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No Regrets


It’s been a while since I last published anything. But I won’t bore you with the details – I’m here now. 

Today, I am at a stage in my life where I am trying to find my feet again.

4.5 years ago I was given an opportunity. And as I reflect back on it now, I realise that I didn’t make the most of that opportunity; and now I’m left with a bitter taste in my mouth. 

A bitter taste of regret. 

Regret 

verb

Feel sad, repentant or disappointed over (something that one has or failed to do).

That ‘opportunity‘ pill is sure hard to swallow with that tall glass of ‘regret‘ on ice, sitting on that coaster called ‘life‘.

When you know you messed up and now you just have to pick up the pieces and start again. And you’re trying to stay positive when you’re really just miserable

Well, I guess I can sit here and just keep being miserable; and blame myself and others; and do nothing new tomorrow to change. But I won’t. 

You know why? Because tomorrow is a new day to be better than I was today! If I tell my son that, I should probably live up to it and follow my own ‘words of wisdom‘ (so they call it).

I don’t like to talk too much ‘crap’ and not actually come through with the goods. So I don’t want to say too much right now – But I know what I’m thinking when say this and this is only a personal goal I’ll keep between my family. But as of right now, I will train my mind & body for this new career that I just recently discovered I want to pursue. And the hardest part about this “challenge” is that it’s practically impossible for me to get into, because:

– I’m 34 and I’m getting a little on the ‘old’ side to be starting a new career;

– I’m nowhere near fit enough to do the physical aspects of the role (as much as I like to flex my guns) and I have an ankle injury that may not pass the medical assessment;

– They only accept about 120 people out of 7000 applications which is like 1%; and

– People re-apply annually and still haven’t made it in (according to posts I read on Facebook).

But despite the odds, I am going to try anyway. Because for me it ticks all the boxes of a rewarding career. A workplace I could happily go to each day and when I come home, I would be proud! If you can guess it based on the above, I bow down to you. But until I’ve made it in, I won’t tell a soul. For people will just find a way to shoot me down and tell me I can’t do it. And frankly – I don’t want any more negativity in my life! So if you’re gonna be a negative Nancy, you can just stop reading now!

So the beginning of 2017 was kinda up and down. It certainly had its highlights:

With an old friend Ken (introduced in the previous post ironically called ‘Introducing the Sun Chasers’) coming to Australia for a few months and bringing back some crazy adventures into our lives. And this is just his kind of humour… as we stroll through Bombo Headlands looking for a particular ‘rock’.




My nephew Enzo was born and brought some much needed happiness into our lives and on the other end of the birthdays, my mum turned the ripe old age of 75. 





With a slow-healing sprained left ankle (from my soccer injury last year), I still managed to conquer the flying trapeze! Not quite ready to join the circus yet though!


I saw Anh Do re-tell his story “The Happiest Refugee” at the ICC Sydney, with hubby and friends. Anh is such an inspiration to many! This book is a must-read!


Not an easy one to share with the world, but I saw a shrink to try and sort out my ‘issues‘, because I told myself that in 2017, I was going to be bigger and better than I was in 2016. And it may be 6 months into the year, but I’m not ready to give up on myself just yet! Although I’ve definitely wanted to.


I did the Colour Run Night with my family, sister, niece and cousin.


Hubby and I did a couples pottery lesson together!


My son started his own YouTube channel because he watches enough YouTube that he wanted to do his own. See a video of the Colour Run here.


I went skydiving (again) for my birthday! Which used to be my birthday tradition until I became a mum and had to start thinking responsibly. But this delightful surprise from my hubby reinvigorated my goal to become a certified tandem skydiving instructor (number 56 on my #Godlys100Things list).


I saw the Aladdin musical with my son (which was his second musical which is pretty good for a 7 year old). I didn’t see my first musical until I was in my 20’s.


I was finally called for Jury Duty which has been something I’ve always wanted to do (and many others try to avoid) – sadly, I didn’t make the cut. But the e perish even was fun, nonetheless.



We took our first (hopefully the first of many) camping trips as a family, to The Basin Campgrounds.


We bought a new car.


I started yet another new hobby (candle making)… as if I don’t have enough hobbies! And made a few floral arrangements of my own.





And as I scrolled through my camera roll, I honestly had no idea how much I’ve done this year. It’s scary to think that 6 months have gone by but I wouldn’t have been able to recall all those moments if I hadn’t taken a photo of them. 

And the lowlights of 2017, just aren’t worth a mention. I’d like to end this post on a positive!

So now as my goal for 2017 remains, I now look forward to the next 6 months with a newfound focus! Although unrealistic and very likely unachievable, I will give it my best shot. Because, right now, my career is my next target! Because everything else in my life is doing OK! And I’m happy with OK because there’s always another day to make it better than yesterday!


