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No Regrets


It’s been a while since I last published anything. But I won’t bore you with the details – I’m here now. 

Today, I am at a stage in my life where I am trying to find my feet again.

4.5 years ago I was given an opportunity. And as I reflect back on it now, I realise that I didn’t make the most of that opportunity; and now I’m left with a bitter taste in my mouth. 

A bitter taste of regret. 

Regret 

verb

Feel sad, repentant or disappointed over (something that one has or failed to do).

That ‘opportunity‘ pill is sure hard to swallow with that tall glass of ‘regret‘ on ice, sitting on that coaster called ‘life‘.

When you know you messed up and now you just have to pick up the pieces and start again. And you’re trying to stay positive when you’re really just miserable

Well, I guess I can sit here and just keep being miserable; and blame myself and others; and do nothing new tomorrow to change. But I won’t. 

You know why? Because tomorrow is a new day to be better than I was today! If I tell my son that, I should probably live up to it and follow my own ‘words of wisdom‘ (so they call it).

I don’t like to talk too much ‘crap’ and not actually come through with the goods. So I don’t want to say too much right now – But I know what I’m thinking when say this and this is only a personal goal I’ll keep between my family. But as of right now, I will train my mind & body for this new career that I just recently discovered I want to pursue. And the hardest part about this “challenge” is that it’s practically impossible for me to get into, because:

– I’m 34 and I’m getting a little on the ‘old’ side to be starting a new career;

– I’m nowhere near fit enough to do the physical aspects of the role (as much as I like to flex my guns) and I have an ankle injury that may not pass the medical assessment;

– They only accept about 120 people out of 7000 applications which is like 1%; and

– People re-apply annually and still haven’t made it in (according to posts I read on Facebook).

But despite the odds, I am going to try anyway. Because for me it ticks all the boxes of a rewarding career. A workplace I could happily go to each day and when I come home, I would be proud! If you can guess it based on the above, I bow down to you. But until I’ve made it in, I won’t tell a soul. For people will just find a way to shoot me down and tell me I can’t do it. And frankly – I don’t want any more negativity in my life! So if you’re gonna be a negative Nancy, you can just stop reading now!

So the beginning of 2017 was kinda up and down. It certainly had its highlights:

With an old friend Ken (introduced in the previous post ironically called ‘Introducing the Sun Chasers’) coming to Australia for a few months and bringing back some crazy adventures into our lives. And this is just his kind of humour… as we stroll through Bombo Headlands looking for a particular ‘rock’.




My nephew Enzo was born and brought some much needed happiness into our lives and on the other end of the birthdays, my mum turned the ripe old age of 75. 





With a slow-healing sprained left ankle (from my soccer injury last year), I still managed to conquer the flying trapeze! Not quite ready to join the circus yet though!


I saw Anh Do re-tell his story “The Happiest Refugee” at the ICC Sydney, with hubby and friends. Anh is such an inspiration to many! This book is a must-read!


Not an easy one to share with the world, but I saw a shrink to try and sort out my ‘issues‘, because I told myself that in 2017, I was going to be bigger and better than I was in 2016. And it may be 6 months into the year, but I’m not ready to give up on myself just yet! Although I’ve definitely wanted to.


I did the Colour Run Night with my family, sister, niece and cousin.


Hubby and I did a couples pottery lesson together!


My son started his own YouTube channel because he watches enough YouTube that he wanted to do his own. See a video of the Colour Run here.


I went skydiving (again) for my birthday! Which used to be my birthday tradition until I became a mum and had to start thinking responsibly. But this delightful surprise from my hubby reinvigorated my goal to become a certified tandem skydiving instructor (number 56 on my #Godlys100Things list).


I saw the Aladdin musical with my son (which was his second musical which is pretty good for a 7 year old). I didn’t see my first musical until I was in my 20’s.


I was finally called for Jury Duty which has been something I’ve always wanted to do (and many others try to avoid) – sadly, I didn’t make the cut. But the e perish even was fun, nonetheless.



We took our first (hopefully the first of many) camping trips as a family, to The Basin Campgrounds.


We bought a new car.


I started yet another new hobby (candle making)… as if I don’t have enough hobbies! And made a few floral arrangements of my own.





And as I scrolled through my camera roll, I honestly had no idea how much I’ve done this year. It’s scary to think that 6 months have gone by but I wouldn’t have been able to recall all those moments if I hadn’t taken a photo of them. 

And the lowlights of 2017, just aren’t worth a mention. I’d like to end this post on a positive!

So now as my goal for 2017 remains, I now look forward to the next 6 months with a newfound focus! Although unrealistic and very likely unachievable, I will give it my best shot. Because, right now, my career is my next target! Because everything else in my life is doing OK! And I’m happy with OK because there’s always another day to make it better than yesterday!


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Introducing ‘The Sun Chasers’


Friends are the family we wish we had. 

Some people are blessed with perfect parents, siblings, relatives… Some aren’t. 

Some find the beauty in their unique families. And let’s face it. We all have unique families.

And some make friends with those who they wish were in their family. 

I believe in the saying that people come into our lives for a reason. We cross paths with each other, to help us shape our future. It’s all part of the journey we’re on. 

Some will be short term, while others will stay a lifetime.

Some will come and go.

My husband and I met when I was only 15 – he was 14.

