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Introducing ‘The Sun Chasers’


Friends are the family we wish we had. 

Some people are blessed with perfect parents, siblings, relatives… Some aren’t. 

Some find the beauty in their unique families. And let’s face it. We all have unique families.

And some make friends with those who they wish were in their family. 

I believe in the saying that people come into our lives for a reason. We cross paths with each other, to help us shape our future. It’s all part of the journey we’re on. 

Some will be short term, while others will stay a lifetime.

Some will come and go.

My husband and I met when I was only 15 – he was 14.

Naturally knowing each other that long, meant getting to know each other’s circle of friends too. One particular mutual friend, Ken, decided to go back to our home country, Philippines, approximately 15 years ago. His family remained in Australia so he’s been back and forth since then. In late 2016, due to personal reasons he came back to Australia for a short period and this is the story of how The Sun Chasers was born.

Ok, well technically this was just a name I spun-taneously created after our first official catch up. Also, for clarity, we are not officially The Sun Chasers, this is just what I have called us for the purposes of my Blog and to create a series. Each of us are individuals doing our own things. We just happen to share the same passion. #WeLovePuns

My husband’s two brothers from other mothers (Ken and Devin), our son (Gabriel) and myself decided to take a journey together. 

To explore, create memories and have adventures. 

Our purpose was the same – to travel and explore new things; to share our love of everything beautiful by using our creative minds and to create a story from what we capture; and to be positive and happy. Our adventures were spent together. But the stories we told, were our own. 

Meet Devin | Devin Legaspi | creating videos for YouTube of his travel stories and his journey.


Meet Ken | @iphonogra_ph | capturing photos only using his iPhone and publishing on Instagram. He is a Traveller. Dog lover. Musicon. Coffeesseur. Wordnerd. Dreamer. 


Ken also has today launched his YouTube channel, called Iphonograph Channel, which will follow on from his Instagram page and will feature tips on how to perfect your snaps. Watch this space. 

He is also a “wordnerd” as he puts it and his blog can be found at iphonogra.ph

Meet my son Gabriel | Gabes Tube | 7 year old newbie on YouTube. Creating a channel for kids and sharing his love of drawing, origami, Star Wars, LEGO, gaming, art & craft, music, dinosaurs and being creative. After years of watching other children on YouTube, experiencing the adventures we’ve shared as The Sun Chasers and with his own bubbly personality, he decided that in 2017 he was going to create his own channel. #Goals


My husband prefers to enjoy the adventures by living in the moment. I admit, his photos are WAAAYYYY better than mine, but are rarely posted on social media. He simply enjoys the adventures for what they are, without feeling the need to share them with the world.


And then there’s me. The First Lady. The only lady. Snapchat is the name. Living out my #Godlys100Things is my game. Many ask why I post everything. Many ask what am I doing it for. Many don’t understand. If you feel the need, follow me on Snap @Godly153 with a current snapchat score of 10,103 (whatever that means)! Please tell me if you know that that score actually means!


Since November 2016, we have discovered some new places, some were hidden treasures. Others were simple beauties. We even conquered some fears. 

Personally, my journey was to soul search. I even managed to tick some goals and I definitely learned a lot from each experience and from each individual. #Godlys100Things @GodlysCorner

The next few posts will be about each adventure so far. I hope you take something out of it, that you can incorporate into your own life. And perhaps take the adventure on yourself and tell your own story, in whatever platform you choose.

Remember:

Life is beautiful. 

Today is the day that you are living for. So make it count.

Tomorrow is not guaranteed. 

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take. But by the moments, that take our breath away.

Subscribe to my blog to be notified of when my posts are published. And keep your eyes out for The Sun Chasers series. 

For now, to wet your appetite, check out our creative work for the adventures we’ve had together and our own personal journeys. I guarantee you, it will be worth your while.

Until next time…

Keep smiling.


All the good things 

My last post was about 2016 and what brings me back to blogging. There were so many things that held me back from my writing but by the end of 2016, I grew my wings and started writing again.

2016 in one word: SHIT 💩

But it wasn’t all bad. There were so many good things as well. 

In fact, I managed to hit my goal of ticking 5 things off my #Godlys100Things list. I set up my goals tree back in June 2015, after listening to a podcast from Jonathan Doyle. 




I’m usually a goal-oriented person, without goals, I lose focus and become unbalanced. Last year’s New Years resolution was to build my upper body strength. 


That didn’t go exactly to plan. But, I have learnt from that. I set that goal up without planning and preparation. This year, my focus is on my health and fitness again. But this time, I came in with a plan:

  • I started with a personal trainer with fitness goals that are achievable and realistic;
  • I have healthy competition to keep me accountable and motivated; and
  • I have the right mindset coming in to 2017.

This is where it went wrong for me in 2016. 

But that’s ok, because all the good things from 2016 should be remembered and cherished as well. I’ll rattle off a few:

In January, me and my boys rode in a R44 helicopter over Sydney Harbour. This has made me want to add to my #Godlys100Things list and get a helicopters licence (number 9).



