space. 

He is also a “wordnerd” as he puts it and his blog can be found at iphonogra.ph

Meet my son Gabriel | Gabes Tube | 7 year old newbie on YouTube. Creating a channel for kids and sharing his love of drawing, origami, Star Wars, LEGO, gaming, art & craft, music, dinosaurs and being creative. After years of watching other children on YouTube, experiencing the adventures we’ve shared as The Sun Chasers and with his own bubbly personality, he decided that in 2017 he was going to create his own channel. #Goals


My husband prefers to enjoy the adventures by living in the moment. I admit, his photos are WAAAYYYY better than mine, but are rarely posted on social media. He simply enjoys the adventures for what they are, without feeling the need to share them with the world.


And then there’s me. The First Lady. The only lady. Snapchat is the name. Living out my #Godlys100Things is my game. Many ask why I post everything. Many ask what am I doing it for. Many don’t understand. If you feel the need, follow me on Snap @Godly153 with a current snapchat score of 10,103 (whatever that means)! Please tell me if you know that that score actually means!


Since November 2016, we have discovered some new places, some were hidden treasures. Others were simple beauties. We even conquered some fears. 

Personally, my journey was to soul search. I even managed to tick some goals and I definitely learned a lot from each experience and from each individual. #Godlys100Things @GodlysCorner

The next few posts will be about each adventure so far. I hope you take something out of it, that you can incorporate into your own life. And perhaps take the adventure on yourself and tell your own story, in whatever platform you choose.

Remember:

Life is beautiful. 

Today is the day that you are living for. So make it count.

Tomorrow is not guaranteed. 

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take. But by the moments, that take our breath away.

Subscribe to my blog to be notified of when my posts are published. And keep your eyes out for The Sun Chasers series. 

For now, to wet your appetite, check out our creative work for the adventures we’ve had together and our own personal journeys. I guarantee you, it will be worth your while.

Until next time…

Keep smiling.


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All the good things 

My last post was about 2016 and what brings me back to blogging. There were so many things that held me back from my writing but by the end of 2016, I grew my wings and started writing again.

2016 in one word: SHIT 💩

But it wasn’t all bad. There were so many good things as well. 

In fact, I managed to hit my goal of ticking 5 things off my #Godlys100Things list. I set up my goals tree back in June 2015, after listening to a podcast from Jonathan Doyle. 




I’m usually a goal-oriented person, without goals, I lose focus and become unbalanced. Last year’s New Years resolution was to build my upper body strength. 


That didn’t go exactly to plan. But, I have learnt from that. I set that goal up without planning and preparation. This year, my focus is on my health and fitness again. But this time, I came in with a plan:

  • I started with a personal trainer with fitness goals that are achievable and realistic;
  • I have healthy competition to keep me accountable and motivated; and
  • I have the right mindset coming in to 2017.

This is where it went wrong for me in 2016. 

But that’s ok, because all the good things from 2016 should be remembered and cherished as well. I’ll rattle off a few:

In January, me and my boys rode in a R44 helicopter over Sydney Harbour. This has made me want to add to my #Godlys100Things list and get a helicopters licence (number 9).



My hubby and I took a couples trip to Melbourne with another one of our couple friends, Dalin and Em.  The main purpose of this trip was to dine at Dinner By Heston Blumenthal (number 54). But I will do a separate post on this shortly. 

While on our couples trip, I played roulette for the first time and won a significant prize, we ate at some very delicious places, went to the Mornington Peninsula Hot Springs and had quite the romantic adventure.




We rescued a blue-tongue lizard who was injured near our pool and released him back into the wild when he was better. This led to us owning a blue tongue lizard as a pet. #Crikey



In February, I joined a Netball team. In my 32 years, I had never played netball and I loved it.


I watched The Sound of Music (The Musical) with my 6 year old. This was his first ever musical and he loved it. #LikeMotherLikeSon


Erica and I ran-then jogged-then walked the Night Colour Run.


In March, my son was elected SRC, he’s in year 1. This was not a great moment for me though. Check out my resilience post. #ProudMum

I celebrated my 33rd birthday in style, by having a Frozen party. I, again, had never ice-skated in my life and I was terrible, but it was so much fun. I also enjoyed watching friends and family show me their ice-skating skills and some who had no skills at all.