Naturally knowing each other that long, meant getting to know each other’s circle of friends too. One particular mutual friend, Ken, decided to go back to our home country, Philippines, approximately 15 years ago. His family remained in Australia so he’s been back and forth since then. In late 2016, due to personal reasons he came back to Australia for a short period and this is the story of how The Sun Chasers was born.

Ok, well technically this was just a name I spun-taneously created after our first official catch up. Also, for clarity, we are not officially The Sun Chasers, this is just what I have called us for the purposes of my Blog and to create a series. Each of us are individuals doing our own things. We just happen to share the same passion. #WeLovePuns

My husband’s two brothers from other mothers (Ken and Devin), our son (Gabriel) and myself decided to take a journey together. 

To explore, create memories and have adventures. 

Our purpose was the same – to travel and explore new things; to share our love of everything beautiful by using our creative minds and to create a story from what we capture; and to be positive and happy. Our adventures were spent together. But the stories we told, were our own. 

Meet Devin | Devin Legaspi | creating videos for YouTube of his travel stories and his journey.


Meet Ken | @iphonogra_ph | capturing photos only using his iPhone and publishing on Instagram. He is a Traveller. Dog lover. Musicon. Coffeesseur. Wordnerd. Dreamer. 


Ken also has today launched his YouTube channel, called Iphonograph Channel, which will follow on from his Instagram page and will feature tips on how to perfect your snaps. Watch this space. 

He is also a “wordnerd” as he puts it and his blog can be found at iphonogra.ph

Meet my son Gabriel | Gabes Tube | 7 year old newbie on YouTube. Creating a channel for kids and sharing his love of drawing, origami, Star Wars, LEGO, gaming, art & craft, music, dinosaurs and being creative. After years of watching other children on YouTube, experiencing the adventures we’ve shared as The Sun Chasers and with his own bubbly personality, he decided that in 2017 he was going to create his own channel. #Goals


My husband prefers to enjoy the adventures by living in the moment. I admit, his photos are WAAAYYYY better than mine, but are rarely posted on social media. He simply enjoys the adventures for what they are, without feeling the need to share them with the world.


And then there’s me. The First Lady. The only lady. Snapchat is the name. Living out my #Godlys100Things is my game. Many ask why I post everything. Many ask what am I doing it for. Many don’t understand. If you feel the need, follow me on Snap @Godly153 with a current snapchat score of 10,103 (whatever that means)! Please tell me if you know that that score actually means!


Since November 2016, we have discovered some new places, some were hidden treasures. Others were simple beauties. We even conquered some fears. 

Personally, my journey was to soul search. I even managed to tick some goals and I definitely learned a lot from each experience and from each individual. #Godlys100Things @GodlysCorner

The next few posts will be about each adventure so far. I hope you take something out of it, that you can incorporate into your own life. And perhaps take the adventure on yourself and tell your own story, in whatever platform you choose.

Remember:

Life is beautiful. 

Today is the day that you are living for. So make it count.

Tomorrow is not guaranteed. 

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take. But by the moments, that take our breath away.

Subscribe to my blog to be notified of when my posts are published. And keep your eyes out for The Sun Chasers series. 

For now, to wet your appetite, check out our creative work for the adventures we’ve had together and our own personal journeys. I guarantee you, it will be worth your while.

Until next time…

Keep smiling.


All the good things 

My last post was about 2016 and what brings me back to blogging. There were so many things that held me back from my writing but by the end of 2016, I grew my wings and started writing again.

2016 in one word: SHIT 💩

But it wasn’t all bad. There were so many good things as well. 

In fact, I managed to hit my goal of ticking 5 things off my #Godlys100Things list. I set up my goals tree back in June 2015, after listening to a podcast from Jonathan Doyle. 




I’m usually a goal-oriented person, without goals, I lose focus and become unbalanced. Last year’s New Years resolution was to build my upper body strength. 


That didn’t go exactly to plan. But, I have learnt from that. I set that goal up without planning and preparation. This year, my focus is on my health and fitness again. But this time, I came in with a plan:

  • I started with a personal trainer with fitness goals that are achievable and realistic;
  • I have healthy competition to keep me accountable and motivated; and
  • I have the right mindset coming in to 2017.

This is where it went wrong for me in 2016. 

But that’s ok, because all the good things from 2016 should be remembered and cherished as well. I’ll rattle off a few:

In January, me and my boys rode in a R44 helicopter over Sydney Harbour. This has made me want to add to my #Godlys100Things list and get a helicopters licence (number 9).



My hubby and I took a couples trip to Melbourne with another one of our couple friends, Dalin and Em.  The main purpose of this trip was to dine at Dinner By Heston Blumenthal (number 54). But I will do a separate post on this shortly. 

While on our couples trip, I played roulette for the first time and won a significant prize, we ate at some very delicious places, went to the Mornington Peninsula Hot Springs and had quite the romantic adventure.




We rescued a blue-tongue lizard who was injured near our pool and released him back into the wild when he was better. This led to us owning a blue tongue lizard as a pet. #Crikey



In February, I joined a Netball team. In my 32 years, I had never played netball and I loved it.


I watched The Sound of Music (The Musical) with my 6 year old. This was his first ever musical and he loved it. #LikeMotherLikeSon


Erica and I ran-then jogged-then walked the Night Colour Run.


