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Introducing ‘The Sun Chasers’


Friends are the family we wish we had. 

Some people are blessed with perfect parents, siblings, relatives… Some aren’t. 

Some find the beauty in their unique families. And let’s face it. We all have unique families.

And some make friends with those who they wish were in their family. 

I believe in the saying that people come into our lives for a reason. We cross paths with each other, to help us shape our future. It’s all part of the journey we’re on. 

Some will be short term, while others will stay a lifetime.

Some will come and go.

My husband and I met when I was only 15 – he was 14.

Naturally knowing each other that long, meant getting to know each other’s circle of friends too. One particular mutual friend, Ken, decided to go back to our home country, Philippines, approximately 15 years ago. His family remained in Australia so he’s been back and forth since then. In late 2016, due to personal reasons he came back to Australia for a short period and this is the story of how The Sun Chasers was born.

Ok, well technically this was just a name I spun-taneously created after our first official catch up. Also, for clarity, we are not officially The Sun Chasers, this is just what I have called us for the purposes of my Blog and to create a series. Each of us are individuals doing our own things. We just happen to share the same passion. #WeLovePuns

My husband’s two brothers from other mothers (Ken and Devin), our son (Gabriel) and myself decided to take a journey together. 

To explore, create memories and have adventures. 

Our purpose was the same – to travel and explore new things; to share our love of everything beautiful by using our creative minds and to create a story from what we capture; and to be positive and happy. Our adventures were spent together. But the stories we told, were our own. 

Meet Devin | Devin Legaspi | creating videos for YouTube of his travel stories and his journey.


Meet Ken | @iphonogra_ph | capturing photos only using his iPhone and publishing on Instagram. He is a Traveller. Dog lover. Musicon. Coffeesseur. Wordnerd. Dreamer. 


Ken also has today launched his YouTube channel, called Iphonograph Channel, which will follow on from his Instagram page and will feature tips on how to perfect your snaps. Watch this space. 

He is also a “wordnerd” as he puts it and his blog can be found at iphonogra.ph

Meet my son Gabriel | Gabes Tube | 7 year old newbie on YouTube. Creating a channel for kids and sharing his love of drawing, origami, Star Wars, LEGO, gaming, art & craft, music, dinosaurs and being creative. After years of watching other children on YouTube, experiencing the adventures we’ve shared as The Sun Chasers and with his own bubbly personality, he decided that in 2017 he was going to create his own channel. #Goals


My husband prefers to enjoy the adventures by living in the moment. I admit, his photos are WAAAYYYY better than mine, but are rarely posted on social media. He simply enjoys the adventures for what they are, without feeling the need to share them with the world.


And then there’s me. The First Lady. The only lady. Snapchat is the name. Living out my #Godlys100Things is my game. Many ask why I post everything. Many ask what am I doing it for. Many don’t understand. If you feel the need, follow me on Snap @Godly153 with a current snapchat score of 10,103 (whatever that means)! Please tell me if you know that that score actually means!


Since November 2016, we have discovered some new places, some were hidden treasures. Others were simple beauties. We even conquered some fears. 

Personally, my journey was to soul search. I even managed to tick some goals and I definitely learned a lot from each experience and from each individual. #Godlys100Things @GodlysCorner

The next few posts will be about each adventure so far. I hope you take something out of it, that you can incorporate into your own life. And perhaps take the adventure on yourself and tell your own story, in whatever platform you choose.

Remember:

Life is beautiful. 

Today is the day that you are living for. So make it count.

Tomorrow is not guaranteed. 

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take. But by the moments, that take our breath away.

Subscribe to my blog to be notified of when my posts are published. And keep your eyes out for The Sun Chasers series. 

For now, to wet your appetite, check out our creative work for the adventures we’ve had together and our own personal journeys. I guarantee you, it will be worth your while.

Until next time…

Keep smiling.


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What brings me back…to this world


I’ve been on a blogging break for so many reasons. I started this blog as my way of speaking up. Sometimes people say shit they can’t back up. Or they talk a lot of crap and I just wanna shut ’em down. But I’m in two minds about causing conflict. So I keep my mouth shut – sometimes. Mainly when the conflict is work-related or if I don’t want to cause trouble (in general). I’m not bad person – although some would think I am. So on this blog, I can pretty much say whatever I want. People say it’s a cowards way of dealing with it. I disagree. I just don’t like conflict. 