My hubby and I took a couples trip to Melbourne with another one of our couple friends, Dalin and Em.  The main purpose of this trip was to dine at Dinner By Heston Blumenthal (number 54). But I will do a separate post on this shortly. 

While on our couples trip, I played roulette for the first time and won a significant prize, we ate at some very delicious places, went to the Mornington Peninsula Hot Springs and had quite the romantic adventure.




We rescued a blue-tongue lizard who was injured near our pool and released him back into the wild when he was better. This led to us owning a blue tongue lizard as a pet. #Crikey



In February, I joined a Netball team. In my 32 years, I had never played netball and I loved it.


I watched The Sound of Music (The Musical) with my 6 year old. This was his first ever musical and he loved it. #LikeMotherLikeSon


Erica and I ran-then jogged-then walked the Night Colour Run.


In March, my son was elected SRC, he’s in year 1. This was not a great moment for me though. Check out my resilience post. #ProudMum

I celebrated my 33rd birthday in style, by having a Frozen party. I, again, had never ice-skated in my life and I was terrible, but it was so much fun. I also enjoyed watching friends and family show me their ice-skating skills and some who had no skills at all.



It sorta went downhill from the 7 March though. But let’s continue with my 2016 highlights…

My son figured out the Easter Bunny. #WiserThanHisYears


In April, we visited my bestie, Tracy, in QLD and I took my son to Dreamworld for the first time. Her son Harry is my son’s bestie too.


In another double date night with Dalin and Em, we went to see Akmal live for The Comedy Festival.

In May, #OperationHalfMarathon started abruptly. It is number 52 on my #Godlys100Things list, but I didn’t expect it to be happening quite so early in my running journey. Although my goal was to run a marathon, not half, but this is a start. My friend Erica and I have been running once a week since September 2014, when we initially both didn’t enjoy running. It has been a fun journey for both of us, we are at different fitness levels but I enjoy running weekly with her. My Saturday runs have gotten better and better (even though it ended in November when I injured my ankle playing social Soccer. Again, more on that in a different post – yet to come ). But overall, consistently running (even just once a week has improved my long distance running and split pace). Now, when my friend Dalin decided to train with me, running became 2x a week which has led us to train for a half marathon this year. #WishMeLuck



From June-November (life was demanding, busy, and all that jazz). It became too much that I didn’t want to post photos on Instagram anymore. Which is where I usually go to reminisce. 

I’ll try and do the last 6 months of 2016 in FFWD:

I made a flower crown for my niece (Stacey) and tried to get my hobby with flowers back into my weekends, I taught my son how to cross stitch, my work dad/buddy (David) retired, at work we changed it up and tried playing netball, we celebrated our friend’s (Mark and Cathy) engagement party, my work friend, (Rachel) opened up a new cafe, Stacey received the Sacrament of Confirmation and asked me to be her Godmother, Erica and I ran the 9km Harbour Bridge Run, my mum and I went to the flower festival (Floriade), Erica and I went to the Billabong Yoga Retreat, I learnt how to play the guitar, I participated in the Tour de Cure CAN4CANCER fundraiser d 21km walk, I went zip lining with my niece (Katelyn), I ticked off number 93 which was to walk/run the Bondi to Bronte…phew… that’s a lot!



Then due to personal reasons, a dear friend came back to Sydney after living overseas for almost 2 decades. 


As life remained difficult, laughter, adventure and friendship brought happiness back into our lives. I called us The Sun Chasers. More about our adventures in posts to come!

I had some great adventures/memories (Garie Beach, Central Coast road trip, fishing adventures, archery for our team building day, discovering the sleepy town of Windsor, Rediscovered Bent’s Basin, bubble soccer, had some poker nights at home, and lots of fun moments )


I actually started drafting this post on the 1st day of 2017, with the intention of it to be uploaded shortly after. But a whole month has gone by and it’s been quite a hectic January that I sit here on 2/2/2017 finishing this piece.

Initially I wanted to say that 2017 will be a bigger and better year for me. My son and I wrote up our goals for 2017 and already in 33 days, were kicking goals. Unfortunately I know this trend all too well. I start my year well and by June I’m all fizzled out/overwhelmed and tired. I am conscious of my actions and need to make myself accountable. I need to be my own motivation. But I can’t do it alone, like I did at certain times last year. I aim to post more regularly and keep my blog up to date with my journey. The best feeling is when someone asks me “when’s your next blog post coming out?” I write this blog for many reasons, but the most rewarding is to know someone out there reads it. 

Stay positive. 

Stay true to yourself.

Keep smiling.