In March, my son was elected SRC, he’s in year 1. This was not a great moment for me though. Check out my resilience post. #ProudMum

I celebrated my 33rd birthday in style, by having a Frozen party. I, again, had never ice-skated in my life and I was terrible, but it was so much fun. I also enjoyed watching friends and family show me their ice-skating skills and some who had no skills at all.



It sorta went downhill from the 7 March though. But let’s continue with my 2016 highlights…

My son figured out the Easter Bunny. #WiserThanHisYears


In April, we visited my bestie, Tracy, in QLD and I took my son to Dreamworld for the first time. Her son Harry is my son’s bestie too.


In another double date night with Dalin and Em, we went to see Akmal live for The Comedy Festival.

In May, #OperationHalfMarathon started abruptly. It is number 52 on my #Godlys100Things list, but I didn’t expect it to be happening quite so early in my running journey. Although my goal was to run a marathon, not half, but this is a start. My friend Erica and I have been running once a week since September 2014, when we initially both didn’t enjoy running. It has been a fun journey for both of us, we are at different fitness levels but I enjoy running weekly with her. My Saturday runs have gotten better and better (even though it ended in November when I injured my ankle playing social Soccer. Again, more on that in a different post – yet to come ). But overall, consistently running (even just once a week has improved my long distance running and split pace). Now, when my friend Dalin decided to train with me, running became 2x a week which has led us to train for a half marathon this year. #WishMeLuck



From June-November (life was demanding, busy, and all that jazz). It became too much that I didn’t want to post photos on Instagram anymore. Which is where I usually go to reminisce. 

I’ll try and do the last 6 months of 2016 in FFWD:

I made a flower crown for my niece (Stacey) and tried to get my hobby with flowers back into my weekends, I taught my son how to cross stitch, my work dad/buddy (David) retired, at work we changed it up and tried playing netball, we celebrated our friend’s (Mark and Cathy) engagement party, my work friend, (Rachel) opened up a new cafe, Stacey received the Sacrament of Confirmation and asked me to be her Godmother, Erica and I ran the 9km Harbour Bridge Run, my mum and I went to the flower festival (Floriade), Erica and I went to the Billabong Yoga Retreat, I learnt how to play the guitar, I participated in the Tour de Cure CAN4CANCER fundraiser d 21km walk, I went zip lining with my niece (Katelyn), I ticked off number 93 which was to walk/run the Bondi to Bronte…phew… that’s a lot!



Then due to personal reasons, a dear friend came back to Sydney after living overseas for almost 2 decades. 


As life remained difficult, laughter, adventure and friendship brought happiness back into our lives. I called us The Sun Chasers. More about our adventures in posts to come!

I had some great adventures/memories (Garie Beach, Central Coast road trip, fishing adventures, archery for our team building day, discovering the sleepy town of Windsor, Rediscovered Bent’s Basin, bubble soccer, had some poker nights at home, and lots of fun moments )


I actually started drafting this post on the 1st day of 2017, with the intention of it to be uploaded shortly after. But a whole month has gone by and it’s been quite a hectic January that I sit here on 2/2/2017 finishing this piece.

Initially I wanted to say that 2017 will be a bigger and better year for me. My son and I wrote up our goals for 2017 and already in 33 days, were kicking goals. Unfortunately I know this trend all too well. I start my year well and by June I’m all fizzled out/overwhelmed and tired. I am conscious of my actions and need to make myself accountable. I need to be my own motivation. But I can’t do it alone, like I did at certain times last year. I aim to post more regularly and keep my blog up to date with my journey. The best feeling is when someone asks me “when’s your next blog post coming out?” I write this blog for many reasons, but the most rewarding is to know someone out there reads it. 

Stay positive. 

Stay true to yourself.

Keep smiling.

What brings me back…to this world


I’ve been on a blogging break for so many reasons. I started this blog as my way of speaking up. Sometimes people say shit they can’t back up. Or they talk a lot of crap and I just wanna shut ’em down. But I’m in two minds about causing conflict. So I keep my mouth shut – sometimes. Mainly when the conflict is work-related or if I don’t want to cause trouble (in general). I’m not bad person – although some would think I am. So on this blog, I can pretty much say whatever I want. People say it’s a cowards way of dealing with it. I disagree. I just don’t like conflict. 

Secondly, when it’s my professional brand that’s at stake, I’d rather not risk it for a disagreement with a colleague. 

Also, this blog gives me a chance to put it out to others who may feel the same. To help others – hopefully one reader can get something useful out of this. Whether it’s inspirational or advice. However I’m not qualified to give advice so don’t take my word as gospel. Lol. The irony. I work in the complaints department, and one type of complaint we get is advice-related. 
Bringing me back on topic, the reasons I’ve been on a break was due to the tough year I had. I didn’t feel like blogging when my mindset was wrong. 

I also had some work challenges. 7 March 2016 was the biggest. It will be etched in my mind forever. 

I hadn’t just stopped blogging. I stopped Instagram as well. Like a celebrity in rehab trying to get back to basics. I couldn’t find the inspiration to post photos when my life was so broken. People ‘usually’ tend to only post good photos. People who want to say “Look how good my life is”. But deep down, they’re broken too. Only some will post everything about their lives – good and bad. I know a few. I think it’s TMI. I think social media is great. But be careful what you post. Who your audience is. What your telling them. Sometimes it’s nice to keep something to yourself. So I took myself off the grid (so to speak). I lost connections with those around me. I lost friends (as in friendships and those taken by God). I lost family too. 