It sorta went downhill from the 7 March though. But let’s continue with my 2016 highlights…

My son figured out the Easter Bunny. #WiserThanHisYears


In April, we visited my bestie, Tracy, in QLD and I took my son to Dreamworld for the first time. Her son Harry is my son’s bestie too.


In another double date night with Dalin and Em, we went to see Akmal live for The Comedy Festival.

In May, #OperationHalfMarathon started abruptly. It is number 52 on my #Godlys100Things list, but I didn’t expect it to be happening quite so early in my running journey. Although my goal was to run a marathon, not half, but this is a start. My friend Erica and I have been running once a week since September 2014, when we initially both didn’t enjoy running. It has been a fun journey for both of us, we are at different fitness levels but I enjoy running weekly with her. My Saturday runs have gotten better and better (even though it ended in November when I injured my ankle playing social Soccer. Again, more on that in a different post – yet to come ). But overall, consistently running (even just once a week has improved my long distance running and split pace). Now, when my friend Dalin decided to train with me, running became 2x a week which has led us to train for a half marathon this year. #WishMeLuck



From June-November (life was demanding, busy, and all that jazz). It became too much that I didn’t want to post photos on Instagram anymore. Which is where I usually go to reminisce. 

I’ll try and do the last 6 months of 2016 in FFWD:

I made a flower crown for my niece (Stacey) and tried to get my hobby with flowers back into my weekends, I taught my son how to cross stitch, my work dad/buddy (David) retired, at work we changed it up and tried playing netball, we celebrated our friend’s (Mark and Cathy) engagement party, my work friend, (Rachel) opened up a new cafe, Stacey received the Sacrament of Confirmation and asked me to be her Godmother, Erica and I ran the 9km Harbour Bridge Run, my mum and I went to the flower festival (Floriade), Erica and I went to the Billabong Yoga Retreat, I learnt how to play the guitar, I participated in the Tour de Cure CAN4CANCER fundraiser d 21km walk, I went zip lining with my niece (Katelyn), I ticked off number 93 which was to walk/run the Bondi to Bronte…phew… that’s a lot!



Then due to personal reasons, a dear friend came back to Sydney after living overseas for almost 2 decades. 


As life remained difficult, laughter, adventure and friendship brought happiness back into our lives. I called us The Sun Chasers. More about our adventures in posts to come!

I had some great adventures/memories (Garie Beach, Central Coast road trip, fishing adventures, archery for our team building day, discovering the sleepy town of Windsor, Rediscovered Bent’s Basin, bubble soccer, had some poker nights at home, and lots of fun moments )


I actually started drafting this post on the 1st day of 2017, with the intention of it to be uploaded shortly after. But a whole month has gone by and it’s been quite a hectic January that I sit here on 2/2/2017 finishing this piece.

Initially I wanted to say that 2017 will be a bigger and better year for me. My son and I wrote up our goals for 2017 and already in 33 days, were kicking goals. Unfortunately I know this trend all too well. I start my year well and by June I’m all fizzled out/overwhelmed and tired. I am conscious of my actions and need to make myself accountable. I need to be my own motivation. But I can’t do it alone, like I did at certain times last year. I aim to post more regularly and keep my blog up to date with my journey. The best feeling is when someone asks me “when’s your next blog post coming out?” I write this blog for many reasons, but the most rewarding is to know someone out there reads it. 

Stay positive. 

Stay true to yourself.

Keep smiling.

Purpose

  
I found my purpose after I started my #Godlys100Things list after that work conference that I had attended that July afternoon, all those years ago.

I wrote a list and to this day I keep working towards ticking things off. I have found that as I work towards ticking them off, that I had things on that list that aren’t exactly what I want anymore. So I either replaced them or kept them as [Thinking of a new thing to replace the old thing]. Because like all lists, they change. And as I work towards these 100 things, I realise that I’ve changed my wants/needs/priorities. In fact, I’ve changed a lot. #DJKhaled

Every day may seem similar but in actual fact, for me, every day something changes in my life. That’s important. To stay the same means not growing. And while I’m physically not growing, I’m growing in all other ways.