What brings me back…to this world


I’ve been on a blogging break for so many reasons. I started this blog as my way of speaking up. Sometimes people say shit they can’t back up. Or they talk a lot of crap and I just wanna shut ’em down. But I’m in two minds about causing conflict. So I keep my mouth shut – sometimes. Mainly when the conflict is work-related or if I don’t want to cause trouble (in general). I’m not bad person – although some would think I am. So on this blog, I can pretty much say whatever I want. People say it’s a cowards way of dealing with it. I disagree. I just don’t like conflict. 

Secondly, when it’s my professional brand that’s at stake, I’d rather not risk it for a disagreement with a colleague. 

Also, this blog gives me a chance to put it out to others who may feel the same. To help others – hopefully one reader can get something useful out of this. Whether it’s inspirational or advice. However I’m not qualified to give advice so don’t take my word as gospel. Lol. The irony. I work in the complaints department, and one type of complaint we get is advice-related. 
Bringing me back on topic, the reasons I’ve been on a break was due to the tough year I had. I didn’t feel like blogging when my mindset was wrong. 

I also had some work challenges. 7 March 2016 was the biggest. It will be etched in my mind forever. 

I hadn’t just stopped blogging. I stopped Instagram as well. Like a celebrity in rehab trying to get back to basics. I couldn’t find the inspiration to post photos when my life was so broken. People ‘usually’ tend to only post good photos. People who want to say “Look how good my life is”. But deep down, they’re broken too. Only some will post everything about their lives – good and bad. I know a few. I think it’s TMI. I think social media is great. But be careful what you post. Who your audience is. What your telling them. Sometimes it’s nice to keep something to yourself. So I took myself off the grid (so to speak). I lost connections with those around me. I lost friends (as in friendships and those taken by God). I lost family too. 

This year was a huge wake up call. My estranged father passed away as well. It wasn’t a big deal to me. I knew it was coming. He was 90 years old.  I gave him the cold shoulder and we hadn’t spoken in a decade at least. Some would call me heartless. I had my reasons. No-one needed to understand. Because that was my battle. One I tried to deal with internally. And on my own. One big lesson was – you can’t do alone. We are human. We need each other to survive. We give each other love, compassion, truth and we also hurt each other. His passing made me realise that it wasn’t all his fault. I finally learnt that. But it was too late. I have learned to forgive him for his faults. And to let him rest in peace. I think about him more these days than when he was alive. 


Photo cred: My nephew who came to support me. I didn’t know he took this pic until after the funeral.

I feel like my anthem this year is Forgive me Father (feat. Meaghan Trainor, Wiz Khalifa & Wale) from DJ. Khaled’s Major Key  album. For two reasons. This is one of them. The other reason was for my personal battle and asking God for forgiveness. I particularly love the chorus. 


Like I mean this year started badly. New Year’s Eve was spent in my car angry at my son who had been playing up (partly due to extreme tiredness from the day’s events and partly from his cheeky personality and also the excitement NYE brings). So I kinda knew 2016 was gonna be rough. I’m superstitious like that. The way your year starts, is how it usually goes. 2017 is gonna be fucken awesome! 

I mean, it wasn’t all bad. It was pretty awesome too. But I couldn’t find the thing that made me want to blog again. I was having writers block. I wanted to blog. I just needed it to be meaningful. Today, I posted a photo on snapchat and replicated it on instagram. 

This was my 2016 in a nutshell.

I wrote it on the short 5 minute bus ride to work. And I didn’t think twice. It was just a post on snap. But for instagram (which I like to call my photo album) it was to track my life. For me, it’s not about how many followers or likes the photo gets. I have been off instagram for 6 months. And my last blog post was in Sept 2016. And people were asking. That was nice – To know I brought some value to some people. 

I’ve been focusing on myself this year. Working on my issues. My life. Getting my mojo back. If anyone didn’t understand that, that was their problem. Not mine. Harsh but true. We all have to take time out for ourselves. It’s how we cope. This meant friendships were balancing on a very fine tightrope ready to snap. And it did. I don’t know for sure but I’m pretty certain some friends are gone.

People will come and go. I’ve always believed that people come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes it’s short lived. But there was a reason. 

Sometimes people come and go and will always be there regardless. Whatever they go through – sometimes we share; sometimes we keep things bottled up. But no matter what happens, they will always be there. Because life happens. They are my true friends.

Sometimes people are there for a long time. But not necessarily for the right reasons. Sometimes they are there to help us along our journey. But they’re there for a reason. I’ve lost a few of these friends this year. Kinda just dropped off. I am hurt. But I am also human. I haven’t done this intentionally – life happened and this was the result. I miss them dearly but that’s how the cookie crumbled. 

My horoscope from The Daily Telegraph on 15/12/2016

Then there are friends who are taken away from us too soon. A real tragedy. One that makes me tear up every time. Rest in Peace Juanito. You will be missed. 

The photo I posted (above) attracted some attention. I even got a beautiful heartfelt SMS from my best friend to check if I was ok. Which got me to check my instagram post. As I only go in there intermittently. And I noticed it had 3 comments. Again from people who have inspired me to be the person I am today. Which brings me to my blog post. 