This year was a huge wake up call. My estranged father passed away as well. It wasn’t a big deal to me. I knew it was coming. He was 90 years old.  I gave him the cold shoulder and we hadn’t spoken in a decade at least. Some would call me heartless. I had my reasons. No-one needed to understand. Because that was my battle. One I tried to deal with internally. And on my own. One big lesson was – you can’t do alone. We are human. We need each other to survive. We give each other love, compassion, truth and we also hurt each other. His passing made me realise that it wasn’t all his fault. I finally learnt that. But it was too late. I have learned to forgive him for his faults. And to let him rest in peace. I think about him more these days than when he was alive. 


Photo cred: My nephew who came to support me. I didn’t know he took this pic until after the funeral.

I feel like my anthem this year is Forgive me Father (feat. Meaghan Trainor, Wiz Khalifa & Wale) from DJ. Khaled’s Major Key  album. For two reasons. This is one of them. The other reason was for my personal battle and asking God for forgiveness. I particularly love the chorus. 


Like I mean this year started badly. New Year’s Eve was spent in my car angry at my son who had been playing up (partly due to extreme tiredness from the day’s events and partly from his cheeky personality and also the excitement NYE brings). So I kinda knew 2016 was gonna be rough. I’m superstitious like that. The way your year starts, is how it usually goes. 2017 is gonna be fucken awesome! 

I mean, it wasn’t all bad. It was pretty awesome too. But I couldn’t find the thing that made me want to blog again. I was having writers block. I wanted to blog. I just needed it to be meaningful. Today, I posted a photo on snapchat and replicated it on instagram. 

This was my 2016 in a nutshell.

I wrote it on the short 5 minute bus ride to work. And I didn’t think twice. It was just a post on snap. But for instagram (which I like to call my photo album) it was to track my life. For me, it’s not about how many followers or likes the photo gets. I have been off instagram for 6 months. And my last blog post was in Sept 2016. And people were asking. That was nice – To know I brought some value to some people. 

I’ve been focusing on myself this year. Working on my issues. My life. Getting my mojo back. If anyone didn’t understand that, that was their problem. Not mine. Harsh but true. We all have to take time out for ourselves. It’s how we cope. This meant friendships were balancing on a very fine tightrope ready to snap. And it did. I don’t know for sure but I’m pretty certain some friends are gone.

People will come and go. I’ve always believed that people come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes it’s short lived. But there was a reason. 

Sometimes people come and go and will always be there regardless. Whatever they go through – sometimes we share; sometimes we keep things bottled up. But no matter what happens, they will always be there. Because life happens. They are my true friends.

Sometimes people are there for a long time. But not necessarily for the right reasons. Sometimes they are there to help us along our journey. But they’re there for a reason. I’ve lost a few of these friends this year. Kinda just dropped off. I am hurt. But I am also human. I haven’t done this intentionally – life happened and this was the result. I miss them dearly but that’s how the cookie crumbled. 

My horoscope from The Daily Telegraph on 15/12/2016

Then there are friends who are taken away from us too soon. A real tragedy. One that makes me tear up every time. Rest in Peace Juanito. You will be missed. 

The photo I posted (above) attracted some attention. I even got a beautiful heartfelt SMS from my best friend to check if I was ok. Which got me to check my instagram post. As I only go in there intermittently. And I noticed it had 3 comments. Again from people who have inspired me to be the person I am today. Which brings me to my blog post. 

I hope you don’t mind me posting this hon.

A lightbulb moment. It was my sign to get back to blogging, doing what I love and sharing what I do. I don’t speak lies. I do what I say. I won’t always be motivated but I try. I will fall. And I have. But I guarantee, that I will get back up and hustle harder.
Watch this space. I’m back!

24 hours

  
I was fortunate to be part of something awesome today.

Something that made me feel good on the inside and out.
I was in my element: 

  • doing something for someone else,
  • helping people,
  • being active and on my feet,
  • constantly challenging myself,
  • and having fun.

At the end of it, I had a huge smile on my face. Exhausted but happy! Most photos were taken at the end and you can see the happiness in my smile.

Today, my colleagues and I were volunteering for a charity helping pack candle bags for the upcoming Woolworths Carols in the Domain event. It was a simple task but required hands and time. That’s where volunteers come in. I try to volunteer my time as much as I can because sometimes that’s where I can contribute the most. Charities need money, volunteers & resources to achieve their desired outcomes. I’m in a position to help as that’s what I love to do and I believe my purpose in life is to help shape the world.

It’s a small thing but I know there’s a roll on effect and there’s a bigger picture out there:

  • My time goes to charities who have products to sell;
  • Money raised from these products go back to the charity;
  • This money allows charities to help those in need;
  • Those who receive this assistance are better off in one way or another;
  • These people have the ability to pay it forward and so on.

It was nice to spend half the day with like-minded people (some of whom are in my reference groups). To encourage each other and learn from them was an experience in itself.

I can technically tick off 2 items from my list today but they are big ones for me and I’m not content that I’ve done enough to say “done”. It’s not about completing my list. For me, it’s about being able to say I’ve lived my life, my way. And that if I were to die tomorrow, I can say I did everything I could to be happy every day! 