At the end of 2015, I made some new goals. I put them up on my ‘Goals Tree’ and wake up to this tree every morning. One of them was to tick 5 things off my 100 things list in 2016. It seems simple enough but if you’ve read my list, you will know that some require a lot of work. Some are easy but that’s not the point. I’m not just going to tick 5 easy ones and wipe my hands clean of any hard work. NO WAY. That’s not my style. 

  
So far, to date, I have ticked:

  1. Number 54: Eat at a Heston Blumenthal restaurant. Dinner by Heston Blumenthal opened in Melbourne and after booking a table in August 2015, the day had finally arrived. We flew to Melbourne to have dinner. I don’t know what was going through my mind but I happened to think that was ok to do that. Like I’m some kind of hot shot food critic that travels to have fine dining experiences. LOL 
  2. Number 72: Learn to drive a manual car. Which ironcally just happened today. 
  3. Number 94: Watch a fight with my husband. This was technically ticked off twice already in 2015, but we’ve enjoyed this so much it’s became almost a tradition. 
  4. Number 95: My husband’s choice: Kill a spider. The reason this was important is because I am petrified of spiders. The word itself gives me the heeby-jeebys. So I had to do this one for myself like my own version of the Tv show ‘Fear Factor’. Again I’ve done this twice now and I seem to be doing ok facing my fear. 

   
  

    
    
 Fear is something we all face. We’re all scared of something. But don’t let fear stop you. Let it drive you to beat it.

So you may be wondering how my purpose is built on silly things like this, but it all boils down to this. When I’m a better version of myself today, I can contribute to a better world tomorrow. Whatever new things I learn today, I feel the need to share it with the world. Because knowledge is power. #MajorKey

I may be one person, but I’m one person who cares enough to want the world to be a better place for the kids of today and the kids of the future.

My son tells me he wants to be a scientist and work with DNA to bring dinosaurs back. Everyone says that’s not possible but I believe he will do great things. And I need to help him along the way to support his dream. If I just nod and smile, how is that helping anyone? 

I don’t know if his dream is possible but I don’t care.

I care that he has a dream and he’s only 6 years old.

I care that he loves dinosaurs so much that he wants to see them again.

I care that he’s deciding his own future by setting his own goals and he’s nailing it. 

That’s the kind of future I want. Kids with big dreams and living life, not by what anyone tells them they can/can’t do, but by what THEY decide they can do.

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Rejection / Resilience

  
Two tough words. Even tougher for a 6 year old to go through. 

My son is 6 going on 10. He’s so mature for his age. Anyone who knows him, would agree. He’s charismatic. Yesterday, I was a super-proud mum. He was nominated as the male student representative council (SRC) rep for his class, along with his female friend. There’s 2 chosen for each class from year 1 through to year 6. I think it’s pretty cool that the school includes students from as young as year 1 to be part of the SRC. It’s a great way to reiterate the values that they have in the school such as responsibility, respect, care, integrity, fairness and cooperation. Almost identical to the values we have in the workplace in this day and age. 

So when I heard he was in the SRC, I thought this meant he was a great example to his peers. 

It’s tough to think that he experienced rejection on the same day he felt proud of himself. But I guess it made it ok because I was there to help him get past it, rather than him going through it alone. 

Here’s a brief rundown on what happened:-

He was in front of his classroom dropping off his bag before the school bell rang.

He saw his friends playing and took a drawing out of his bag and gave it to his friend.

  
His friend took one look and gave it back, saying “why do you draw things for me?!?!” And walked away. 

The look on my son’s face was heartbreaking. I felt his pain. He was gutted. Then he looked at me and said “well, that was a fail.” I told him not to worry and asked him, how will you bounce back from this? 

He didn’t say much and we proceeded to walk to the office to drop off the payment envelope for his school disco.

My boy had experienced rejection at 6 and as much as I wanted to say something to this kid who hurt my son, I also wanted my son to figure out how he was going to get through it on his own. Because I’m certain things like this will happen again and I won’t always be there to help him bounce back. I have to teach him how to be resilient at 6. How do you that when your heart is breaking for them? 