I hope you don’t mind me posting this hon.

A lightbulb moment. It was my sign to get back to blogging, doing what I love and sharing what I do. I don’t speak lies. I do what I say. I won’t always be motivated but I try. I will fall. And I have. But I guarantee, that I will get back up and hustle harder.
Watch this space. I’m back!

McGregor vs Diaz | 6 Mar 2016

   
Family is everything. Nothing matters more. Of course we all have other things to do but at the end of the day, everything we do is for the ones we love. 

So number 94 on my 100 things list is to watch a fight with my husband. Why is this on my list – I hear you ask? Well everyone’s list is different. To me my list was about what makes me feel happy. That’s it. So to spend time with my husband doing things he loves is just as important to me as doing things I love. Because if he’s happy – I’m happy. Vice versa. So when he wants to watch a fight, I like to come and cheer as well. Eventhough I know (like) very little about boxing and UFC. It’s not about the fight. It’s about the moment. If we’re together, living that moment, that’s what matters. What’s the point of having all the money in the world when you have no-one to share the moments with? Some of the richest people in the world are not happy. Yet some of the poorest people are. Go figure.

Besides, I learnt so much about the sport from today’s UFC main event between Holm vs Tate and McGregor vs Diaz. I genuinely enjoyed it. So while it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, I’m sure just being there made my husband happy. It beats not seeing him for the afternoon while he’s out at the pub and I’m doing my own thing. I guess that’s what marriage is about. Sharing your interests with each other. Having each other’s back. Living life as individuals but being able to share that life with someone else. 

And even though I’m now sitting here at the stroke of midnight blogging, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I felt like snapchatting my day today to share a snippet of my life. I really love what snapchat is about and it’s somewhat my way of connecting with friends near and far and letting them in on what I’m up to. Coz sometimes, I just get caught up in life that I don’t get to see them as often as I’d like. We’re all busy. But snapchat offers a way to keep in touch. It also allows regular joes like me to see the life of the celebrities I admire (once you know their username that is). So it’s somewhat private – unless you share your username on other social media outlets. 

My weekends are jam packed and I just want one more day to relax. Like really relax. I work hard. And I wanna play hard too. But sometimes stuff just needs to get done. Sundays for me are like Groundhog Day. Always routine. Saturdays are my days for exercise, family time, catch ups and on the odd occasion, some me time. 

So in case you missed my snaps, here’s a peek at what my Sunday looks like. Apologies for the lag in the video. It’s a big file 🙁

  
But in all that, we gotta make time for ourselves. Some down time. Blogging has kinda turned into my downtime. I enjoy just writing whatever comes to mind. I hope it’s relevant enough for someone to relate to. Interesting enough for someone to want to read more. I never really knew where I wanted this to go. I just wanted to have my say. So I created that platform. I don’t really need this to be trending on Twitter or go viral like YouTube videos. But I would like to know that one day, at the very least, my son reads this and sees what my life was like. What I did (which was mostly to hopefully create for a better future for him). 

Everyday brings about a new thought. A new idea. A conversation that makes me think – I can change that. I just want to help shape the future because I know the world can be better. And I’m doing that by the small things that I do that makes up my 100 things. It may not look like the coolest list, but it’s mine. And it’s cool to me. #Godlys100Things

I kinda ticked this one off my list back in May 2015 when I watched my first boxing match between Mayweather and Pacquiao, and in Dec 2015 when I watched McGregor take out Aldo in 13 seconds. But I’m really enjoying the moments we’re sharing. Even though we’re the only parents who take our child to the pub. Would love your thoughts on that too by the way. Is it wrong to take your child to the pub to watch a fight? Is it selfish? Is it bad parenting?  Or am I teaching him about life. I don’t see anything wrong with it and I’ll keep doing it, until it’s made illegal.

Follow my journey on snapchat Godly153, Instagram GodlysCorner and Twitter godlysaycon

10 morning habits

  
There are 3 sides to every story. 

Your side. My side. And the truth. 

My side is this. This is my story. 

I am not always a happy person. But I try. I have my days like everyone else. These last few weeks have been a real struggle both physically and mentally. 

But you know everyday is a gift. It’s not guaranteed so why waste your day being negative?

To live a happy, meaningful life – one must be optimistic about life. 

I read these 10 morning habits one day and it made sense to me. So in line with my purpose to help shape the future, I’m sharing it with you. Take what you want from it and be happy. You don’t need to do all of them. Start with one. Just do it for yourself. Everything else will fall into place like a domino effect. 

1) Be grateful

So this is obvious.

Find the positives in everything. What are you grateful for? If you see the bad in something, think about what’s good and work from there. If you get the wrong sized coffee because they got your order wrong, try and see the positive and be grateful that you have a coffee at all. Some people don’t get the same luxury. Be grateful you have money to buy a coffee in the first place and smile. It’s not the end of the world. And abusing the coffee girl won’t make for a good mood for anyone. Don’t start your day like that. 