What brings me back…to this world


I’ve been on a blogging break for so many reasons. I started this blog as my way of speaking up. Sometimes people say shit they can’t back up. Or they talk a lot of crap and I just wanna shut ’em down. But I’m in two minds about causing conflict. So I keep my mouth shut – sometimes. Mainly when the conflict is work-related or if I don’t want to cause trouble (in general). I’m not bad person – although some would think I am. So on this blog, I can pretty much say whatever I want. People say it’s a cowards way of dealing with it. I disagree. I just don’t like conflict. 

Secondly, when it’s my professional brand that’s at stake, I’d rather not risk it for a disagreement with a colleague. 

Also, this blog gives me a chance to put it out to others who may feel the same. To help others – hopefully one reader can get something useful out of this. Whether it’s inspirational or advice. However I’m not qualified to give advice so don’t take my word as gospel. Lol. The irony. I work in the complaints department, and one type of complaint we get is advice-related. 
Bringing me back on topic, the reasons I’ve been on a break was due to the tough year I had. I didn’t feel like blogging when my mindset was wrong. 

I also had some work challenges. 7 March 2016 was the biggest. It will be etched in my mind forever. 

I hadn’t just stopped blogging. I stopped Instagram as well. Like a celebrity in rehab trying to get back to basics. I couldn’t find the inspiration to post photos when my life was so broken. People ‘usually’ tend to only post good photos. People who want to say “Look how good my life is”. But deep down, they’re broken too. Only some will post everything about their lives – good and bad. I know a few. I think it’s TMI. I think social media is great. But be careful what you post. Who your audience is. What your telling them. Sometimes it’s nice to keep something to yourself. So I took myself off the grid (so to speak). I lost connections with those around me. I lost friends (as in friendships and those taken by God). I lost family too. 

This year was a huge wake up call. My estranged father passed away as well. It wasn’t a big deal to me. I knew it was coming. He was 90 years old.  I gave him the cold shoulder and we hadn’t spoken in a decade at least. Some would call me heartless. I had my reasons. No-one needed to understand. Because that was my battle. One I tried to deal with internally. And on my own. One big lesson was – you can’t do alone. We are human. We need each other to survive. We give each other love, compassion, truth and we also hurt each other. His passing made me realise that it wasn’t all his fault. I finally learnt that. But it was too late. I have learned to forgive him for his faults. And to let him rest in peace. I think about him more these days than when he was alive. 


Photo cred: My nephew who came to support me. I didn’t know he took this pic until after the funeral.

I feel like my anthem this year is Forgive me Father (feat. Meaghan Trainor, Wiz Khalifa & Wale) from DJ. Khaled’s Major Key  album. For two reasons. This is one of them. The other reason was for my personal battle and asking God for forgiveness. I particularly love the chorus. 


Like I mean this year started badly. New Year’s Eve was spent in my car angry at my son who had been playing up (partly due to extreme tiredness from the day’s events and partly from his cheeky personality and also the excitement NYE brings). So I kinda knew 2016 was gonna be rough. I’m superstitious like that. The way your year starts, is how it usually goes. 2017 is gonna be fucken awesome! 

I mean, it wasn’t all bad. It was pretty awesome too. But I couldn’t find the thing that made me want to blog again. I was having writers block. I wanted to blog. I just needed it to be meaningful. Today, I posted a photo on snapchat and replicated it on instagram. 

This was my 2016 in a nutshell.

I wrote it on the short 5 minute bus ride to work. And I didn’t think twice. It was just a post on snap. But for instagram (which I like to call my photo album) it was to track my life. For me, it’s not about how many followers or likes the photo gets. I have been off instagram for 6 months. And my last blog post was in Sept 2016. And people were asking. That was nice – To know I brought some value to some people. 

I’ve been focusing on myself this year. Working on my issues. My life. Getting my mojo back. If anyone didn’t understand that, that was their problem. Not mine. Harsh but true. We all have to take time out for ourselves. It’s how we cope. This meant friendships were balancing on a very fine tightrope ready to snap. And it did. I don’t know for sure but I’m pretty certain some friends are gone.

People will come and go. I’ve always believed that people come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes it’s short lived. But there was a reason. 

Sometimes people come and go and will always be there regardless. Whatever they go through – sometimes we share; sometimes we keep things bottled up. But no matter what happens, they will always be there. Because life happens. They are my true friends.

Sometimes people are there for a long time. But not necessarily for the right reasons. Sometimes they are there to help us along our journey. But they’re there for a reason. I’ve lost a few of these friends this year. Kinda just dropped off. I am hurt. But I am also human. I haven’t done this intentionally – life happened and this was the result. I miss them dearly but that’s how the cookie crumbled. 

My horoscope from The Daily Telegraph on 15/12/2016

Then there are friends who are taken away from us too soon. A real tragedy. One that makes me tear up every time. Rest in Peace Juanito. You will be missed. 

The photo I posted (above) attracted some attention. I even got a beautiful heartfelt SMS from my best friend to check if I was ok. Which got me to check my instagram post. As I only go in there intermittently. And I noticed it had 3 comments. Again from people who have inspired me to be the person I am today. Which brings me to my blog post. 