They say if you want the truth, ask a kid. And that’s great but what about when kids do wrong? Is it fair to blame their parent/s? I think so. But some parents are so caught up in their own selves that they don’t see it. They can be in denial – what then? Things like this (and it may seem minor) is what is happening to our kids. The problem with this day and age is that parents are sometimes spending so much time on social media, on their phones and working too much (to name a few) that they forget to be a parent. And I’m guilty of these things too. I’m not perfect. But I will add that I spend a lot of time with my son teaching him about life. 

Strangely, if people see me in the street (and I may snapchat this one day) but they may think I’m being harsh. Or OTT about something that happened. I do this purely to teach my son a lesson. Granted, he may do that exact same thing he did wrong again the very next day but what I will say is that I KNOW that he understands everything I say. He’s just forgetful and at the end of the day, he’s only a child. I can only keep trying. 

He bounced back pretty quickly after this event but it makes you wonder, how does a 6 year old deal with rejection? 

How do they really feel? 

Will this affect them long term?

Is it something he’ll always remember?

I know that when I was rejected by friends at high school, it was tough. But I was about 17 when this happened. And to this day, I’m still scarred. Rejection hurts. But I do hope for his sake, that this doesn’t stick with him and any other kids going through the same thing. I hope it’s temporary but I doubt it. Kids can remember their childhood from about 2.5 years old. So any parent reading this, beware of what your child hears/sees from you and what you do. But better still, be a parent. This kid that emotionally hurt my son clearly has issues. I don’t know what they are but his parents need to teach him a thing or 2 about kindness. My son is a kind soul and drew this because he cared enough about his friend that he wanted to give him something. As meaningless/priceless as a drawing may be, it’s the thought that counts.

Hustle

  
There’s a little theme going on in my blog that I’m noticing. I’ve accidentally been posting about ‘time’ without realising it.

Although this blog started as an outlet for me to voice my opinion on life – writing about anything and everything that I felt at the time. It’s quickly become ‘time’ focussed and I also found it has become somewhat a little novel about me and my journey so far. I’ve come to think of it as my little journal. A little something to leave behind for my son. Hoping one day he’ll read it.

My motivational word for 2016 is HUSTLE. 

Last year was a like a roller coaster ride for me. So much:

  • learnt
  • to remember
  • I wish I could change
  • So much… Everything!

In all of that, I learned that I didn’t do nearly as much as I should have, could have or would have – I wish I had my hustle mentality a year ago. But it’s too late for regrets now. I’ve gotta move on.

So in 2016, everyday I’m hustlin’.

We all lead busy lives. So I thought I’d share my opinion on this important topic of time.

It’s like all the quotes you’ve ever heard all rolled into one:

  • Make time for what you love
  • Stay positive, work hard, make it happen
  • No pain, no gain
  • or just #MotivationalQuotes and you’ll find one you like

So if you want it* enough, you need to work for it. And not just half-heartedly – give it all you’ve got.

*whatever “IT” means to you. e.g. health, wealth, happiness, dream job, family, possessions…

For me, IT means internal happiness. When I have that, everything else falls into place. It has a domino effect on my life.

So, to get my internal happiness, I need my mind and body in the right state. When I feel good physically, I make better choices in life. Better choices makes me happy. Happy me = happy family. Happy family means life is bliss.

So to start my internal happiness I have been getting myself back to a regular fitness schedule. Making time for it. Since Boxing Day, I’ve been tracking my exercise and over the last few days I found myself getting back into my old habits. I’d spent the last few days ‘resting’ instead of doing some form of exercise. So I told myself – “Enough’s enough!!! Just get it done Godly!!”

But it was 9:30pm on a Sunday night and it was getting late. I could have said to myself, just do it tomorrow. But I didn’t. I gave myself a quick internal pep talk and said #NoExcuses. 

I usually train with my friend once a week (at least) and more if our schedule permits. Lately we’ve been doing more due to school holidays because we’re both out of routine. She’s one of the people who inspire me to be more. When people say they have no time, you have to look at people like her who make time. She has 3 kids and still puts her health first. How can someone who has 3 kids still have time? Simple – she makes time.