So that’s the small scheme of things. What if it’s something more serious. Let’s say you get into a car accident and your car is written off and you weren’t at fault. Ok that’s bad. And now your stuck using public transport until you can get a new car. So instead of being mad, be grateful that you had a car at all. Be grateful that no-one was hurt. Be grateful that you have insurance. You can get a new car. You can still walk and do everything you were doing when you had a car. You have money to pay for insurance in times like this. Nothing good is gained by negative thoughts and actions. 

2) Exercise 

This is very important to me. When your body has energy – you can do so much! Your mind is clear. You can do almost anything. Exercise is my me time. It’s my stress relief. It’s my thing. Make time for yourself because that’s the only person you can rely on. When you’re stuck on an island – it’s only you. So if you sit there and do nothing, nothing will happen. However if you sit there and work on yourself – watch what happens. Don’t make excuses!

  

3) Never forget spiritual connection

My name is Godly. But in no way am I living up to that name. I try. But it takes a lot to be Godly. If anything, I’m ungodly. Which is not something I’m proud of. But I’m trying. I have a responsibility to live my life as the best person I can be. And I have a huge name to live up to. My mum expected so much from me by giving me that name and I’m still working on it. After 33 years. Making time for God is necessary. It doesn’t need to be at church. Or announced to the world. Prayer can be done anywhere. At anytime. Have your 1 on 1 with God. He will listen.  

4) Plan a good deed

“Money doesn’t make people happy. People make people happy.” – Steve Wynn –

When you have good intentions – it won’t be hard to do. I can’t say I do this a lot or much but I try from time to time. 

Like I said, you don’t have to do all of these but start with one. 

5) Rarely ruminate about the past

No regrets. Life is for living. We all make mistakes. It doesn’t mean you can keep doing it. You need to learn from the mistake and grow. But don’t regret what you did. Just learn from it.

Don’t let failures of the past get you. When you fail, it’s proof you tried. Failing isn’t about winning or losing. It’s how you bounce back. Failing doesn’t mean stop trying, it means try again until you succceed. Failing helps you to be better. We’ve all failed at something. Who cares. But learn why you failed and keep going. 

Live for today. For today is all we have. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. So why waste your time thinking 

“I’ll do it tomorrow.”

“When I’m 30 I’ll do [insert your own thing here].”

“One day…”

Why are you waiting? What are you waiting for? What if you never get that chance? You’ll never forgive yourself. You’ll regret wasting time. Coz time is all we have. Money will not bring you happiness. People make happiness. Be that thing that makes people happy. Spend your time doing what you love. It’s simple really. 

6) Make happiness habit

Make joy, gratitude & mindfulness part of your daily habit. Amen to that. If anything, this is one you start with. No explanation needed. 

7) Set daily goals
Prioritise what’s important. Do them first.

Get the difficult tasks out of the way and the rest will follow. Procrastinating doesn’t get anything done. 

8) Take out a happiness subscription 

Don’t wait around for happy things to come to you. Make it happen. 

Spread the happiness. 

There were 2 others but they didn’t make sense to me so I won’t add them here. Insert your own 2 in the comments below to make up the 10. I’d love to know that someone’s reading this – so your comments are eagerly accepted. Heck, I’d love my inbox to be flooded with emails saying someone has commented on your post. Flood me. I’m ready. And if I’m wrong – correct me. I’ll take it. 

Until next time.

Keep smiling. And follow my life on snapchat godly153 | Instagram godlyscorner | Twitter @godlysaycon

Hustle

  
There’s a little theme going on in my blog that I’m noticing. I’ve accidentally been posting about ‘time’ without realising it.

Although this blog started as an outlet for me to voice my opinion on life – writing about anything and everything that I felt at the time. It’s quickly become ‘time’ focussed and I also found it has become somewhat a little novel about me and my journey so far. I’ve come to think of it as my little journal. A little something to leave behind for my son. Hoping one day he’ll read it.

My motivational word for 2016 is HUSTLE. 

Last year was a like a roller coaster ride for me. So much:

  • learnt
  • to remember
  • I wish I could change
  • So much… Everything!

In all of that, I learned that I didn’t do nearly as much as I should have, could have or would have – I wish I had my hustle mentality a year ago. But it’s too late for regrets now. I’ve gotta move on.

So in 2016, everyday I’m hustlin’.

We all lead busy lives. So I thought I’d share my opinion on this important topic of time.

It’s like all the quotes you’ve ever heard all rolled into one:

  • Make time for what you love
  • Stay positive, work hard, make it happen
  • No pain, no gain
  • or just #MotivationalQuotes and you’ll find one you like

So if you want it* enough, you need to work for it. And not just half-heartedly – give it all you’ve got.

*whatever “IT” means to you. e.g. health, wealth, happiness, dream job, family, possessions…

For me, IT means internal happiness. When I have that, everything else falls into place. It has a domino effect on my life.