  
For the curious ones and if you haven’t seen my list, I ticked off number 6 Volunteer and number 7 Help a charity.

These 2 items have been ongoing for me and I will continue to do them for the rest of my life. 

I don’t put my hand up for every volunteering opportunity that I come across and this event was certainly one that I thought about before saying “yes, I’ll do it”. The email came out and it said candle packing. Truth be told, I took this literally, as in we were going to pack candles into a bag. I thought how could this be helpful? Should I do it? Do I have time to do this? Will my manager let me take half a day off? Should I just wait until the next opportunity (as I can’t volunteer every time)? So many thoughts crossed my mind. I didn’t ponder it too long but decided to bite the bullet and here I am today – so glad I put my name down.

The reason I mention this is because I listened to a podcast the other day, which was about how to make a difficult decision, when you are in a low state? Like I mean this wasn’t the end of the world or anything life changing, but it was difficult nonetheless. Firstly, I knew I had another major event this week already. So this would mean 2 days off work and this would impact my workload and therefore have a flow on effect to my personal life, due to longer hours. That was the difficult part. But despite that, I went ahead with it anyway. I thought this was a small price to pay and my work and family will both be OK in the long run.

The thing that I took out of that podcast was the advice on how to make those decisions. One piece of advice was “think about the highest principle – which is love”. And if you think about it, I naturally made that decision because of this reason. I hadn’t even listened to that podcast yet when I decided to do this but my mindset was exactly that. The purpose was to volunteer my time for someone else’s benefit. To help people. And that’s what I love doing. So that’s why I ultimately decided to do it. 

So the next time that you have a difficult decision to make, maybe think about that principle. If you want to listen to that podcast, click here.

I feel like I was put on this earth to help people. I don’t know how yet but for now, I’ll just do it however I can. Today we helped The Salvation Army, who are helping Sydney’s homeless youth. I know at some point in my teens, I could have easily been someone who needed support like this, had it not been for the love and support of my family and friends. 

My last volunteering event through work was to help cook a meal for the community that attend The Wayside Chapel. An organisation who provide programs and services to the community. They ensure that the most marginalised members of our community have access to essential health, welfare, social and recreational services. That was such an amazing experience as well and a real eye opener. Today, I felt happy. Energised. Fortunate. Motivated. And all of these emotions came from packing candles. 

Which turned out to be hampers, including 4 candles for the carolling.

   

  

We can all say we don’t have time, but the funny thing is we all get the same 24 hours.

It’s about what you choose to do with yours.

In our group, we had everyone from my level all the way up to our General Manager. I’m sure his schedule was 100x more hectic than my 2 events this week but he made time. On top of that, he is currently in a boot due to an unfortunate ankle fracture, but he put others first before himself when he took his boot off so that he could wear closed shoes into the warehouse. Personally, I’ve been up for 18.5 hours and the alarm is due in 5.5 hours. But I won’t let that stop me from living the experiences that life has to offer. And I’m still so excited about it that I had to post this up tonight. 

My question to you is… What do you want to achieve in your 24 hours?

  

10 morning habits

  
There are 3 sides to every story. 

Your side. My side. And the truth. 

My side is this. This is my story. 

I am not always a happy person. But I try. I have my days like everyone else. These last few weeks have been a real struggle both physically and mentally. 

But you know everyday is a gift. It’s not guaranteed so why waste your day being negative?

To live a happy, meaningful life – one must be optimistic about life. 

I read these 10 morning habits one day and it made sense to me. So in line with my purpose to help shape the future, I’m sharing it with you. Take what you want from it and be happy. You don’t need to do all of them. Start with one. Just do it for yourself. Everything else will fall into place like a domino effect. 

1) Be grateful

So this is obvious.

Find the positives in everything. What are you grateful for? If you see the bad in something, think about what’s good and work from there. If you get the wrong sized coffee because they got your order wrong, try and see the positive and be grateful that you have a coffee at all. Some people don’t get the same luxury. Be grateful you have money to buy a coffee in the first place and smile. It’s not the end of the world. And abusing the coffee girl won’t make for a good mood for anyone. Don’t start your day like that. 

So that’s the small scheme of things. What if it’s something more serious. Let’s say you get into a car accident and your car is written off and you weren’t at fault. Ok that’s bad. And now your stuck using public transport until you can get a new car. So instead of being mad, be grateful that you had a car at all. Be grateful that no-one was hurt. Be grateful that you have insurance. You can get a new car. You can still walk and do everything you were doing when you had a car. You have money to pay for insurance in times like this. Nothing good is gained by negative thoughts and actions. 

2) Exercise 

This is very important to me. When your body has energy – you can do so much! Your mind is clear. You can do almost anything. Exercise is my me time. It’s my stress relief. It’s my thing. Make time for yourself because that’s the only person you can rely on. When you’re stuck on an island – it’s only you. So if you sit there and do nothing, nothing will happen. However if you sit there and work on yourself – watch what happens. Don’t make excuses!