Another friend told me that “you can’t help anyone else if a plane is going down without your oxygen mask on first. As a fellow mother, I can understand we feel guilty putting ourselves first but we fail to realise that it’s necessary in order to be the best mothers we can be.” Another person who inspires me to be the best mother I can be. 

I know there’s a theme here with mothers making time for the greater good of their family, but I’m certain there are others out there who don’t have kids, or animals, or any other commitments that also make time for themselves. We in the industry call it “me time”.

When you want something bad enough, you’ve gotta learn to hustle.

  1. Make it number 1 on your list.
  2. Set goals so that you have something to strive for.
  3. Keep track so you can see how far you’ve come.

The inspiration behind today’s post was my 25 minute at-home workout. All the excuses in the world could have come out but I chose to overcome them:

  1. I don’t have time – yes I do. It’s just 25 minutes.
  2. I can’t be bothered going for a run, going to the gym, putting on my gym wear etc – then don’t. Stay home and do it in the comfort of your bedroom/garage/lounge room/home gym and in your undies if you want!
  3. It’s late and I have work tomorrow – so what? And besides everyone has to get up for ‘something’ tomorrow. That’s not even a legitimate excuse.
  4. I can’t be bothered and I’m tired – boohoo. Cry me a river.

Truly, all those excuses went through my head tonight but I still got it done.

The hardest thing of all is control. And the hardest thing about control, is controlling our mind. When you have some control over that, you’re halfway there. The only thing left is the action. Most of us fall into the habit of letting our mind tell us things like:

  • I’ll start on Monday.
  • I’m too tired.
  • I’d rather be doing something else.
  • I’m on holidays.
  • I’m just missing 1 day/workout/etc.
  • [insert your own excuses here]

I try to remind myself when I start falling into the excuses trap, is to say to myself “hustle”. But do whatever mantra works for you! The Nike slogan is always a good one! The best part is that when you’ve done whatever it is that you’re making excuses about, you’ll feel so much better afterwards. You’ll be proud of yourself! Guaranteed!

After my workout was done, I was surprised when my son decided to drop and do 10 push ups. I guess he felt the need to do something himself. #Priceless

  

With all my heart

  
It was a cold winter but that did not stop me from being active. The cold weather is a good excuse to let yourself go for a few months and kind of hibernate like animals do. But not me.

I can’t take all the credit though, I owe it to a few people; Get The World Moving guys (aka The Global Corporate Challenge/GCC), my colleagues who participated and my 5.5 year old son who decided to join me on my 100 day journey. This is explained further in my Challenge Complete and The BEST Ever 3 posts!

My son is a champion. He joined me after the first week and surprised me – he completed the whole other 92 days with me. We challenged each other daily and he remained enthusiastic for the duration. I must admit, I didn’t think he’d last a month. Kids don’t usually have a long attention span but I was proven wrong. In that 92 days he managed to beat me on 65 of the days. That’s 70% of the time! His personal best was 21,770 steps! My personal best was 24,439 which was definitely not easy to do, especially when my daily target was 10K. Some days I wouldn’t even get anywhere near that. 

The best part about doing it with my son is that even though our GCC pulse devices are now off, we have managed to remain active long after the 100 days was over. With the weather warming up in Sydney, and the days getting longer due to daylight savings, we are trying to be as active as possible. I hope I have somehow inspired him to do more than play on the PS4, use his iPad or be a couch potato. 

Some other exciting news is that during this time as well my blog was read by the Founder & President of the Get The World Moving organisation, Glenn Riseley. I may have emailed him but that’s beside the point. He still read it and even better, he acknowledged it. And the best part is, I spoke to him personally over the phone about my idea and he also featured my blog on the GCC website! Turns out my idea was already trialled by them and sadly, the government were not on board so it didn’t get far. But this didn’t stop me. I thought outside the square and decided to still try this in my local community – my son’s school.

My purpose in life is to help shape the future; one step at a time. This is one of those steps. 

So I spoke to the School Principal about my idea and he said to email him some details and that he would discuss it with his executive team. I put my heart on that email and hit send. Unfortunately though, it hasn’t gone ahead. That was my 2nd stumble on a hurdle. I’m still not giving up.

