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No Regrets


It’s been a while since I last published anything. But I won’t bore you with the details – I’m here now. 

Today, I am at a stage in my life where I am trying to find my feet again.

4.5 years ago I was given an opportunity. And as I reflect back on it now, I realise that I didn’t make the most of that opportunity; and now I’m left with a bitter taste in my mouth. 

A bitter taste of regret. 

Regret 

verb

Feel sad, repentant or disappointed over (something that one has or failed to do).

That ‘opportunity‘ pill is sure hard to swallow with that tall glass of ‘regret‘ on ice, sitting on that coaster called ‘life‘.

When you know you messed up and now you just have to pick up the pieces and start again. And you’re trying to stay positive when you’re really just miserable

Well, I guess I can sit here and just keep being miserable; and blame myself and others; and do nothing new tomorrow to change. But I won’t. 

You know why? Because tomorrow is a new day to be better than I was today! If I tell my son that, I should probably live up to it and follow my own ‘words of wisdom‘ (so they call it).

I don’t like to talk too much ‘crap’ and not actually come through with the goods. So I don’t want to say too much right now – But I know what I’m thinking when say this and this is only a personal goal I’ll keep between my family. But as of right now, I will train my mind & body for this new career that I just recently discovered I want to pursue. And the hardest part about this “challenge” is that it’s practically impossible for me to get into, because:

– I’m 34 and I’m getting a little on the ‘old’ side to be starting a new career;

– I’m nowhere near fit enough to do the physical aspects of the role (as much as I like to flex my guns) and I have an ankle injury that may not pass the medical assessment;

– They only accept about 120 people out of 7000 applications which is like 1%; and

– People re-apply annually and still haven’t made it in (according to posts I read on Facebook).

But despite the odds, I am going to try anyway. Because for me it ticks all the boxes of a rewarding career. A workplace I could happily go to each day and when I come home, I would be proud! If you can guess it based on the above, I bow down to you. But until I’ve made it in, I won’t tell a soul. For people will just find a way to shoot me down and tell me I can’t do it. And frankly – I don’t want any more negativity in my life! So if you’re gonna be a negative Nancy, you can just stop reading now!

So the beginning of 2017 was kinda up and down. It certainly had its highlights:

With an old friend Ken (introduced in the previous post ironically called ‘Introducing the Sun Chasers’) coming to Australia for a few months and bringing back some crazy adventures into our lives. And this is just his kind of humour… as we stroll through Bombo Headlands looking for a particular ‘rock’.




My nephew Enzo was born and brought some much needed happiness into our lives and on the other end of the birthdays, my mum turned the ripe old age of 75. 





With a slow-healing sprained left ankle (from my soccer injury last year), I still managed to conquer the flying trapeze! Not quite ready to join the circus yet though!


I saw Anh Do re-tell his story “The Happiest Refugee” at the ICC Sydney, with hubby and friends. Anh is such an inspiration to many! This book is a must-read!


Not an easy one to share with the world, but I saw a shrink to try and sort out my ‘issues‘, because I told myself that in 2017, I was going to be bigger and better than I was in 2016. And it may be 6 months into the year, but I’m not ready to give up on myself just yet! Although I’ve definitely wanted to.


I did the Colour Run Night with my family, sister, niece and cousin.


Hubby and I did a couples pottery lesson together!


My son started his own YouTube channel because he watches enough YouTube that he wanted to do his own. See a video of the Colour Run here.


I went skydiving (again) for my birthday! Which used to be my birthday tradition until I became a mum and had to start thinking responsibly. But this delightful surprise from my hubby reinvigorated my goal to become a certified tandem skydiving instructor (number 56 on my #Godlys100Things list).


I saw the Aladdin musical with my son (which was his second musical which is pretty good for a 7 year old). I didn’t see my first musical until I was in my 20’s.


I was finally called for Jury Duty which has been something I’ve always wanted to do (and many others try to avoid) – sadly, I didn’t make the cut. But the e perish even was fun, nonetheless.



We took our first (hopefully the first of many) camping trips as a family, to The Basin Campgrounds.


We bought a new car.


I started yet another new hobby (candle making)… as if I don’t have enough hobbies! And made a few floral arrangements of my own.





And as I scrolled through my camera roll, I honestly had no idea how much I’ve done this year. It’s scary to think that 6 months have gone by but I wouldn’t have been able to recall all those moments if I hadn’t taken a photo of them. 

And the lowlights of 2017, just aren’t worth a mention. I’d like to end this post on a positive!

So now as my goal for 2017 remains, I now look forward to the next 6 months with a newfound focus! Although unrealistic and very likely unachievable, I will give it my best shot. Because, right now, my career is my next target! Because everything else in my life is doing OK! And I’m happy with OK because there’s always another day to make it better than yesterday!