  

3) Never forget spiritual connection

My name is Godly. But in no way am I living up to that name. I try. But it takes a lot to be Godly. If anything, I’m ungodly. Which is not something I’m proud of. But I’m trying. I have a responsibility to live my life as the best person I can be. And I have a huge name to live up to. My mum expected so much from me by giving me that name and I’m still working on it. After 33 years. Making time for God is necessary. It doesn’t need to be at church. Or announced to the world. Prayer can be done anywhere. At anytime. Have your 1 on 1 with God. He will listen.  

4) Plan a good deed

“Money doesn’t make people happy. People make people happy.” – Steve Wynn –

When you have good intentions – it won’t be hard to do. I can’t say I do this a lot or much but I try from time to time. 

Like I said, you don’t have to do all of these but start with one. 

5) Rarely ruminate about the past

No regrets. Life is for living. We all make mistakes. It doesn’t mean you can keep doing it. You need to learn from the mistake and grow. But don’t regret what you did. Just learn from it.

Don’t let failures of the past get you. When you fail, it’s proof you tried. Failing isn’t about winning or losing. It’s how you bounce back. Failing doesn’t mean stop trying, it means try again until you succceed. Failing helps you to be better. We’ve all failed at something. Who cares. But learn why you failed and keep going. 

Live for today. For today is all we have. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. So why waste your time thinking 

“I’ll do it tomorrow.”

“When I’m 30 I’ll do [insert your own thing here].”

“One day…”

Why are you waiting? What are you waiting for? What if you never get that chance? You’ll never forgive yourself. You’ll regret wasting time. Coz time is all we have. Money will not bring you happiness. People make happiness. Be that thing that makes people happy. Spend your time doing what you love. It’s simple really. 

6) Make happiness habit

Make joy, gratitude & mindfulness part of your daily habit. Amen to that. If anything, this is one you start with. No explanation needed. 

7) Set daily goals
Prioritise what’s important. Do them first.

Get the difficult tasks out of the way and the rest will follow. Procrastinating doesn’t get anything done. 

8) Take out a happiness subscription 

Don’t wait around for happy things to come to you. Make it happen. 

Spread the happiness. 

There were 2 others but they didn’t make sense to me so I won’t add them here. Insert your own 2 in the comments below to make up the 10. I’d love to know that someone’s reading this – so your comments are eagerly accepted. Heck, I’d love my inbox to be flooded with emails saying someone has commented on your post. Flood me. I’m ready. And if I’m wrong – correct me. I’ll take it. 

Until next time.

Keep smiling. And follow my life on snapchat godly153 | Instagram godlyscorner | Twitter @godlysaycon

Hustle

  
There’s a little theme going on in my blog that I’m noticing. I’ve accidentally been posting about ‘time’ without realising it.

Although this blog started as an outlet for me to voice my opinion on life – writing about anything and everything that I felt at the time. It’s quickly become ‘time’ focussed and I also found it has become somewhat a little novel about me and my journey so far. I’ve come to think of it as my little journal. A little something to leave behind for my son. Hoping one day he’ll read it.

My motivational word for 2016 is HUSTLE. 

Last year was a like a roller coaster ride for me. So much:

  • learnt
  • to remember
  • I wish I could change
  • So much… Everything!

In all of that, I learned that I didn’t do nearly as much as I should have, could have or would have – I wish I had my hustle mentality a year ago. But it’s too late for regrets now. I’ve gotta move on.

So in 2016, everyday I’m hustlin’.

We all lead busy lives. So I thought I’d share my opinion on this important topic of time.

It’s like all the quotes you’ve ever heard all rolled into one:

  • Make time for what you love
  • Stay positive, work hard, make it happen
  • No pain, no gain
  • or just #MotivationalQuotes and you’ll find one you like

So if you want it* enough, you need to work for it. And not just half-heartedly – give it all you’ve got.

*whatever “IT” means to you. e.g. health, wealth, happiness, dream job, family, possessions…

For me, IT means internal happiness. When I have that, everything else falls into place. It has a domino effect on my life.

So, to get my internal happiness, I need my mind and body in the right state. When I feel good physically, I make better choices in life. Better choices makes me happy. Happy me = happy family. Happy family means life is bliss.

So to start my internal happiness I have been getting myself back to a regular fitness schedule. Making time for it. Since Boxing Day, I’ve been tracking my exercise and over the last few days I found myself getting back into my old habits. I’d spent the last few days ‘resting’ instead of doing some form of exercise. So I told myself – “Enough’s enough!!! Just get it done Godly!!”

But it was 9:30pm on a Sunday night and it was getting late. I could have said to myself, just do it tomorrow. But I didn’t. I gave myself a quick internal pep talk and said #NoExcuses. 

I usually train with my friend once a week (at least) and more if our schedule permits. Lately we’ve been doing more due to school holidays because we’re both out of routine. She’s one of the people who inspire me to be more. When people say they have no time, you have to look at people like her who make time. She has 3 kids and still puts her health first. How can someone who has 3 kids still have time? Simple – she makes time.

Another friend told me that “you can’t help anyone else if a plane is going down without your oxygen mask on first. As a fellow mother, I can understand we feel guilty putting ourselves first but we fail to realise that it’s necessary in order to be the best mothers we can be.” Another person who inspires me to be the best mother I can be. 

I know there’s a theme here with mothers making time for the greater good of their family, but I’m certain there are others out there who don’t have kids, or animals, or any other commitments that also make time for themselves. We in the industry call it “me time”.