So, to get my internal happiness, I need my mind and body in the right state. When I feel good physically, I make better choices in life. Better choices makes me happy. Happy me = happy family. Happy family means life is bliss.

So to start my internal happiness I have been getting myself back to a regular fitness schedule. Making time for it. Since Boxing Day, I’ve been tracking my exercise and over the last few days I found myself getting back into my old habits. I’d spent the last few days ‘resting’ instead of doing some form of exercise. So I told myself – “Enough’s enough!!! Just get it done Godly!!”

But it was 9:30pm on a Sunday night and it was getting late. I could have said to myself, just do it tomorrow. But I didn’t. I gave myself a quick internal pep talk and said #NoExcuses. 

I usually train with my friend once a week (at least) and more if our schedule permits. Lately we’ve been doing more due to school holidays because we’re both out of routine. She’s one of the people who inspire me to be more. When people say they have no time, you have to look at people like her who make time. She has 3 kids and still puts her health first. How can someone who has 3 kids still have time? Simple – she makes time.

Another friend told me that “you can’t help anyone else if a plane is going down without your oxygen mask on first. As a fellow mother, I can understand we feel guilty putting ourselves first but we fail to realise that it’s necessary in order to be the best mothers we can be.” Another person who inspires me to be the best mother I can be. 

I know there’s a theme here with mothers making time for the greater good of their family, but I’m certain there are others out there who don’t have kids, or animals, or any other commitments that also make time for themselves. We in the industry call it “me time”.

When you want something bad enough, you’ve gotta learn to hustle.

  1. Make it number 1 on your list.
  2. Set goals so that you have something to strive for.
  3. Keep track so you can see how far you’ve come.

The inspiration behind today’s post was my 25 minute at-home workout. All the excuses in the world could have come out but I chose to overcome them:

  1. I don’t have time – yes I do. It’s just 25 minutes.
  2. I can’t be bothered going for a run, going to the gym, putting on my gym wear etc – then don’t. Stay home and do it in the comfort of your bedroom/garage/lounge room/home gym and in your undies if you want!
  3. It’s late and I have work tomorrow – so what? And besides everyone has to get up for ‘something’ tomorrow. That’s not even a legitimate excuse.
  4. I can’t be bothered and I’m tired – boohoo. Cry me a river.

Truly, all those excuses went through my head tonight but I still got it done.

The hardest thing of all is control. And the hardest thing about control, is controlling our mind. When you have some control over that, you’re halfway there. The only thing left is the action. Most of us fall into the habit of letting our mind tell us things like:

  • I’ll start on Monday.
  • I’m too tired.
  • I’d rather be doing something else.
  • I’m on holidays.
  • I’m just missing 1 day/workout/etc.
  • [insert your own excuses here]

I try to remind myself when I start falling into the excuses trap, is to say to myself “hustle”. But do whatever mantra works for you! The Nike slogan is always a good one! The best part is that when you’ve done whatever it is that you’re making excuses about, you’ll feel so much better afterwards. You’ll be proud of yourself! Guaranteed!

After my workout was done, I was surprised when my son decided to drop and do 10 push ups. I guess he felt the need to do something himself. #Priceless

  

Product Review | www.HelloFresh.com.au | Cooking reinvented

  
Time is not on my side. 

But time is one thing we all want more of. 

And we all get the same amount everyday. 

The only thing we can’t guarantee is how much time we have left (in life).

So put simply, I want to spend more time on things that are important to me.

Groceries are essential but not something I would say I enjoy doing. There’s other things I’d much rather do.

So this is where Hello Fresh comes into my life.

I simply cannot fit enough in 24 hours (as I sit here blogging in the wee hours of the night). So when I find something that can save me time – I like to share it.

It might not help everyone. But if it helps one person, I’m happy.

It’s just one of the many options out there these days; like lite n easy, weight watchers, food4fitness etc.

“Eating healthy is too expensive” some might say.

Yes it can be but if you’re smart about it, it doesn’t have to be.

It’s about planning. 

It’s about knowledge.

It’s about personal choices, values, taste, affordability, lifestyle etc.

Ok, so the Hello Fresh concept is simple – they create the meals for the week, pack it in a box, deliver it to your door and you do all the cooking. They provide all* the ingredients you need and recipe cards. Everything BUT the chef (you).

  
For me, this is about convenience, saving time planning next week’s meals, time doing the groceries, food wasted at the end of the week and most importantly – eating healthy, delicious meals.

So this works for me.

Yes, it is pricey.

Yes, I’ve spent a little more on groceries these past two weeks; and

Yes, I still need to go to the supermarket for fruit, school lunches, toiletries and the odd ingredients.

But I don’t have to spend an hour at the supermarket.

I don’t waste money on excess ingredients.

And my family are loving it. In more ways than one:

  1. they love the meals I’ve cooked (from scratch);
  2. there’s not much left over and wasted; and
  3. I have more time to spend with them = quality time

So the way it works is you subscribe to Hello Fresh. It’s free to join. If you don’t want the box delivered next week, you just pause the delivery. In a nutshell. 