I hope you don’t mind me posting this hon.

A lightbulb moment. It was my sign to get back to blogging, doing what I love and sharing what I do. I don’t speak lies. I do what I say. I won’t always be motivated but I try. I will fall. And I have. But I guarantee, that I will get back up and hustle harder.
Watch this space. I’m back!

24 hours

  
I was fortunate to be part of something awesome today.

Something that made me feel good on the inside and out.
I was in my element: 

  • doing something for someone else,
  • helping people,
  • being active and on my feet,
  • constantly challenging myself,
  • and having fun.

At the end of it, I had a huge smile on my face. Exhausted but happy! Most photos were taken at the end and you can see the happiness in my smile.

Today, my colleagues and I were volunteering for a charity helping pack candle bags for the upcoming Woolworths Carols in the Domain event. It was a simple task but required hands and time. That’s where volunteers come in. I try to volunteer my time as much as I can because sometimes that’s where I can contribute the most. Charities need money, volunteers & resources to achieve their desired outcomes. I’m in a position to help as that’s what I love to do and I believe my purpose in life is to help shape the world.

It’s a small thing but I know there’s a roll on effect and there’s a bigger picture out there:

  • My time goes to charities who have products to sell;
  • Money raised from these products go back to the charity;
  • This money allows charities to help those in need;
  • Those who receive this assistance are better off in one way or another;
  • These people have the ability to pay it forward and so on.

It was nice to spend half the day with like-minded people (some of whom are in my reference groups). To encourage each other and learn from them was an experience in itself.

I can technically tick off 2 items from my list today but they are big ones for me and I’m not content that I’ve done enough to say “done”. It’s not about completing my list. For me, it’s about being able to say I’ve lived my life, my way. And that if I were to die tomorrow, I can say I did everything I could to be happy every day! 

  
For the curious ones and if you haven’t seen my list, I ticked off number 6 Volunteer and number 7 Help a charity.

These 2 items have been ongoing for me and I will continue to do them for the rest of my life. 

I don’t put my hand up for every volunteering opportunity that I come across and this event was certainly one that I thought about before saying “yes, I’ll do it”. The email came out and it said candle packing. Truth be told, I took this literally, as in we were going to pack candles into a bag. I thought how could this be helpful? Should I do it? Do I have time to do this? Will my manager let me take half a day off? Should I just wait until the next opportunity (as I can’t volunteer every time)? So many thoughts crossed my mind. I didn’t ponder it too long but decided to bite the bullet and here I am today – so glad I put my name down.

The reason I mention this is because I listened to a podcast the other day, which was about how to make a difficult decision, when you are in a low state? Like I mean this wasn’t the end of the world or anything life changing, but it was difficult nonetheless. Firstly, I knew I had another major event this week already. So this would mean 2 days off work and this would impact my workload and therefore have a flow on effect to my personal life, due to longer hours. That was the difficult part. But despite that, I went ahead with it anyway. I thought this was a small price to pay and my work and family will both be OK in the long run.

The thing that I took out of that podcast was the advice on how to make those decisions. One piece of advice was “think about the highest principle – which is love”. And if you think about it, I naturally made that decision because of this reason. I hadn’t even listened to that podcast yet when I decided to do this but my mindset was exactly that. The purpose was to volunteer my time for someone else’s benefit. To help people. And that’s what I love doing. So that’s why I ultimately decided to do it. 

So the next time that you have a difficult decision to make, maybe think about that principle. If you want to listen to that podcast, click here.

I feel like I was put on this earth to help people. I don’t know how yet but for now, I’ll just do it however I can. Today we helped The Salvation Army, who are helping Sydney’s homeless youth. I know at some point in my teens, I could have easily been someone who needed support like this, had it not been for the love and support of my family and friends. 

My last volunteering event through work was to help cook a meal for the community that attend The Wayside Chapel. An organisation who provide programs and services to the community. They ensure that the most marginalised members of our community have access to essential health, welfare, social and recreational services. That was such an amazing experience as well and a real eye opener. Today, I felt happy. Energised. Fortunate. Motivated. And all of these emotions came from packing candles. 

Which turned out to be hampers, including 4 candles for the carolling.

   

  

We can all say we don’t have time, but the funny thing is we all get the same 24 hours.

It’s about what you choose to do with yours.

In our group, we had everyone from my level all the way up to our General Manager. I’m sure his schedule was 100x more hectic than my 2 events this week but he made time. On top of that, he is currently in a boot due to an unfortunate ankle fracture, but he put others first before himself when he took his boot off so that he could wear closed shoes into the warehouse. Personally, I’ve been up for 18.5 hours and the alarm is due in 5.5 hours. But I won’t let that stop me from living the experiences that life has to offer. And I’m still so excited about it that I had to post this up tonight. 

My question to you is… What do you want to achieve in your 24 hours?

  

10 morning habits

  
There are 3 sides to every story. 