Even though my ideas have not gotten far, I decided to try my colleagues. I used our internal social media outlet (our version of Twitter) to send a message to those who participated in the GCC. I asked for help with my community project by requesting anyone’s spare GCC pulse devices. Slightly deflated after the first 2 flops, I must admit, I wasn’t expecting anything to come out of this exercise but I was again happily surprised. I managed to get about 40 GCC pulse devices. Not the 700 that I needed for the school but it was a start.

So my little community project lives on. This in itself was a lot of work and took time but I’m so glad I did it. I will not stop. I will find a way to make this happen. #WatchThisSpace

The moral of the story is this (and I am taking this from Entrepreneur/Life Coach, Jonathan Doyle). You don’t need a bunch of ideas, you just need one idea that you’re willing to commit to! And I will keep trying – somehow I will find a way to get this up and running. Even if it’s just in my local community. I may not have all the money in the world to buy the tools I need to make things happen; or all the cool ideas or gadgets; or even the 1000’s of followers on my social media to get the exposure I need, but my heart is in this and that’s gotta count for something.

Being grateful

  
I’ve developed a new sense of appreciation this week. 

I was always grateful for my blessings but I am now more grateful than ever before.

For the last 3 days, my husband was away for work. This meant a change in my usual routine. It’s not like I’ve never done it before but I don’t recall doing it for more than one day at a time, since my son started school this year.

So the change in my routine required me to also drop my son off to school and therefore start work a little later. In essence, that’s all it really was. Everything else was still the same (i.e. prepare lunches, school pick up, work from home, make dinner, housework and quality time etc) but this one addition to my schedule actually meant so much more. And without going into the boring details, after 3 days of this, I was overwhelmed, stressed, tired but more importantly – I was grateful. For all that I have is why I am, where I am today.

Grateful firstly to my husband who plays a huge and important part in my life and our family. Put simply, I couldn’t live without him. No words could explain how much I underestimated his role as a father and husband. He is my rock and my everything. My homie, lover, friend!

Also grateful for my son – who despite his occasional moments of naughtiness – is independent and helps me out whenever I need him. But he also shows us everyday what life is all about – by showing us never ending love and affection. 

My friends and colleagues who are single parents. You are stronger than you realise. I thought I was doing ok – but I’m nothing compared to you! You have struggles no-one would understand until they lived in your shoes. I tried living in your shoes and I couldn’t survive 3 days! You’re an inspiration to me!

Lastly – for my employer – as a whole, as a team and as an individual. My employer allows for flexibility where some employers wouldn’t. My team have helped wherever possible to assist me during this time. And individually, my boss has been understanding of my circumstances even though he does not have a child of his own.

It’s funny that we need wake up calls or to hit rock bottom before we realise what we have. 

We may not always think we have everything we need. And we always want more. But sometimes, what we need is right in front of our eyes and we just take it for granted. 

👪 Hug the ones you love.

👏🏽 Be grateful everyday.

😃 And smile.

🌈 Life is beautiful!

The BEST Ever! Part 4

  
I haven’t been my best lately, as I have been unwell for almost a week. But life must go on. I still had to pick up my son from school so I rolled out of bed, grabbed my keys and left the house in my batman onesie (without thinking twice).

So as I walked to the school, a lot of things crossed my mind:

  • What will others think? 
  • What will the kids at school think? 
  • Will my son be embarrassed?
  • Will being myself have negative repercussions to him at school?
  • Will kids tease him because of my actions? 
  • Am I being selfish by not coming to school like a normal parent?

I realized that it was too late to think about what others would think and instead just think about my own beliefs.

In that moment, I thought only about 2 things:

  1. What matters to me; and
  2. What matters to my son.

What matters to me is that I am being myself. Regardless of what anybody else sees, I am happy to walk the streets in my batman onesie. I am different. But I am me. Wearing this outfit doesn’t mean I am trying to be the centre of attention. It just means I’m confident and comfortable.

Just before I walked to school, I grabbed a coffee to keep warm and my barista asked me “do you get looks wearing that?” Of course I do but I don’t care about what people think. She smiled and said “it’s ok to be different” and I replied “it’s ok to be yourself”.

Secondly, what my son thinks is the most important. When he saw me, he was happy and wanted to hug me. 