The meals are the same for every member for the week. So when you check out your social media feeds like Instagram, you can see what next week’s meals will be.

This is only my 2nd week so I’ve only cooked a handful of recipes but so far all the meals have been a hit with my family. Even my 6 year old son (who can be picky at the best of times), hasn’t complained about a dish yet. 

The cooking times range from 20-50 minutes and some were actually cooked faster than the estimated time, even though I was reading the recipe card.

I chose the family box for 4-5 people which has 4 meals, as recommended to me by my sister. This box  allows for 2 lunches to be packed for work the next day for me and my hubby. The best part is that the meals still taste delicious warmed up the next day. No joke.

I haven’t stopped raving on about this to my friends and colleagues, because I really think this is going to change the way my family eats and our lifestyle. We have more time to spend together just by changing the way I do my groceries.

What about the food? I hear you ask. So here’s what I’ve tried so far:

  1. Cajun chicken with brown rice medley;
  2. Wagyu beef burger;
  3. Speedy steaks with cheesy chive mash;
  4. Pesto chicken fettuccine;
  5. Tandoori steak chapati with minted yoghurt.

And here’s my verdict:

  1. The chicken could have had a tad more flavour but was still tasty. We loved the rice medley;
  2. OMG. One of my faves. Even the next day, I was drooling over this. Needs a side dish though;
  3. The photo doesn’t do this meal justice. My son doesn’t like mash or herbs but he loved this;
  4. I’m not a fan of basil and pesto and I enjoyed this meal. Some great flavours in this dish; and
  5. Not enough chapati or zucchini. But the flavour was authentic.

Pros:

  • No joining fee
  • No minimum subscription length
  • Minimal time spent at the supermarket
  • Minimal ingredients = maximum flavour
  • Save time: no more meal planning
  • Direct debit payment
  • Good delivery windows. Even one from 2-7am on Saturdays which works for me and the driver even delivered at 2am (as you can see from the text message). Although I had to change this as it woke up my family
  • Friendly drivers
  • App is easy to use
  • Delicious meals the whole family will enjoy
  • There’s a referral code** to share with friends/family who join. They benefit by getting a discount on their first box, and you get a discount on your next box
  • Recipes are easy to follow with pictures, ‘did you know?’, nutritional table and a meal intro
  • Meals still taste delicious for lunch the next day

Cons:

  • Subscription service
  • You need to remember to pause your delivery for the week if you don’t want it delivered
  • You need to deactivate your subscription if you no longer want to continue
  • Not exactly affordable
  • You still need to go to the supermarket for bits and bobs
  • Peak seasons like Christmas/New Year – they are giving me grief about delivery during this time
  • You can’t pick and choose the meals. They are the same for every member for the week
  • People who have special dietary requirements may find this doesn’t suit them entirely

*Not all ingredients are provided. Staples you need in your pantry include

  • olive oil
  • butter
  • salt and pepper
  • balsamic vinegar
  • brown sugar
  • mayonnaise
  • milk
  • water
  • soy sauce
  • fish sauce
  • vegetable oil
  • red wine vinegar

All this stuff I had anyway. So it was no big deal for me.

** My Australian readers can use my referral code 85DHV6 for $35 off your first box. Click here to be redirected to the website.

I’ll keep you posted on this as time progresses. Time that I now have back.

Until then, keep smiling! 😃

 

1. Cajun chicken with brown rice medley
 

 

2. Wagyu beef burger
 
 
3. Speedy steaks with cheesy chive mash
  
4. Pesto chicken fettuccine
 

  

Being grateful

  
I’ve developed a new sense of appreciation this week. 

I was always grateful for my blessings but I am now more grateful than ever before.

For the last 3 days, my husband was away for work. This meant a change in my usual routine. It’s not like I’ve never done it before but I don’t recall doing it for more than one day at a time, since my son started school this year.

So the change in my routine required me to also drop my son off to school and therefore start work a little later. In essence, that’s all it really was. Everything else was still the same (i.e. prepare lunches, school pick up, work from home, make dinner, housework and quality time etc) but this one addition to my schedule actually meant so much more. And without going into the boring details, after 3 days of this, I was overwhelmed, stressed, tired but more importantly – I was grateful. For all that I have is why I am, where I am today.

Grateful firstly to my husband who plays a huge and important part in my life and our family. Put simply, I couldn’t live without him. No words could explain how much I underestimated his role as a father and husband. He is my rock and my everything. My homie, lover, friend!

Also grateful for my son – who despite his occasional moments of naughtiness – is independent and helps me out whenever I need him. But he also shows us everyday what life is all about – by showing us never ending love and affection. 

My friends and colleagues who are single parents. You are stronger than you realise. I thought I was doing ok – but I’m nothing compared to you! You have struggles no-one would understand until they lived in your shoes. I tried living in your shoes and I couldn’t survive 3 days! You’re an inspiration to me!