Your side. My side. And the truth. 

My side is this. This is my story. 

I am not always a happy person. But I try. I have my days like everyone else. These last few weeks have been a real struggle both physically and mentally. 

But you know everyday is a gift. It’s not guaranteed so why waste your day being negative?

To live a happy, meaningful life – one must be optimistic about life. 

I read these 10 morning habits one day and it made sense to me. So in line with my purpose to help shape the future, I’m sharing it with you. Take what you want from it and be happy. You don’t need to do all of them. Start with one. Just do it for yourself. Everything else will fall into place like a domino effect. 

1) Be grateful

So this is obvious.

Find the positives in everything. What are you grateful for? If you see the bad in something, think about what’s good and work from there. If you get the wrong sized coffee because they got your order wrong, try and see the positive and be grateful that you have a coffee at all. Some people don’t get the same luxury. Be grateful you have money to buy a coffee in the first place and smile. It’s not the end of the world. And abusing the coffee girl won’t make for a good mood for anyone. Don’t start your day like that. 

So that’s the small scheme of things. What if it’s something more serious. Let’s say you get into a car accident and your car is written off and you weren’t at fault. Ok that’s bad. And now your stuck using public transport until you can get a new car. So instead of being mad, be grateful that you had a car at all. Be grateful that no-one was hurt. Be grateful that you have insurance. You can get a new car. You can still walk and do everything you were doing when you had a car. You have money to pay for insurance in times like this. Nothing good is gained by negative thoughts and actions. 

2) Exercise 

This is very important to me. When your body has energy – you can do so much! Your mind is clear. You can do almost anything. Exercise is my me time. It’s my stress relief. It’s my thing. Make time for yourself because that’s the only person you can rely on. When you’re stuck on an island – it’s only you. So if you sit there and do nothing, nothing will happen. However if you sit there and work on yourself – watch what happens. Don’t make excuses!

  

3) Never forget spiritual connection

My name is Godly. But in no way am I living up to that name. I try. But it takes a lot to be Godly. If anything, I’m ungodly. Which is not something I’m proud of. But I’m trying. I have a responsibility to live my life as the best person I can be. And I have a huge name to live up to. My mum expected so much from me by giving me that name and I’m still working on it. After 33 years. Making time for God is necessary. It doesn’t need to be at church. Or announced to the world. Prayer can be done anywhere. At anytime. Have your 1 on 1 with God. He will listen.  

4) Plan a good deed

“Money doesn’t make people happy. People make people happy.” – Steve Wynn –

When you have good intentions – it won’t be hard to do. I can’t say I do this a lot or much but I try from time to time. 

Like I said, you don’t have to do all of these but start with one. 

5) Rarely ruminate about the past

No regrets. Life is for living. We all make mistakes. It doesn’t mean you can keep doing it. You need to learn from the mistake and grow. But don’t regret what you did. Just learn from it.

Don’t let failures of the past get you. When you fail, it’s proof you tried. Failing isn’t about winning or losing. It’s how you bounce back. Failing doesn’t mean stop trying, it means try again until you succceed. Failing helps you to be better. We’ve all failed at something. Who cares. But learn why you failed and keep going. 

Live for today. For today is all we have. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. So why waste your time thinking 

“I’ll do it tomorrow.”

“When I’m 30 I’ll do [insert your own thing here].”

“One day…”

Why are you waiting? What are you waiting for? What if you never get that chance? You’ll never forgive yourself. You’ll regret wasting time. Coz time is all we have. Money will not bring you happiness. People make happiness. Be that thing that makes people happy. Spend your time doing what you love. It’s simple really. 

6) Make happiness habit

Make joy, gratitude & mindfulness part of your daily habit. Amen to that. If anything, this is one you start with. No explanation needed. 

7) Set daily goals
Prioritise what’s important. Do them first.

Get the difficult tasks out of the way and the rest will follow. Procrastinating doesn’t get anything done. 

8) Take out a happiness subscription 

Don’t wait around for happy things to come to you. Make it happen. 

Spread the happiness. 

There were 2 others but they didn’t make sense to me so I won’t add them here. Insert your own 2 in the comments below to make up the 10. I’d love to know that someone’s reading this – so your comments are eagerly accepted. Heck, I’d love my inbox to be flooded with emails saying someone has commented on your post. Flood me. I’m ready. And if I’m wrong – correct me. I’ll take it. 

Until next time.

Keep smiling. And follow my life on snapchat godly153 | Instagram godlyscorner | Twitter @godlysaycon

To learn something new

  

I just love learning something new. I love the saying “you learn something new everyday!” It’s so true.

Today, I learnt something about a product I deal with everyday and more about how to do my job better. A job I’ve been in for almost 3 years. I know what I’m doing – yet I still have so much to learn. 