Secondly, when it’s my professional brand that’s at stake, I’d rather not risk it for a disagreement with a colleague. 

Also, this blog gives me a chance to put it out to others who may feel the same. To help others – hopefully one reader can get something useful out of this. Whether it’s inspirational or advice. However I’m not qualified to give advice so don’t take my word as gospel. Lol. The irony. I work in the complaints department, and one type of complaint we get is advice-related. 
Bringing me back on topic, the reasons I’ve been on a break was due to the tough year I had. I didn’t feel like blogging when my mindset was wrong. 

I also had some work challenges. 7 March 2016 was the biggest. It will be etched in my mind forever. 

I hadn’t just stopped blogging. I stopped Instagram as well. Like a celebrity in rehab trying to get back to basics. I couldn’t find the inspiration to post photos when my life was so broken. People ‘usually’ tend to only post good photos. People who want to say “Look how good my life is”. But deep down, they’re broken too. Only some will post everything about their lives – good and bad. I know a few. I think it’s TMI. I think social media is great. But be careful what you post. Who your audience is. What your telling them. Sometimes it’s nice to keep something to yourself. So I took myself off the grid (so to speak). I lost connections with those around me. I lost friends (as in friendships and those taken by God). I lost family too. 

This year was a huge wake up call. My estranged father passed away as well. It wasn’t a big deal to me. I knew it was coming. He was 90 years old.  I gave him the cold shoulder and we hadn’t spoken in a decade at least. Some would call me heartless. I had my reasons. No-one needed to understand. Because that was my battle. One I tried to deal with internally. And on my own. One big lesson was – you can’t do alone. We are human. We need each other to survive. We give each other love, compassion, truth and we also hurt each other. His passing made me realise that it wasn’t all his fault. I finally learnt that. But it was too late. I have learned to forgive him for his faults. And to let him rest in peace. I think about him more these days than when he was alive. 


Photo cred: My nephew who came to support me. I didn’t know he took this pic until after the funeral.

I feel like my anthem this year is Forgive me Father (feat. Meaghan Trainor, Wiz Khalifa & Wale) from DJ. Khaled’s Major Key  album. For two reasons. This is one of them. The other reason was for my personal battle and asking God for forgiveness. I particularly love the chorus. 


Like I mean this year started badly. New Year’s Eve was spent in my car angry at my son who had been playing up (partly due to extreme tiredness from the day’s events and partly from his cheeky personality and also the excitement NYE brings). So I kinda knew 2016 was gonna be rough. I’m superstitious like that. The way your year starts, is how it usually goes. 2017 is gonna be fucken awesome! 

I mean, it wasn’t all bad. It was pretty awesome too. But I couldn’t find the thing that made me want to blog again. I was having writers block. I wanted to blog. I just needed it to be meaningful. Today, I posted a photo on snapchat and replicated it on instagram. 

This was my 2016 in a nutshell.

I wrote it on the short 5 minute bus ride to work. And I didn’t think twice. It was just a post on snap. But for instagram (which I like to call my photo album) it was to track my life. For me, it’s not about how many followers or likes the photo gets. I have been off instagram for 6 months. And my last blog post was in Sept 2016. And people were asking. That was nice – To know I brought some value to some people. 

I’ve been focusing on myself this year. Working on my issues. My life. Getting my mojo back. If anyone didn’t understand that, that was their problem. Not mine. Harsh but true. We all have to take time out for ourselves. It’s how we cope. This meant friendships were balancing on a very fine tightrope ready to snap. And it did. I don’t know for sure but I’m pretty certain some friends are gone.

People will come and go. I’ve always believed that people come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes it’s short lived. But there was a reason. 

Sometimes people come and go and will always be there regardless. Whatever they go through – sometimes we share; sometimes we keep things bottled up. But no matter what happens, they will always be there. Because life happens. They are my true friends.

Sometimes people are there for a long time. But not necessarily for the right reasons. Sometimes they are there to help us along our journey. But they’re there for a reason. I’ve lost a few of these friends this year. Kinda just dropped off. I am hurt. But I am also human. I haven’t done this intentionally – life happened and this was the result. I miss them dearly but that’s how the cookie crumbled. 