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Introducing ‘The Sun Chasers’


Friends are the family we wish we had. 

Some people are blessed with perfect parents, siblings, relatives… Some aren’t. 

Some find the beauty in their unique families. And let’s face it. We all have unique families.

And some make friends with those who they wish were in their family. 

I believe in the saying that people come into our lives for a reason. We cross paths with each other, to help us shape our future. It’s all part of the journey we’re on. 

Some will be short term, while others will stay a lifetime.

Some will come and go.

My husband and I met when I was only 15 – he was 14.

Naturally knowing each other that long, meant getting to know each other’s circle of friends too. One particular mutual friend, Ken, decided to go back to our home country, Philippines, approximately 15 years ago. His family remained in Australia so he’s been back and forth since then. In late 2016, due to personal reasons he came back to Australia for a short period and this is the story of how The Sun Chasers was born.

Ok, well technically this was just a name I spun-taneously created after our first official catch up. Also, for clarity, we are not officially The Sun Chasers, this is just what I have called us for the purposes of my Blog and to create a series. Each of us are individuals doing our own things. We just happen to share the same passion. #WeLovePuns

My husband’s two brothers from other mothers (Ken and Devin), our son (Gabriel) and myself decided to take a journey together. 

To explore, create memories and have adventures. 

Our purpose was the same – to travel and explore new things; to share our love of everything beautiful by using our creative minds and to create a story from what we capture; and to be positive and happy. Our adventures were spent together. But the stories we told, were our own. 

Meet Devin | Devin Legaspi | creating videos for YouTube of his travel stories and his journey.


Meet Ken | @iphonogra_ph | capturing photos only using his iPhone and publishing on Instagram. He is a Traveller. Dog lover. Musicon. Coffeesseur. Wordnerd. Dreamer. 


Ken also has today launched his YouTube channel, called Iphonograph Channel, which will follow on from his Instagram page and will feature tips on how to perfect your snaps. Watch this space. 

He is also a “wordnerd” as he puts it and his blog can be found at iphonogra.ph

Meet my son Gabriel | Gabes Tube | 7 year old newbie on YouTube. Creating a channel for kids and sharing his love of drawing, origami, Star Wars, LEGO, gaming, art & craft, music, dinosaurs and being creative. After years of watching other children on YouTube, experiencing the adventures we’ve shared as The Sun Chasers and with his own bubbly personality, he decided that in 2017 he was going to create his own channel. #Goals


My husband prefers to enjoy the adventures by living in the moment. I admit, his photos are WAAAYYYY better than mine, but are rarely posted on social media. He simply enjoys the adventures for what they are, without feeling the need to share them with the world.


And then there’s me. The First Lady. The only lady. Snapchat is the name. Living out my #Godlys100Things is my game. Many ask why I post everything. Many ask what am I doing it for. Many don’t understand. If you feel the need, follow me on Snap @Godly153 with a current snapchat score of 10,103 (whatever that means)! Please tell me if you know that that score actually means!


Since November 2016, we have discovered some new places, some were hidden treasures. Others were simple beauties. We even conquered some fears. 

Personally, my journey was to soul search. I even managed to tick some goals and I definitely learned a lot from each experience and from each individual. #Godlys100Things @GodlysCorner

The next few posts will be about each adventure so far. I hope you take something out of it, that you can incorporate into your own life. And perhaps take the adventure on yourself and tell your own story, in whatever platform you choose.

Remember:

Life is beautiful. 

Today is the day that you are living for. So make it count.

Tomorrow is not guaranteed. 

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take. But by the moments, that take our breath away.

Subscribe to my blog to be notified of when my posts are published. And keep your eyes out for The Sun Chasers series. 

For now, to wet your appetite, check out our creative work for the adventures we’ve had together and our own personal journeys. I guarantee you, it will be worth your while.

Until next time…

Keep smiling.


What brings me back…to this world


I’ve been on a blogging break for so many reasons. I started this blog as my way of speaking up. Sometimes people say shit they can’t back up. Or they talk a lot of crap and I just wanna shut ’em down. But I’m in two minds about causing conflict. So I keep my mouth shut – sometimes. Mainly when the conflict is work-related or if I don’t want to cause trouble (in general). I’m not bad person – although some would think I am. So on this blog, I can pretty much say whatever I want. People say it’s a cowards way of dealing with it. I disagree. I just don’t like conflict. 

Secondly, when it’s my professional brand that’s at stake, I’d rather not risk it for a disagreement with a colleague. 