Lately I’ve been learning how to swim. Yep! You read that right – how to swim. I’m 32 years old and this year, I’m learning a new life skill. This was also number 41 on my 100 Things list. There were so many reasons why I wanted to learn this skill:

  1. to save my own life (I’ve had a couple of near death experiences with drowning)
  2. to be able to save my son’s life (God forbid that ever happens)
  3. to be able to participate in The Amazing Race TV series (number 20 on my list). I’ve applied a couple of times and they never call me. So to increase my chances, knowing how to swim might help me get a phone call. I really want to test myself in that kind of environment. How strong mentally and physically am I really? Can I really do anything I put my mind to? A show like this that would really allow me to test myself. How competitive am I really? #OneDay
  4. a new activity for me to keep fit
  5. a means of getting to/from work/school/home 

In December 2014, I decided to learn how to ride a bike (number 99). One beautiful, sunny day, we were buying a bike for my husband and my son was just learning how to move the pedals. I didn’t want to be left behind. I wanted to buy a little girls bike with training wheels. But the sales lady wouldn’t let me. She insisted on teaching me. It took 1 phone call to make the appointment, $140 and 2 lessons. And the rest is history. I must admit, learning was scary. Mainly because I didn’t want to fall. But now, the feeling of riding is exhilarating. I love the freedom. The solitude. And the family rides – that we are yet to have. I’m still teaching my son how to ride. It’s been about 10 months since we took his training wheels off. He’s still learning and he’s getting there. But we’re not yet 100% confident that he can stop suddenly if he needs to and ride fully independently while we’re both on our bikes too. So one day, this will happen – My dream of getting on our bikes on a Sunday arvo and just riding. #MakingItHappen

  

  
     

One thing I tell my son is that everyone needs to learn something. As a parent, teaching your kids is one of the most important things. The fact that I showed him that I too need to learn how to ride a bike, hopefully in some way motivated him too. I must admit, he doesn’t really like trying new things. But slowly, he’s learning that new things are great.

I’m learning new things everyday, every week, every month and every year. So when you see an obstacle, think of the opportunity it brings. Find the reason why it came into your life. Embrace it. Make it work for you. #RemainOptimistic

Next on my list of skills to learn…

Number 72. Learn to drive a manual car

Once I learn that, I’ll be totally ready for my journey on The Amazing Race. #WatchMeWhip

Life’s a journey. Life is meant to be lived. What are you waiting for? Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

Being grateful

  
I’ve developed a new sense of appreciation this week. 

I was always grateful for my blessings but I am now more grateful than ever before.

For the last 3 days, my husband was away for work. This meant a change in my usual routine. It’s not like I’ve never done it before but I don’t recall doing it for more than one day at a time, since my son started school this year.

So the change in my routine required me to also drop my son off to school and therefore start work a little later. In essence, that’s all it really was. Everything else was still the same (i.e. prepare lunches, school pick up, work from home, make dinner, housework and quality time etc) but this one addition to my schedule actually meant so much more. And without going into the boring details, after 3 days of this, I was overwhelmed, stressed, tired but more importantly – I was grateful. For all that I have is why I am, where I am today.

Grateful firstly to my husband who plays a huge and important part in my life and our family. Put simply, I couldn’t live without him. No words could explain how much I underestimated his role as a father and husband. He is my rock and my everything. My homie, lover, friend!

Also grateful for my son – who despite his occasional moments of naughtiness – is independent and helps me out whenever I need him. But he also shows us everyday what life is all about – by showing us never ending love and affection. 

My friends and colleagues who are single parents. You are stronger than you realise. I thought I was doing ok – but I’m nothing compared to you! You have struggles no-one would understand until they lived in your shoes. I tried living in your shoes and I couldn’t survive 3 days! You’re an inspiration to me!

Lastly – for my employer – as a whole, as a team and as an individual. My employer allows for flexibility where some employers wouldn’t. My team have helped wherever possible to assist me during this time. And individually, my boss has been understanding of my circumstances even though he does not have a child of his own.

It’s funny that we need wake up calls or to hit rock bottom before we realise what we have. 

We may not always think we have everything we need. And we always want more. But sometimes, what we need is right in front of our eyes and we just take it for granted. 

👪 Hug the ones you love.

👏🏽 Be grateful everyday.

😃 And smile.

🌈 Life is beautiful!

The BEST Ever! Part 2

  

Godly’s Corner was born because I was confident enough to voice my opinion and beliefs to the world. We all have an opinion and we are all entitled to them. Some people will voice them, some will write them (by this I mean, comments on social media, whether on their own or on someone else’s posts) , some will only share it with their nearest & dearest, some will mutter it to themselves and some will not say anything at all. 

We were all born different for a reason. Because the world would be boring if we all agreed with each other. There wouldn’t be competition against teams, there’d be no need for politicians and laws and we would all be like robots.

Some of us were born leaders, some born to be champions, some were born as kings and queens. On the flip side, sadly some were born without the same privileges that others have, some did not live nearly long enough to experience life in its entirety and some just lived to exist. 