My horoscope from The Daily Telegraph on 15/12/2016

Then there are friends who are taken away from us too soon. A real tragedy. One that makes me tear up every time. Rest in Peace Juanito. You will be missed. 

The photo I posted (above) attracted some attention. I even got a beautiful heartfelt SMS from my best friend to check if I was ok. Which got me to check my instagram post. As I only go in there intermittently. And I noticed it had 3 comments. Again from people who have inspired me to be the person I am today. Which brings me to my blog post. 

I hope you don’t mind me posting this hon.

A lightbulb moment. It was my sign to get back to blogging, doing what I love and sharing what I do. I don’t speak lies. I do what I say. I won’t always be motivated but I try. I will fall. And I have. But I guarantee, that I will get back up and hustle harder.
Watch this space. I’m back!

Purpose

  
I found my purpose after I started my #Godlys100Things list after that work conference that I had attended that July afternoon, all those years ago.

I wrote a list and to this day I keep working towards ticking things off. I have found that as I work towards ticking them off, that I had things on that list that aren’t exactly what I want anymore. So I either replaced them or kept them as [Thinking of a new thing to replace the old thing]. Because like all lists, they change. And as I work towards these 100 things, I realise that I’ve changed my wants/needs/priorities. In fact, I’ve changed a lot. #DJKhaled

Every day may seem similar but in actual fact, for me, every day something changes in my life. That’s important. To stay the same means not growing. And while I’m physically not growing, I’m growing in all other ways.

At the end of 2015, I made some new goals. I put them up on my ‘Goals Tree’ and wake up to this tree every morning. One of them was to tick 5 things off my 100 things list in 2016. It seems simple enough but if you’ve read my list, you will know that some require a lot of work. Some are easy but that’s not the point. I’m not just going to tick 5 easy ones and wipe my hands clean of any hard work. NO WAY. That’s not my style. 

  
So far, to date, I have ticked:

  1. Number 54: Eat at a Heston Blumenthal restaurant. Dinner by Heston Blumenthal opened in Melbourne and after booking a table in August 2015, the day had finally arrived. We flew to Melbourne to have dinner. I don’t know what was going through my mind but I happened to think that was ok to do that. Like I’m some kind of hot shot food critic that travels to have fine dining experiences. LOL 
  2. Number 72: Learn to drive a manual car. Which ironcally just happened today. 
  3. Number 94: Watch a fight with my husband. This was technically ticked off twice already in 2015, but we’ve enjoyed this so much it’s became almost a tradition. 
  4. Number 95: My husband’s choice: Kill a spider. The reason this was important is because I am petrified of spiders. The word itself gives me the heeby-jeebys. So I had to do this one for myself like my own version of the Tv show ‘Fear Factor’. Again I’ve done this twice now and I seem to be doing ok facing my fear. 

   
  

    
    
 Fear is something we all face. We’re all scared of something. But don’t let fear stop you. Let it drive you to beat it.

So you may be wondering how my purpose is built on silly things like this, but it all boils down to this. When I’m a better version of myself today, I can contribute to a better world tomorrow. Whatever new things I learn today, I feel the need to share it with the world. Because knowledge is power. #MajorKey

I may be one person, but I’m one person who cares enough to want the world to be a better place for the kids of today and the kids of the future.

My son tells me he wants to be a scientist and work with DNA to bring dinosaurs back. Everyone says that’s not possible but I believe he will do great things. And I need to help him along the way to support his dream. If I just nod and smile, how is that helping anyone? 

I don’t know if his dream is possible but I don’t care.

I care that he has a dream and he’s only 6 years old.

I care that he loves dinosaurs so much that he wants to see them again.

I care that he’s deciding his own future by setting his own goals and he’s nailing it. 

That’s the kind of future I want. Kids with big dreams and living life, not by what anyone tells them they can/can’t do, but by what THEY decide they can do.

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Rejection / Resilience

  
Two tough words. Even tougher for a 6 year old to go through. 

My son is 6 going on 10. He’s so mature for his age. Anyone who knows him, would agree. He’s charismatic. Yesterday, I was a super-proud mum. He was nominated as the male student representative council (SRC) rep for his class, along with his female friend. There’s 2 chosen for each class from year 1 through to year 6. I think it’s pretty cool that the school includes students from as young as year 1 to be part of the SRC. It’s a great way to reiterate the values that they have in the school such as responsibility, respect, care, integrity, fairness and cooperation. Almost identical to the values we have in the workplace in this day and age. 