Also, this blog gives me a chance to put it out to others who may feel the same. To help others – hopefully one reader can get something useful out of this. Whether it’s inspirational or advice. However I’m not qualified to give advice so don’t take my word as gospel. Lol. The irony. I work in the complaints department, and one type of complaint we get is advice-related. 
Bringing me back on topic, the reasons I’ve been on a break was due to the tough year I had. I didn’t feel like blogging when my mindset was wrong. 

I also had some work challenges. 7 March 2016 was the biggest. It will be etched in my mind forever. 

I hadn’t just stopped blogging. I stopped Instagram as well. Like a celebrity in rehab trying to get back to basics. I couldn’t find the inspiration to post photos when my life was so broken. People ‘usually’ tend to only post good photos. People who want to say “Look how good my life is”. But deep down, they’re broken too. Only some will post everything about their lives – good and bad. I know a few. I think it’s TMI. I think social media is great. But be careful what you post. Who your audience is. What your telling them. Sometimes it’s nice to keep something to yourself. So I took myself off the grid (so to speak). I lost connections with those around me. I lost friends (as in friendships and those taken by God). I lost family too. 

This year was a huge wake up call. My estranged father passed away as well. It wasn’t a big deal to me. I knew it was coming. He was 90 years old.  I gave him the cold shoulder and we hadn’t spoken in a decade at least. Some would call me heartless. I had my reasons. No-one needed to understand. Because that was my battle. One I tried to deal with internally. And on my own. One big lesson was – you can’t do alone. We are human. We need each other to survive. We give each other love, compassion, truth and we also hurt each other. His passing made me realise that it wasn’t all his fault. I finally learnt that. But it was too late. I have learned to forgive him for his faults. And to let him rest in peace. I think about him more these days than when he was alive. 


Photo cred: My nephew who came to support me. I didn’t know he took this pic until after the funeral.

I feel like my anthem this year is Forgive me Father (feat. Meaghan Trainor, Wiz Khalifa & Wale) from DJ. Khaled’s Major Key  album. For two reasons. This is one of them. The other reason was for my personal battle and asking God for forgiveness. I particularly love the chorus. 


Like I mean this year started badly. New Year’s Eve was spent in my car angry at my son who had been playing up (partly due to extreme tiredness from the day’s events and partly from his cheeky personality and also the excitement NYE brings). So I kinda knew 2016 was gonna be rough. I’m superstitious like that. The way your year starts, is how it usually goes. 2017 is gonna be fucken awesome! 

I mean, it wasn’t all bad. It was pretty awesome too. But I couldn’t find the thing that made me want to blog again. I was having writers block. I wanted to blog. I just needed it to be meaningful. Today, I posted a photo on snapchat and replicated it on instagram. 

This was my 2016 in a nutshell.

I wrote it on the short 5 minute bus ride to work. And I didn’t think twice. It was just a post on snap. But for instagram (which I like to call my photo album) it was to track my life. For me, it’s not about how many followers or likes the photo gets. I have been off instagram for 6 months. And my last blog post was in Sept 2016. And people were asking. That was nice – To know I brought some value to some people. 

I’ve been focusing on myself this year. Working on my issues. My life. Getting my mojo back. If anyone didn’t understand that, that was their problem. Not mine. Harsh but true. We all have to take time out for ourselves. It’s how we cope. This meant friendships were balancing on a very fine tightrope ready to snap. And it did. I don’t know for sure but I’m pretty certain some friends are gone.

People will come and go. I’ve always believed that people come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes it’s short lived. But there was a reason. 

Sometimes people come and go and will always be there regardless. Whatever they go through – sometimes we share; sometimes we keep things bottled up. But no matter what happens, they will always be there. Because life happens. They are my true friends.

Sometimes people are there for a long time. But not necessarily for the right reasons. Sometimes they are there to help us along our journey. But they’re there for a reason. I’ve lost a few of these friends this year. Kinda just dropped off. I am hurt. But I am also human. I haven’t done this intentionally – life happened and this was the result. I miss them dearly but that’s how the cookie crumbled. 

My horoscope from The Daily Telegraph on 15/12/2016

Then there are friends who are taken away from us too soon. A real tragedy. One that makes me tear up every time. Rest in Peace Juanito. You will be missed. 

The photo I posted (above) attracted some attention. I even got a beautiful heartfelt SMS from my best friend to check if I was ok. Which got me to check my instagram post. As I only go in there intermittently. And I noticed it had 3 comments. Again from people who have inspired me to be the person I am today. Which brings me to my blog post. 

I hope you don’t mind me posting this hon.

A lightbulb moment. It was my sign to get back to blogging, doing what I love and sharing what I do. I don’t speak lies. I do what I say. I won’t always be motivated but I try. I will fall. And I have. But I guarantee, that I will get back up and hustle harder.
Watch this space. I’m back!