I believe that today is the best day to do what you want! Yesterday has been and gone. You can’t keep looking back hoping you did things differently. Tomorrow may never come. So today, you have to learn from the past to be able to move forward.

I believe that today I am the best ever version of myself. I bring my best today and everyday! It won’t be perfect. I will make mistakes and I will have regrets. But I will learn from all of those things to keep improving. Don’t get me wrong, I have bad days too (just like everyone else). I just refuse to dwell on it. 

So even though someone doesn’t agree with you, this does not make them right. Heck – it doesn’t mean you’re right either. But it shouldn’t stop you. Be more of you and express yourself. Have your say. Live your life. YOLO.

Which brings me to Floyd Mayweather.

Some people don’t agree with him. Some people do. But who cares? Why are you hating on other people? When there’s YOU to live for? 

It’s like – if you don’t like chocolate, but you don’t like people who eat it. So you hate on them. Well hello?? Someone likes chocolate! Why do you have to care if they eat it and don’t get fat? Just eat that fruit that you love and be happy! Why do you have to comment and say “I hate people who eat whatever they want but don’t gain weight – whereas I just look at it and gain 2kgs”? What purpose does that comment serve? Nothing! Your opinion is valid. But doesn’t do anything for anyone! 

Consider this… Instead just do what makes you happy and be proud! “I love mangoes. They are so refreshing!” Now that positive comment says to the listener “hmmm, maybe I should eat a mango!” Again, your opinion is valid and I ask the same question – What does that opinion do for anyone? A LOT actually. You’ve encouraged someone to make a healthy choice! To try something new! 

So today, when you’re out there living your life… Do just that! Live your life. Be the best ever version of you and you will radiate that same positive vibe to the world. Is there anything wrong with that? Nope. You get to be happy. That makes others happy.

It’s like the saying “Happy wife – Happy life.”

Perhaps we could start a new one… “I’m happy when you’re happy!”

   

To be continued…

*Broken into parts because I have a lot to say. In the interest of keeping these short… This was necessary.

– Godly –
12 July 2015

The BEST Ever! Part 1

  

Let me take you to the beginning for a moment. Not when I was a baby, that’s too far back! I mean just where I’ve been until now…

I spent my childhood in a place where dreams were not everyone’s cup of tea. A suburb in Western Sydney that people now call ‘Struggle Street’.

Let me paint you a little picture… In the U.S.A., you may call it the Bronx (like J-Lo’s song Jenny from the Block), Michelle Pfeiffer made a movie called ‘Dangerous Minds’ which I could relate to, kids in my school were pregnant at 16, when you say you’re from Mt Druitt people say ‘really?’ because they have this stereotype of people from this neck of the woods and overall this area gets a bad name. Hence the recent SBS documentary, cleverly titled ‘Struggle Street’. 

I started working from the Australian legal age of 14 & 9 months at a local Chicken Shop to pay for cigarettes, alcohol, petrol and my Nissan Pulsar ’84. After finishing high school in 2001, I decided to move in with my boyfriend (now husband) and his family and get straight into the workforce. 

I went to school purely to finish my Higher School Certificate and had no intention of going to Uni or studying further. I had no interest in anything in particular back then (except my boyfriend.)

This basic education limited my ability to get a real job because of my lack of any qualification. The only thing I had was my strong work ethic.

This meant I chopped and changed jobs about 12 times. The shortest job was 8 hours. The longest was 6 years. I went from any job known to man that didn’t need a qualification; from the local take away chicken shop, food truck, cafe, retail shopkeeper, receptionist, IT, child care, insurance, debt collection, back to insurance and now a team assistant. Now this is the result of someone who didn’t take their education seriously. [Take note school kids].

But this also made me the person I am today by the jobs I’ve had, experiences in these jobs and more importantly, the people I’ve worked with who helped shape the person I am today! My colleagues and my bosses (who were not always the most supportive) have been my mentors and taught me a lot about life and myself. My colleagues and many are now life long friends were the ones who I shared my thoughts with, who I vent to, share lunches with and we always went shopping together. There weren’t always good people influencing me. Sometimes, I came across people who were no good and even managers and these people made me stronger. I believe that people cross your path for a reason. There is always a reason! Make sure you pay attention to that reason.

That’s my life in a nutshell. My life, my journey, my future will all be revealed in my blog.

Now this brings me to today.

I have strong beliefs and I will voice them if I feel the need. My friends and family, won’t always agree and will set me straight too. If they weren’t my real friends, they would shut their mouth in front of me and laugh behind my back.

Only recently have I discovered my purpose in life and my path. I am now well on my way. I am happier everyday. Appreciating all the blessings in my life.

As you now know, I haven’t always been blessed. I have had some really tough experiences in my life and those will make their way to my blog in time. I’ve got as long as I have left to live, to share with you all. If my time comes too soon – then so be it – but I will die happy.