So when I heard he was in the SRC, I thought this meant he was a great example to his peers. 

It’s tough to think that he experienced rejection on the same day he felt proud of himself. But I guess it made it ok because I was there to help him get past it, rather than him going through it alone. 

Here’s a brief rundown on what happened:-

He was in front of his classroom dropping off his bag before the school bell rang.

He saw his friends playing and took a drawing out of his bag and gave it to his friend.

  
His friend took one look and gave it back, saying “why do you draw things for me?!?!” And walked away. 

The look on my son’s face was heartbreaking. I felt his pain. He was gutted. Then he looked at me and said “well, that was a fail.” I told him not to worry and asked him, how will you bounce back from this? 

He didn’t say much and we proceeded to walk to the office to drop off the payment envelope for his school disco.

My boy had experienced rejection at 6 and as much as I wanted to say something to this kid who hurt my son, I also wanted my son to figure out how he was going to get through it on his own. Because I’m certain things like this will happen again and I won’t always be there to help him bounce back. I have to teach him how to be resilient at 6. How do you that when your heart is breaking for them? 

They say if you want the truth, ask a kid. And that’s great but what about when kids do wrong? Is it fair to blame their parent/s? I think so. But some parents are so caught up in their own selves that they don’t see it. They can be in denial – what then? Things like this (and it may seem minor) is what is happening to our kids. The problem with this day and age is that parents are sometimes spending so much time on social media, on their phones and working too much (to name a few) that they forget to be a parent. And I’m guilty of these things too. I’m not perfect. But I will add that I spend a lot of time with my son teaching him about life. 

Strangely, if people see me in the street (and I may snapchat this one day) but they may think I’m being harsh. Or OTT about something that happened. I do this purely to teach my son a lesson. Granted, he may do that exact same thing he did wrong again the very next day but what I will say is that I KNOW that he understands everything I say. He’s just forgetful and at the end of the day, he’s only a child. I can only keep trying. 

He bounced back pretty quickly after this event but it makes you wonder, how does a 6 year old deal with rejection? 

How do they really feel? 

Will this affect them long term?

Is it something he’ll always remember?

I know that when I was rejected by friends at high school, it was tough. But I was about 17 when this happened. And to this day, I’m still scarred. Rejection hurts. But I do hope for his sake, that this doesn’t stick with him and any other kids going through the same thing. I hope it’s temporary but I doubt it. Kids can remember their childhood from about 2.5 years old. So any parent reading this, beware of what your child hears/sees from you and what you do. But better still, be a parent. This kid that emotionally hurt my son clearly has issues. I don’t know what they are but his parents need to teach him a thing or 2 about kindness. My son is a kind soul and drew this because he cared enough about his friend that he wanted to give him something. As meaningless/priceless as a drawing may be, it’s the thought that counts.

McGregor vs Diaz | 6 Mar 2016

   
Family is everything. Nothing matters more. Of course we all have other things to do but at the end of the day, everything we do is for the ones we love. 

So number 94 on my 100 things list is to watch a fight with my husband. Why is this on my list – I hear you ask? Well everyone’s list is different. To me my list was about what makes me feel happy. That’s it. So to spend time with my husband doing things he loves is just as important to me as doing things I love. Because if he’s happy – I’m happy. Vice versa. So when he wants to watch a fight, I like to come and cheer as well. Eventhough I know (like) very little about boxing and UFC. It’s not about the fight. It’s about the moment. If we’re together, living that moment, that’s what matters. What’s the point of having all the money in the world when you have no-one to share the moments with? Some of the richest people in the world are not happy. Yet some of the poorest people are. Go figure.

Besides, I learnt so much about the sport from today’s UFC main event between Holm vs Tate and McGregor vs Diaz. I genuinely enjoyed it. So while it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, I’m sure just being there made my husband happy. It beats not seeing him for the afternoon while he’s out at the pub and I’m doing my own thing. I guess that’s what marriage is about. Sharing your interests with each other. Having each other’s back. Living life as individuals but being able to share that life with someone else. 