Lastly – for my employer – as a whole, as a team and as an individual. My employer allows for flexibility where some employers wouldn’t. My team have helped wherever possible to assist me during this time. And individually, my boss has been understanding of my circumstances even though he does not have a child of his own.

It’s funny that we need wake up calls or to hit rock bottom before we realise what we have. 

We may not always think we have everything we need. And we always want more. But sometimes, what we need is right in front of our eyes and we just take it for granted. 

👪 Hug the ones you love.

👏🏽 Be grateful everyday.

😃 And smile.

🌈 Life is beautiful!

The BEST Ever! Part 4

  
I haven’t been my best lately, as I have been unwell for almost a week. But life must go on. I still had to pick up my son from school so I rolled out of bed, grabbed my keys and left the house in my batman onesie (without thinking twice).

So as I walked to the school, a lot of things crossed my mind:

  • What will others think? 
  • What will the kids at school think? 
  • Will my son be embarrassed?
  • Will being myself have negative repercussions to him at school?
  • Will kids tease him because of my actions? 
  • Am I being selfish by not coming to school like a normal parent?

I realized that it was too late to think about what others would think and instead just think about my own beliefs.

In that moment, I thought only about 2 things:

  1. What matters to me; and
  2. What matters to my son.

What matters to me is that I am being myself. Regardless of what anybody else sees, I am happy to walk the streets in my batman onesie. I am different. But I am me. Wearing this outfit doesn’t mean I am trying to be the centre of attention. It just means I’m confident and comfortable.

Just before I walked to school, I grabbed a coffee to keep warm and my barista asked me “do you get looks wearing that?” Of course I do but I don’t care about what people think. She smiled and said “it’s ok to be different” and I replied “it’s ok to be yourself”.

Secondly, what my son thinks is the most important. When he saw me, he was happy and wanted to hug me. 

As soon as we had a quiet moment to chat, I asked him how he felt about me wearing my onesie to his school. He said happy. Then he said “and a little bit jealous.” I asked why he was happy and jealous. He said he was happy because he loved me. And jealous because he wasn’t wearing his one. #Twinning

I’m not sure he knows the feeling of embarrassment yet so I explained that too. I was worried he felt embarrassed. 

I never really thought about him being teased because of me. It was a selfish move on my part but one I don’t regret because I was able to explain this to my son by leading by example. 

I gave him some examples of things that kids may say to him at school tomorrow because of what they saw today. And I explained how to deal with each example.

We can’t always protect our kids (like when they are at school) but we (as parents) must be there to teach them along the way. I have to show him that he can be whoever he wants to be and to never let any one change him. 

I struggled as a teen to deal with kids who teased and bullied me for being different. To this day, I still remember the feeling when I let these people hurt me. I let them change me because I just wanted to fit in. I won’t let this happen to my son.

The message here is “Don’t change who you are. Instead surround yourself with the people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel!” #SurroundYourself
  
It takes me back to the old saying “sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me”. 

Personally that didn’t ring true for me but I learnt that lesson later in life and now I just need to raise my son to be confident in himself regardless of what the world will say to him. 

Just because someone says something, doesn’t mean it’s true!

You must believe in yourself and be the best ever!

– Godly –

16 July 2015

The BEST Ever! Part 2

  

Godly’s Corner was born because I was confident enough to voice my opinion and beliefs to the world. We all have an opinion and we are all entitled to them. Some people will voice them, some will write them (by this I mean, comments on social media, whether on their own or on someone else’s posts) , some will only share it with their nearest & dearest, some will mutter it to themselves and some will not say anything at all. 

We were all born different for a reason. Because the world would be boring if we all agreed with each other. There wouldn’t be competition against teams, there’d be no need for politicians and laws and we would all be like robots.

Some of us were born leaders, some born to be champions, some were born as kings and queens. On the flip side, sadly some were born without the same privileges that others have, some did not live nearly long enough to experience life in its entirety and some just lived to exist. 

I believe that today is the best day to do what you want! Yesterday has been and gone. You can’t keep looking back hoping you did things differently. Tomorrow may never come. So today, you have to learn from the past to be able to move forward.

I believe that today I am the best ever version of myself. I bring my best today and everyday! It won’t be perfect. I will make mistakes and I will have regrets. But I will learn from all of those things to keep improving. Don’t get me wrong, I have bad days too (just like everyone else). I just refuse to dwell on it. 

So even though someone doesn’t agree with you, this does not make them right. Heck – it doesn’t mean you’re right either. But it shouldn’t stop you. Be more of you and express yourself. Have your say. Live your life. YOLO.

Which brings me to Floyd Mayweather.

Some people don’t agree with him. Some people do. But who cares? Why are you hating on other people? When there’s YOU to live for? 