Recently the world saw the much anticipated fight of the century between Floyd Mayweather and Manny Pacquiao on the 2nd May 2015. I had no real interest in boxing until this point for 2 reasons:

  1. I like Floyd. [More on this in Part 2]
  2. Manny is Filipino and so am I. Although I like to call myself Aussie.

I jumped on the bandwagon and watched the fight because it was gonna be a good fight! 

The reason I was on TMT that day is because of my beliefs. Despite what people said to me before that fight, that day at the pub and to this day as I wear Floyd’s victory jumper; despite all that, I will hold my head up high and stand up for my beliefs.

  
For without that, I wouldn’t be true to myself. I would be hiding under a shell pretending to be something I’m not – and I ain’t doing that! I will take the good with the bad. And this is why I chose Godly’s Corner as my blog name (also thanks to my husband for the suggestion). I chose it because of the boxing analogy. This is me in my blue corner. You (the world) are in the red corner.

Hit me with your best shot!

To be continued…

*Broken into parts because I have a lot to say. In the interest of keeping these short… This was necessary.

– Godly –
1 July 2015

World peace… Yeah right?!?!

  

This weekend was a wake up call for me.

I sit in my corner and say how much I want to help shape the world. When I open my mouth these days, I self promote my blog because if I don’t, who will? So as I sat there proud of my achievements so far and feeling great about life, I hear my Goddaughter (and niece) say how much she loves studying ancient history. That’s great. But then she says how she doesn’t know about current affairs and things that are happening now. She said she doesn’t care, because – and this is what got me nothing’s going to change anyway. “We’ll never have world peace” she says. 

I was blown away by this for 2 reasons:

  1. I have hardly spoken to my Goddaughter which means I don’t know what she’s thinking. As opposed to her sister who I speak to a bit more who thinks I’m annoying. (I’ll explain that one in a separate post later).
  2. why is she so pessimistic and when did this all start? 

She’s a straight A’s student, who I admire for her dedication to her studies and is a model child. My polar opposite. So for her to think this way was odd to me.

This made me question her thoughts and I immediately directed her to my blog (which is the complete opposite of what she was feeling). 

Here I am trying to shape the world now so that one day my son will live in a place that is filled with love, happiness, peace (ok not necessarily world peace – but peace of some sort nonetheless), togetherness, unity, greatness and all of that kind of stuff. And this is not just for my son but for all of our children. For the children of today, are the future of tomorrow. The future presidents, politicians, doctors, carers, lawyers, bankers, specialists, officers etc. My hope is so that the world I leave behind is better than what we have today. I’m not saying the world is terrible now, but it can be better. 

I like to see myself as an optimistic person. So to hear a family member say this, saddens me. Her dad said “she’s like that” but I hope she reads this and can see that the world can change.

Recently, I was referred to Jonathan Doyle by my colleague (and General Manager) because I initially shared my blog with him. #SelfPromotingAgain. He advised me to listen to Jonathan as he has some interesting thoughts and that I may find it interesting.  

So this weekend I found myself listening to podcasts from Jonathan while I went about doing my housework. And one of them was about breaking negative associations

In a nutshell, he explains how people think about things because of negative associations and I can’t help but think that something happened to her to make her think this way. She must have tried to change something but it didn’t work out and therefore she thinks nothing will change.

So he explained the 3 steps to help break this mentality.

  1. Identify: choose a current situation that you have a negative association with. For example: What’s the point in exercising if I’m just going to be in pain afterwards?
  2. Brainstorm: create a new association. Using the same example above, how about exercising with a friend then going for a coffee afterwards.
  3. Allow time: it won’t happen the first time you try but eventually the new associations will override the negative ones. 

I have taken Jonathan’s advice on a different podcast ‘the bee episode‘ and finally picked up my cold iron kettlebells again. I moved them from the balcony into the office so that they are a constant reminder to pick them up regularly (hopefully daily) and change myself again and be a better version of myself again. Further to this, I set some goals on my goals tree and look forward to measuring them in a week/month/year to see how I am progressing. #Excited

We only get one life. Let’s make the most out of it. Who knows what’s around the corner. And if I don’t make it tomorrow, I know I’m doing everything I can today to live my life – my way! And I will die happy. #LoveLife

I achieved and learned so much this weekend, that I was able to get my thinking straight again. It started by listening to Jonathan’s podcasts, then speaking to my family and lastly shopping for the tags for my goals tree. It took a wake up call this weekend to realise that I was not as ‘on track’ as I thought I was.

Change is possible. And one of my favourite statements (which also happened to be one of my essay topics in high school) change is inevitable. 

A final word: This post is a dedication to my beautiful goddaughter (I do hope you’re reading this). I hope you can see that I am trying to change the world for you and every child out there. I know you’re 15 and no longer a child, but you know what I mean. Don’t be disheartened. Life is changing and life can change. You can live life however you want. Do what makes you happy! I love you. Xoxo

– Godly –
22 June 2015