And even though I’m now sitting here at the stroke of midnight blogging, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I felt like snapchatting my day today to share a snippet of my life. I really love what snapchat is about and it’s somewhat my way of connecting with friends near and far and letting them in on what I’m up to. Coz sometimes, I just get caught up in life that I don’t get to see them as often as I’d like. We’re all busy. But snapchat offers a way to keep in touch. It also allows regular joes like me to see the life of the celebrities I admire (once you know their username that is). So it’s somewhat private – unless you share your username on other social media outlets. 

My weekends are jam packed and I just want one more day to relax. Like really relax. I work hard. And I wanna play hard too. But sometimes stuff just needs to get done. Sundays for me are like Groundhog Day. Always routine. Saturdays are my days for exercise, family time, catch ups and on the odd occasion, some me time. 

So in case you missed my snaps, here’s a peek at what my Sunday looks like. Apologies for the lag in the video. It’s a big file 🙁

  
But in all that, we gotta make time for ourselves. Some down time. Blogging has kinda turned into my downtime. I enjoy just writing whatever comes to mind. I hope it’s relevant enough for someone to relate to. Interesting enough for someone to want to read more. I never really knew where I wanted this to go. I just wanted to have my say. So I created that platform. I don’t really need this to be trending on Twitter or go viral like YouTube videos. But I would like to know that one day, at the very least, my son reads this and sees what my life was like. What I did (which was mostly to hopefully create for a better future for him). 

Everyday brings about a new thought. A new idea. A conversation that makes me think – I can change that. I just want to help shape the future because I know the world can be better. And I’m doing that by the small things that I do that makes up my 100 things. It may not look like the coolest list, but it’s mine. And it’s cool to me. #Godlys100Things

I kinda ticked this one off my list back in May 2015 when I watched my first boxing match between Mayweather and Pacquiao, and in Dec 2015 when I watched McGregor take out Aldo in 13 seconds. But I’m really enjoying the moments we’re sharing. Even though we’re the only parents who take our child to the pub. Would love your thoughts on that too by the way. Is it wrong to take your child to the pub to watch a fight? Is it selfish? Is it bad parenting?  Or am I teaching him about life. I don’t see anything wrong with it and I’ll keep doing it, until it’s made illegal.

Follow my journey on snapchat Godly153, Instagram GodlysCorner and Twitter godlysaycon

With all my heart

  
It was a cold winter but that did not stop me from being active. The cold weather is a good excuse to let yourself go for a few months and kind of hibernate like animals do. But not me.

I can’t take all the credit though, I owe it to a few people; Get The World Moving guys (aka The Global Corporate Challenge/GCC), my colleagues who participated and my 5.5 year old son who decided to join me on my 100 day journey. This is explained further in my Challenge Complete and The BEST Ever 3 posts!

My son is a champion. He joined me after the first week and surprised me – he completed the whole other 92 days with me. We challenged each other daily and he remained enthusiastic for the duration. I must admit, I didn’t think he’d last a month. Kids don’t usually have a long attention span but I was proven wrong. In that 92 days he managed to beat me on 65 of the days. That’s 70% of the time! His personal best was 21,770 steps! My personal best was 24,439 which was definitely not easy to do, especially when my daily target was 10K. Some days I wouldn’t even get anywhere near that. 

The best part about doing it with my son is that even though our GCC pulse devices are now off, we have managed to remain active long after the 100 days was over. With the weather warming up in Sydney, and the days getting longer due to daylight savings, we are trying to be as active as possible. I hope I have somehow inspired him to do more than play on the PS4, use his iPad or be a couch potato. 

Some other exciting news is that during this time as well my blog was read by the Founder & President of the Get The World Moving organisation, Glenn Riseley. I may have emailed him but that’s beside the point. He still read it and even better, he acknowledged it. And the best part is, I spoke to him personally over the phone about my idea and he also featured my blog on the GCC website! Turns out my idea was already trialled by them and sadly, the government were not on board so it didn’t get far. But this didn’t stop me. I thought outside the square and decided to still try this in my local community – my son’s school.

My purpose in life is to help shape the future; one step at a time. This is one of those steps. 

So I spoke to the School Principal about my idea and he said to email him some details and that he would discuss it with his executive team. I put my heart on that email and hit send. Unfortunately though, it hasn’t gone ahead. That was my 2nd stumble on a hurdle. I’m still not giving up.