As soon as we had a quiet moment to chat, I asked him how he felt about me wearing my onesie to his school. He said happy. Then he said “and a little bit jealous.” I asked why he was happy and jealous. He said he was happy because he loved me. And jealous because he wasn’t wearing his one. #Twinning

I’m not sure he knows the feeling of embarrassment yet so I explained that too. I was worried he felt embarrassed. 

I never really thought about him being teased because of me. It was a selfish move on my part but one I don’t regret because I was able to explain this to my son by leading by example. 

I gave him some examples of things that kids may say to him at school tomorrow because of what they saw today. And I explained how to deal with each example.

We can’t always protect our kids (like when they are at school) but we (as parents) must be there to teach them along the way. I have to show him that he can be whoever he wants to be and to never let any one change him. 

I struggled as a teen to deal with kids who teased and bullied me for being different. To this day, I still remember the feeling when I let these people hurt me. I let them change me because I just wanted to fit in. I won’t let this happen to my son.

The message here is “Don’t change who you are. Instead surround yourself with the people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel!” #SurroundYourself
  
It takes me back to the old saying “sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me”. 

Personally that didn’t ring true for me but I learnt that lesson later in life and now I just need to raise my son to be confident in himself regardless of what the world will say to him. 

Just because someone says something, doesn’t mean it’s true!

You must believe in yourself and be the best ever!

– Godly –

16 July 2015

The BEST Ever! Part 3

  
I’ve always spoken about being the change. Being the one who acts to make this world better. But it’s not always like that. It is a give and take relationship too. In order to be more, we must also learn to accept and receive as well. And expect people to give back!

This came to me only today at mass. Our father is travelling overseas for 2 months and made an announcement at the end of mass. At the same time, he asked for our prayers – and I quote – “Please pray for me during this time. I pray for you all, so I expect you to pray for me as well.” Now I don’t know about you but this was true and although he meant it, it also sounded funny. There were some giggles from the congregation (me included) because even though this was serious, our father has a sense of humour and likes a good laugh.

So true though. Because we can’t always be the only ones giving. It’s not like I’m saying ask for things or if you do something, you can expect something in return. It’s more, about giving and taking at a different level.

Those who read blogs and listen to inspirational podcasts for example are a different bunch of people. Because let’s face it, not everyone has ‘time’ to read blogs, or even wants to read in general. Not all of us are the same and that’s a good thing.

But this is exactly why I do this. Because for the one person who reads this, I hope they share it with another person (not just by reading this) but through their actions. So that this other person can feel the change and then hopefully, they will reciprocate to a 3rd person and so forth. The same concept as pay it forward, but just live that philosophy. Rather than paying it forward to 3 people only.

That’s how I plan on shaping the future. 

My little blog here is travelling to many countries and I’m flattered that people have read it. If I could see what you are all doing with this, I think my heart would just melt. I’d love to read your comments if you have done something. Whether it be a tiny thing or a huge thing. We are all human and all deserve happiness and the best this world can offer. So feel free to share your happiness here. 😊

Since starting this blog, I’ve done some things that I never imagined I would do and it all stemmed from my blogging. It was a minor thing at the time but has blown out to something so much bigger. A real way to help shape the world. It may be small now but I have faith that this will grow into something worthwhile. It is now my project and I’m hoping to post some great news about this soon. I just want to have some more things confirmed before I do. Just know that I live the words I write. I’m not just preaching them. 

So to be The Best Ever, you have to give it your best. You just have to start and everything else will fall into place.

This project in a nutshell (and without spoiling it too much) started when I published my Change post.

Then the following happened without me realising it. 

  • I wrote about it in my Challenge Complete post.
  • I emailed the link to my blog to the GCC Founder and President, Glenn Riseley.
  • He replied to my email and I spoke to Glenn personally about my idea.
  • He helped me by publishing my Challenge Complete post on their website blog page.
  • I spoke to my son’s School Principal about the idea.
  • I emailed the CEO where I work to share with him.
  • I tweeted my idea on my work social media page to get support from my colleagues. 

  
  
And this is where I’m at, at the moment, but that all happened in a matter of weeks, in between working full time and my family life.