It’s like – if you don’t like chocolate, but you don’t like people who eat it. So you hate on them. Well hello?? Someone likes chocolate! Why do you have to care if they eat it and don’t get fat? Just eat that fruit that you love and be happy! Why do you have to comment and say “I hate people who eat whatever they want but don’t gain weight – whereas I just look at it and gain 2kgs”? What purpose does that comment serve? Nothing! Your opinion is valid. But doesn’t do anything for anyone! 

Consider this… Instead just do what makes you happy and be proud! “I love mangoes. They are so refreshing!” Now that positive comment says to the listener “hmmm, maybe I should eat a mango!” Again, your opinion is valid and I ask the same question – What does that opinion do for anyone? A LOT actually. You’ve encouraged someone to make a healthy choice! To try something new! 

So today, when you’re out there living your life… Do just that! Live your life. Be the best ever version of you and you will radiate that same positive vibe to the world. Is there anything wrong with that? Nope. You get to be happy. That makes others happy.

It’s like the saying “Happy wife – Happy life.”

Perhaps we could start a new one… “I’m happy when you’re happy!”

   

To be continued…

*Broken into parts because I have a lot to say. In the interest of keeping these short… This was necessary.

– Godly –
12 July 2015

The BEST Ever! Part 1

  

Let me take you to the beginning for a moment. Not when I was a baby, that’s too far back! I mean just where I’ve been until now…

I spent my childhood in a place where dreams were not everyone’s cup of tea. A suburb in Western Sydney that people now call ‘Struggle Street’.

Let me paint you a little picture… In the U.S.A., you may call it the Bronx (like J-Lo’s song Jenny from the Block), Michelle Pfeiffer made a movie called ‘Dangerous Minds’ which I could relate to, kids in my school were pregnant at 16, when you say you’re from Mt Druitt people say ‘really?’ because they have this stereotype of people from this neck of the woods and overall this area gets a bad name. Hence the recent SBS documentary, cleverly titled ‘Struggle Street’. 

I started working from the Australian legal age of 14 & 9 months at a local Chicken Shop to pay for cigarettes, alcohol, petrol and my Nissan Pulsar ’84. After finishing high school in 2001, I decided to move in with my boyfriend (now husband) and his family and get straight into the workforce. 

I went to school purely to finish my Higher School Certificate and had no intention of going to Uni or studying further. I had no interest in anything in particular back then (except my boyfriend.)

This basic education limited my ability to get a real job because of my lack of any qualification. The only thing I had was my strong work ethic.

This meant I chopped and changed jobs about 12 times. The shortest job was 8 hours. The longest was 6 years. I went from any job known to man that didn’t need a qualification; from the local take away chicken shop, food truck, cafe, retail shopkeeper, receptionist, IT, child care, insurance, debt collection, back to insurance and now a team assistant. Now this is the result of someone who didn’t take their education seriously. [Take note school kids].

But this also made me the person I am today by the jobs I’ve had, experiences in these jobs and more importantly, the people I’ve worked with who helped shape the person I am today! My colleagues and my bosses (who were not always the most supportive) have been my mentors and taught me a lot about life and myself. My colleagues and many are now life long friends were the ones who I shared my thoughts with, who I vent to, share lunches with and we always went shopping together. There weren’t always good people influencing me. Sometimes, I came across people who were no good and even managers and these people made me stronger. I believe that people cross your path for a reason. There is always a reason! Make sure you pay attention to that reason.

That’s my life in a nutshell. My life, my journey, my future will all be revealed in my blog.

Now this brings me to today.

I have strong beliefs and I will voice them if I feel the need. My friends and family, won’t always agree and will set me straight too. If they weren’t my real friends, they would shut their mouth in front of me and laugh behind my back.

Only recently have I discovered my purpose in life and my path. I am now well on my way. I am happier everyday. Appreciating all the blessings in my life.

As you now know, I haven’t always been blessed. I have had some really tough experiences in my life and those will make their way to my blog in time. I’ve got as long as I have left to live, to share with you all. If my time comes too soon – then so be it – but I will die happy.

Recently the world saw the much anticipated fight of the century between Floyd Mayweather and Manny Pacquiao on the 2nd May 2015. I had no real interest in boxing until this point for 2 reasons:

  1. I like Floyd. [More on this in Part 2]
  2. Manny is Filipino and so am I. Although I like to call myself Aussie.

I jumped on the bandwagon and watched the fight because it was gonna be a good fight! 

The reason I was on TMT that day is because of my beliefs. Despite what people said to me before that fight, that day at the pub and to this day as I wear Floyd’s victory jumper; despite all that, I will hold my head up high and stand up for my beliefs.

  
For without that, I wouldn’t be true to myself. I would be hiding under a shell pretending to be something I’m not – and I ain’t doing that! I will take the good with the bad. And this is why I chose Godly’s Corner as my blog name (also thanks to my husband for the suggestion). I chose it because of the boxing analogy. This is me in my blue corner. You (the world) are in the red corner.

Hit me with your best shot!

To be continued…

*Broken into parts because I have a lot to say. In the interest of keeping these short… This was necessary.

– Godly –
1 July 2015