Even though my ideas have not gotten far, I decided to try my colleagues. I used our internal social media outlet (our version of Twitter) to send a message to those who participated in the GCC. I asked for help with my community project by requesting anyone’s spare GCC pulse devices. Slightly deflated after the first 2 flops, I must admit, I wasn’t expecting anything to come out of this exercise but I was again happily surprised. I managed to get about 40 GCC pulse devices. Not the 700 that I needed for the school but it was a start.

So my little community project lives on. This in itself was a lot of work and took time but I’m so glad I did it. I will not stop. I will find a way to make this happen. #WatchThisSpace

The moral of the story is this (and I am taking this from Entrepreneur/Life Coach, Jonathan Doyle). You don’t need a bunch of ideas, you just need one idea that you’re willing to commit to! And I will keep trying – somehow I will find a way to get this up and running. Even if it’s just in my local community. I may not have all the money in the world to buy the tools I need to make things happen; or all the cool ideas or gadgets; or even the 1000’s of followers on my social media to get the exposure I need, but my heart is in this and that’s gotta count for something.

The BEST Ever! Part 3

  
I’ve always spoken about being the change. Being the one who acts to make this world better. But it’s not always like that. It is a give and take relationship too. In order to be more, we must also learn to accept and receive as well. And expect people to give back!

This came to me only today at mass. Our father is travelling overseas for 2 months and made an announcement at the end of mass. At the same time, he asked for our prayers – and I quote – “Please pray for me during this time. I pray for you all, so I expect you to pray for me as well.” Now I don’t know about you but this was true and although he meant it, it also sounded funny. There were some giggles from the congregation (me included) because even though this was serious, our father has a sense of humour and likes a good laugh.

So true though. Because we can’t always be the only ones giving. It’s not like I’m saying ask for things or if you do something, you can expect something in return. It’s more, about giving and taking at a different level.

Those who read blogs and listen to inspirational podcasts for example are a different bunch of people. Because let’s face it, not everyone has ‘time’ to read blogs, or even wants to read in general. Not all of us are the same and that’s a good thing.

But this is exactly why I do this. Because for the one person who reads this, I hope they share it with another person (not just by reading this) but through their actions. So that this other person can feel the change and then hopefully, they will reciprocate to a 3rd person and so forth. The same concept as pay it forward, but just live that philosophy. Rather than paying it forward to 3 people only.

That’s how I plan on shaping the future. 

My little blog here is travelling to many countries and I’m flattered that people have read it. If I could see what you are all doing with this, I think my heart would just melt. I’d love to read your comments if you have done something. Whether it be a tiny thing or a huge thing. We are all human and all deserve happiness and the best this world can offer. So feel free to share your happiness here. 😊

Since starting this blog, I’ve done some things that I never imagined I would do and it all stemmed from my blogging. It was a minor thing at the time but has blown out to something so much bigger. A real way to help shape the world. It may be small now but I have faith that this will grow into something worthwhile. It is now my project and I’m hoping to post some great news about this soon. I just want to have some more things confirmed before I do. Just know that I live the words I write. I’m not just preaching them. 

So to be The Best Ever, you have to give it your best. You just have to start and everything else will fall into place.

This project in a nutshell (and without spoiling it too much) started when I published my Change post.

Then the following happened without me realising it. 

  • I wrote about it in my Challenge Complete post.
  • I emailed the link to my blog to the GCC Founder and President, Glenn Riseley.
  • He replied to my email and I spoke to Glenn personally about my idea.
  • He helped me by publishing my Challenge Complete post on their website blog page.
  • I spoke to my son’s School Principal about the idea.
  • I emailed the CEO where I work to share with him.
  • I tweeted my idea on my work social media page to get support from my colleagues. 

  
  
And this is where I’m at, at the moment, but that all happened in a matter of weeks, in between working full time and my family life.

I wish I had more time to devote to this project but like all of us, we have responsibilities and bills need to be paid. But whatever comes of this, I will be proud that I did my best – not just for my son, for his school and my community, but for the world. This will be epic.

To be continued…

*Broken into parts because I have a lot to say. In the interest of keeping these short… This was necessary.

**Photo creds: Images from GetTheWorldMoving.com

– Godly –

13 July 2015

What colour are your undies?

  
Don’t tell me. I actually don’t want to know. TMI. Sometimes people overshare on social media without even realising it. It’s simply too easy to just post a photo (with or without a caption), tweet your innermost feelings or comment on someone else’s post. 