When you want something bad enough, you’ve gotta learn to hustle.

  1. Make it number 1 on your list.
  2. Set goals so that you have something to strive for.
  3. Keep track so you can see how far you’ve come.

The inspiration behind today’s post was my 25 minute at-home workout. All the excuses in the world could have come out but I chose to overcome them:

  1. I don’t have time – yes I do. It’s just 25 minutes.
  2. I can’t be bothered going for a run, going to the gym, putting on my gym wear etc – then don’t. Stay home and do it in the comfort of your bedroom/garage/lounge room/home gym and in your undies if you want!
  3. It’s late and I have work tomorrow – so what? And besides everyone has to get up for ‘something’ tomorrow. That’s not even a legitimate excuse.
  4. I can’t be bothered and I’m tired – boohoo. Cry me a river.

Truly, all those excuses went through my head tonight but I still got it done.

The hardest thing of all is control. And the hardest thing about control, is controlling our mind. When you have some control over that, you’re halfway there. The only thing left is the action. Most of us fall into the habit of letting our mind tell us things like:

  • I’ll start on Monday.
  • I’m too tired.
  • I’d rather be doing something else.
  • I’m on holidays.
  • I’m just missing 1 day/workout/etc.
  • [insert your own excuses here]

I try to remind myself when I start falling into the excuses trap, is to say to myself “hustle”. But do whatever mantra works for you! The Nike slogan is always a good one! The best part is that when you’ve done whatever it is that you’re making excuses about, you’ll feel so much better afterwards. You’ll be proud of yourself! Guaranteed!

After my workout was done, I was surprised when my son decided to drop and do 10 push ups. I guess he felt the need to do something himself. #Priceless

  

To learn something new

  

I just love learning something new. I love the saying “you learn something new everyday!” It’s so true.

Today, I learnt something about a product I deal with everyday and more about how to do my job better. A job I’ve been in for almost 3 years. I know what I’m doing – yet I still have so much to learn. 

Lately I’ve been learning how to swim. Yep! You read that right – how to swim. I’m 32 years old and this year, I’m learning a new life skill. This was also number 41 on my 100 Things list. There were so many reasons why I wanted to learn this skill:

  1. to save my own life (I’ve had a couple of near death experiences with drowning)
  2. to be able to save my son’s life (God forbid that ever happens)
  3. to be able to participate in The Amazing Race TV series (number 20 on my list). I’ve applied a couple of times and they never call me. So to increase my chances, knowing how to swim might help me get a phone call. I really want to test myself in that kind of environment. How strong mentally and physically am I really? Can I really do anything I put my mind to? A show like this that would really allow me to test myself. How competitive am I really? #OneDay
  4. a new activity for me to keep fit
  5. a means of getting to/from work/school/home 

In December 2014, I decided to learn how to ride a bike (number 99). One beautiful, sunny day, we were buying a bike for my husband and my son was just learning how to move the pedals. I didn’t want to be left behind. I wanted to buy a little girls bike with training wheels. But the sales lady wouldn’t let me. She insisted on teaching me. It took 1 phone call to make the appointment, $140 and 2 lessons. And the rest is history. I must admit, learning was scary. Mainly because I didn’t want to fall. But now, the feeling of riding is exhilarating. I love the freedom. The solitude. And the family rides – that we are yet to have. I’m still teaching my son how to ride. It’s been about 10 months since we took his training wheels off. He’s still learning and he’s getting there. But we’re not yet 100% confident that he can stop suddenly if he needs to and ride fully independently while we’re both on our bikes too. So one day, this will happen – My dream of getting on our bikes on a Sunday arvo and just riding. #MakingItHappen

  

  
     

One thing I tell my son is that everyone needs to learn something. As a parent, teaching your kids is one of the most important things. The fact that I showed him that I too need to learn how to ride a bike, hopefully in some way motivated him too. I must admit, he doesn’t really like trying new things. But slowly, he’s learning that new things are great.

I’m learning new things everyday, every week, every month and every year. So when you see an obstacle, think of the opportunity it brings. Find the reason why it came into your life. Embrace it. Make it work for you. #RemainOptimistic

Next on my list of skills to learn…

Number 72. Learn to drive a manual car

Once I learn that, I’ll be totally ready for my journey on The Amazing Race. #WatchMeWhip

Life’s a journey. Life is meant to be lived. What are you waiting for? Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

With all my heart

  
It was a cold winter but that did not stop me from being active. The cold weather is a good excuse to let yourself go for a few months and kind of hibernate like animals do. But not me.

I can’t take all the credit though, I owe it to a few people; Get The World Moving guys (aka The Global Corporate Challenge/GCC), my colleagues who participated and my 5.5 year old son who decided to join me on my 100 day journey. This is explained further in my Challenge Complete and The BEST Ever 3 posts!

My son is a champion. He joined me after the first week and surprised me – he completed the whole other 92 days with me. We challenged each other daily and he remained enthusiastic for the duration. I must admit, I didn’t think he’d last a month. Kids don’t usually have a long attention span but I was proven wrong. In that 92 days he managed to beat me on 65 of the days. That’s 70% of the time! His personal best was 21,770 steps! My personal best was 24,439 which was definitely not easy to do, especially when my daily target was 10K. Some days I wouldn’t even get anywhere near that. 