I wish I had more time to devote to this project but like all of us, we have responsibilities and bills need to be paid. But whatever comes of this, I will be proud that I did my best – not just for my son, for his school and my community, but for the world. This will be epic.

To be continued…

*Broken into parts because I have a lot to say. In the interest of keeping these short… This was necessary.

**Photo creds: Images from GetTheWorldMoving.com

– Godly –

13 July 2015

World peace… Yeah right?!?!

  

This weekend was a wake up call for me.

I sit in my corner and say how much I want to help shape the world. When I open my mouth these days, I self promote my blog because if I don’t, who will? So as I sat there proud of my achievements so far and feeling great about life, I hear my Goddaughter (and niece) say how much she loves studying ancient history. That’s great. But then she says how she doesn’t know about current affairs and things that are happening now. She said she doesn’t care, because – and this is what got me nothing’s going to change anyway. “We’ll never have world peace” she says. 

I was blown away by this for 2 reasons:

  1. I have hardly spoken to my Goddaughter which means I don’t know what she’s thinking. As opposed to her sister who I speak to a bit more who thinks I’m annoying. (I’ll explain that one in a separate post later).
  2. why is she so pessimistic and when did this all start? 

She’s a straight A’s student, who I admire for her dedication to her studies and is a model child. My polar opposite. So for her to think this way was odd to me.

This made me question her thoughts and I immediately directed her to my blog (which is the complete opposite of what she was feeling). 

Here I am trying to shape the world now so that one day my son will live in a place that is filled with love, happiness, peace (ok not necessarily world peace – but peace of some sort nonetheless), togetherness, unity, greatness and all of that kind of stuff. And this is not just for my son but for all of our children. For the children of today, are the future of tomorrow. The future presidents, politicians, doctors, carers, lawyers, bankers, specialists, officers etc. My hope is so that the world I leave behind is better than what we have today. I’m not saying the world is terrible now, but it can be better. 

I like to see myself as an optimistic person. So to hear a family member say this, saddens me. Her dad said “she’s like that” but I hope she reads this and can see that the world can change.

Recently, I was referred to Jonathan Doyle by my colleague (and General Manager) because I initially shared my blog with him. #SelfPromotingAgain. He advised me to listen to Jonathan as he has some interesting thoughts and that I may find it interesting.  

So this weekend I found myself listening to podcasts from Jonathan while I went about doing my housework. And one of them was about breaking negative associations

In a nutshell, he explains how people think about things because of negative associations and I can’t help but think that something happened to her to make her think this way. She must have tried to change something but it didn’t work out and therefore she thinks nothing will change.

So he explained the 3 steps to help break this mentality.

  1. Identify: choose a current situation that you have a negative association with. For example: What’s the point in exercising if I’m just going to be in pain afterwards?
  2. Brainstorm: create a new association. Using the same example above, how about exercising with a friend then going for a coffee afterwards.
  3. Allow time: it won’t happen the first time you try but eventually the new associations will override the negative ones. 

I have taken Jonathan’s advice on a different podcast ‘the bee episode‘ and finally picked up my cold iron kettlebells again. I moved them from the balcony into the office so that they are a constant reminder to pick them up regularly (hopefully daily) and change myself again and be a better version of myself again. Further to this, I set some goals on my goals tree and look forward to measuring them in a week/month/year to see how I am progressing. #Excited

We only get one life. Let’s make the most out of it. Who knows what’s around the corner. And if I don’t make it tomorrow, I know I’m doing everything I can today to live my life – my way! And I will die happy. #LoveLife

I achieved and learned so much this weekend, that I was able to get my thinking straight again. It started by listening to Jonathan’s podcasts, then speaking to my family and lastly shopping for the tags for my goals tree. It took a wake up call this weekend to realise that I was not as ‘on track’ as I thought I was.

Change is possible. And one of my favourite statements (which also happened to be one of my essay topics in high school) change is inevitable. 

A final word: This post is a dedication to my beautiful goddaughter (I do hope you’re reading this). I hope you can see that I am trying to change the world for you and every child out there. I know you’re 15 and no longer a child, but you know what I mean. Don’t be disheartened. Life is changing and life can change. You can live life however you want. Do what makes you happy! I love you. Xoxo

– Godly –
22 June 2015