But have you ever considered whether your friends, family, colleagues, followers, or the world (if your profile is public) want to know what your doing/eating/feeling, what your kids are wearing/saying/learning??? I have to admit that I have done this and I have learnt some lessons along the way. Just by talking to people, I’ve learnt that:

  1. One photo of my son is enough.
  2. I need to protect my son’s identity from the world (as much as I can). More about this later.
  3. Only 50% of my followers appreciate #FoodPorn.

This topic will divide you all. You will either agree or disagree. 

The point of this is to let you see it from my corner. Put yourself in my shoes for one moment – just for this example. You are a mother of a young boy. 

I’m going to use the worst possible situation here for your own sake. Suppose your son later down the track becomes the victim of a pedophile ring. They see his photo on the Internet and one day you find out it was that photo you took at the beach. 

How would you feel? Angry. Scared. Disappointed in yourself. And many other emotions I’m sure. 

You will possibly start to question your actions. Why did I post that cute photo of him at the beach? It was innocent and you just wanted to capture that moment of his life. It was harmless in your eyes. A cute photo for your friends to see. But what about the rest of the world? Once you put it out there – it’s no longer just yours. You have given every man and his dog permission to use that photo for whatever purpose they like. This is obviously (to me) the worst possible scenario and one I never ever want to experience or wish on anybody. I am simply putting it out there so that we can consider one thing – our actions have consequences. Something I’m teaching my son right now. 

And if you have noticed, I have never posted my families names on my blog for this reason – to protect their privacy. I have also never posted their faces. My Instagram is private and I am selective of the people I allow to view them because at one stage (back when I wasn’t thinking straight) I was that mum posting constant photos of my son on Instagram. Now, I don’t want to take the photos off because to me, my Instagram serves 2 purposes.

  1. To capture my life in photos.
  2. To record my journey .

My life has been pretty up and down and I want to show these photos to my son when he’s old enough to fully understand. But now I must pick and choose who can view those posts from way back when.

I once asked a group of friends if my posts are OTT. I had some say it’s ok. Some like them and some say, there were a lot of photos of my son. Not necessarily a bad thing, but depending on the people, it may have been too much. And then the other day, someone posted a statement, which was so relevant to this topic, which read

  
I agree with Jonathan Doyle. No one cares. I mean your friends might like them but that doesn’t mean they care. Naturally the first comment on the post said “Are you serious?” Lol. This comment can be read however you want. My interpretation is that this person is a parent and is offended. Mainly because they don’t agree. Or if you’re thinking is like mine, you would say “are you serious? Oh dear. You’re right. Does anyone actually care?”

There are so many other reasons why I don’t show his full face on Instagram anymore. Apart from the obvious and worst possible reason mentioned above (which I don’t want to repeat), these are the other reasons:

  • I want to protect him from negative things on social media. You cannot control what comment someone may say in response to your post. You’ve allowed them access to your photos so you have to bear the comments whether positive or negative. 
  • He has a right to grow up without being labelled by others and the possibility of cyber bullying. People easily hide behind their keyboards and say whatever they want because no one can stop them! 
  • Out of respect for my husband, who requested that I don’t advertise him to the world. At first, I was hesitant about his request. I thought, he doesn’t understand social media because he doesn’t have any accounts. Doesn’t he trust my judgement?

I had my profile set to public and wanted followers. I had him on almost every photo and wanted him to be famous because I believed he was camera perfect. He’s got charisma. He’s got swag. He’s smart. I asked myself – ‘But how can he be famous if my profile is private?’ Despite my beliefs – I trust my husband and now finally see why he wanted it this way. If my son was meant to be famous, that will come naturally. I should not groom him and put him out there without his permission. I may find out later when he starts high school, that he’s embarrassed by these photos. Which will only result in possible bullying and he may later hate me for showing the world his fave toys from when he was 4. 

I’ve come to realise that life will take the course it is supposed to take but in the meantime, just be conscious of what your sharing. 

Does everyone really need to know what you ate for breakfast? #FoodPorn

Do they really care that your son just graduated day care? #ProudMum

Who really wants to know what you’re wearing today? #OOTD

Or the colour of your undies? #TMI 

Just remember that your actions have consequences. What you post now (e.g. A selfie at the beach when you’ve chucked a sickie from work) may some how come back to bite you in the butt. #JustSayin

– Godly –
19 June 2015