The best part about doing it with my son is that even though our GCC pulse devices are now off, we have managed to remain active long after the 100 days was over. With the weather warming up in Sydney, and the days getting longer due to daylight savings, we are trying to be as active as possible. I hope I have somehow inspired him to do more than play on the PS4, use his iPad or be a couch potato. 

Some other exciting news is that during this time as well my blog was read by the Founder & President of the Get The World Moving organisation, Glenn Riseley. I may have emailed him but that’s beside the point. He still read it and even better, he acknowledged it. And the best part is, I spoke to him personally over the phone about my idea and he also featured my blog on the GCC website! Turns out my idea was already trialled by them and sadly, the government were not on board so it didn’t get far. But this didn’t stop me. I thought outside the square and decided to still try this in my local community – my son’s school.

My purpose in life is to help shape the future; one step at a time. This is one of those steps. 

So I spoke to the School Principal about my idea and he said to email him some details and that he would discuss it with his executive team. I put my heart on that email and hit send. Unfortunately though, it hasn’t gone ahead. That was my 2nd stumble on a hurdle. I’m still not giving up.

Even though my ideas have not gotten far, I decided to try my colleagues. I used our internal social media outlet (our version of Twitter) to send a message to those who participated in the GCC. I asked for help with my community project by requesting anyone’s spare GCC pulse devices. Slightly deflated after the first 2 flops, I must admit, I wasn’t expecting anything to come out of this exercise but I was again happily surprised. I managed to get about 40 GCC pulse devices. Not the 700 that I needed for the school but it was a start.

So my little community project lives on. This in itself was a lot of work and took time but I’m so glad I did it. I will not stop. I will find a way to make this happen. #WatchThisSpace

The moral of the story is this (and I am taking this from Entrepreneur/Life Coach, Jonathan Doyle). You don’t need a bunch of ideas, you just need one idea that you’re willing to commit to! And I will keep trying – somehow I will find a way to get this up and running. Even if it’s just in my local community. I may not have all the money in the world to buy the tools I need to make things happen; or all the cool ideas or gadgets; or even the 1000’s of followers on my social media to get the exposure I need, but my heart is in this and that’s gotta count for something.

The BEST Ever! Part 3

  
I’ve always spoken about being the change. Being the one who acts to make this world better. But it’s not always like that. It is a give and take relationship too. In order to be more, we must also learn to accept and receive as well. And expect people to give back!

This came to me only today at mass. Our father is travelling overseas for 2 months and made an announcement at the end of mass. At the same time, he asked for our prayers – and I quote – “Please pray for me during this time. I pray for you all, so I expect you to pray for me as well.” Now I don’t know about you but this was true and although he meant it, it also sounded funny. There were some giggles from the congregation (me included) because even though this was serious, our father has a sense of humour and likes a good laugh.

So true though. Because we can’t always be the only ones giving. It’s not like I’m saying ask for things or if you do something, you can expect something in return. It’s more, about giving and taking at a different level.

Those who read blogs and listen to inspirational podcasts for example are a different bunch of people. Because let’s face it, not everyone has ‘time’ to read blogs, or even wants to read in general. Not all of us are the same and that’s a good thing.

But this is exactly why I do this. Because for the one person who reads this, I hope they share it with another person (not just by reading this) but through their actions. So that this other person can feel the change and then hopefully, they will reciprocate to a 3rd person and so forth. The same concept as pay it forward, but just live that philosophy. Rather than paying it forward to 3 people only.

That’s how I plan on shaping the future. 

My little blog here is travelling to many countries and I’m flattered that people have read it. If I could see what you are all doing with this, I think my heart would just melt. I’d love to read your comments if you have done something. Whether it be a tiny thing or a huge thing. We are all human and all deserve happiness and the best this world can offer. So feel free to share your happiness here. 😊

Since starting this blog, I’ve done some things that I never imagined I would do and it all stemmed from my blogging. It was a minor thing at the time but has blown out to something so much bigger. A real way to help shape the world. It may be small now but I have faith that this will grow into something worthwhile. It is now my project and I’m hoping to post some great news about this soon. I just want to have some more things confirmed before I do. Just know that I live the words I write. I’m not just preaching them. 

So to be The Best Ever, you have to give it your best. You just have to start and everything else will fall into place.

This project in a nutshell (and without spoiling it too much) started when I published my Change post.

Then the following happened without me realising it. 

  • I wrote about it in my Challenge Complete post.
  • I emailed the link to my blog to the GCC Founder and President, Glenn Riseley.
  • He replied to my email and I spoke to Glenn personally about my idea.
  • He helped me by publishing my Challenge Complete post on their website blog page.
  • I spoke to my son’s School Principal about the idea.
  • I emailed the CEO where I work to share with him.
  • I tweeted my idea on my work social media page to get support from my colleagues. 

  
  
And this is where I’m at, at the moment, but that all happened in a matter of weeks, in between working full time and my family life.

I wish I had more time to devote to this project but like all of us, we have responsibilities and bills need to be paid. But whatever comes of this, I will be proud that I did my best – not just for my son, for his school and my community, but for the world. This will be epic.

To be continued…

*Broken into parts because I have a lot to say. In the interest of keeping these short… This was necessary.

**Photo creds: Images from GetTheWorldMoving.com

– Godly –

13 July 2015